#1819 Windy City Independence - Part 2
In part two, Lindsey returns to discuss how people-pleasing impacts her diabetes management , her fierce independence , dating , and why Scott insists she treats her hypothyroidism.
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Key Takeaways
- The Burden of People-Pleasing: Many people with Type 1 diabetes mask their true numbers or downplay their struggles to avoid upsetting loved ones, which can compound feelings of burnout.
- Accepting Help is Not Weakness: Fierce independence can create unnecessary barriers. Fighting to put a CGM on with a broken arm rather than asking for help is a symptom of a mindset that needs to be reframed.
- Advocate for Your Thyroid Health: Hypothyroidism and Hashimoto's frequently co-occur with T1D. If you have symptoms like brain fog and fatigue, and a TSH over 2.1 (like Lindsey's 4.1), you should firmly ask your doctor about thyroid hormone replacement.
- Live Life on Your Terms: Major life decisions—from attending college to deciding whether or not to have children—should be driven by your own goals and desires, not societal expectations or a desire to please others.
- Podcasting With Purpose: When starting a creative project like a podcast, the best approach is to do it for the love of conversation and documentation, rather than expecting immediate fame or financial success.
Resources Mentioned
- Touched By Type 1: touchedbytype1.org
- Eversense 365: eversensecgm.com/juicebox
- Tandem Diabetes Care (Tandem Mobi): tandemdiabetes.com/juicebox
- US Med: usmed.com/juicebox or call (888) 721-1514
- Juice Cruise 2026: juiceboxpodcast.com/juicecruise
- Juice Box Podcast Episode 413: Thyroid Symptoms Explained
- Juice Box Podcast Private Facebook Group
- Wrong Way Recording: wrongwayrecording.com
Introduction and Sponsors
Scott BennerWelcome back, friends, to another episode of the Juice Box podcast.
LindseyHi. My name's Lindsey, and I've been a type one diabetic for about twelve years now. I'm 25.
Scott BennerThis is part two of a two part episode. Go look at the title. If you don't recognize it, you haven't heard part one yet. It's probably the episode right before this in your podcast player. This episode of the juice box podcast is brought to you by my favorite diabetes organization, touched by type one. Please take a moment to learn more about them at touched by type one dot org on Facebook and Instagram. Touchedbytype1.org. Check out their many programs, their annual conference, awareness campaign, their d box program, dancing for diabetes. They have a dance program for local kids, a golf night, and so much more. Touchedbytype1.org. You're looking to help or you wanna see people helping people with type one, you want touched by type1.org. While you're listening, please remember that nothing you hear on the juice box podcast should be considered advice, medical or otherwise. Always consult a physician before making any changes to your health care plan or becoming bold with insulin. I'm having an on body vibe alert. This episode of the Juice Box podcast is sponsored by Eversense three sixty five, the only one year wear CGM. That's one insertion and one CGM a year. One CGM, one year. Not every ten or fourteen days. Ever since cgm.com/juicebox. Today's episode is also sponsored by Tandem Mobi, the impressively small insulin pump. Tandem Mobi features Tandem's newest algorithm, Control IQ Plus technology. It's designed for greater discretion, more freedom, and improved time and range. Learn more and get started today at tandemdiabetes.com/juicebox. Lindsay's like, listen. It's on my list. Okay?
LindseyIt's on my list. But
The Burden of People-Pleasing
Scott BennerBut it's an interesting insight from you that you knew that your diabetes was making other people uncomfortable.
LindseyAnd not even, like, in a bad way, but, like, for instance, like, another example would be my parents asking me, how's your sugar? How's your sugar? Like, constantly, I would just say good even if it wasn't because I just didn't wanna talk about it. Or I didn't wanna get I didn't want them to be upset if it was too high or if I was run letting it run too high or letting it go too low or if I had too many lows or too many highs. Like, I just
Scott BennerYou didn't wanna let anybody down?
LindseyYeah. I kinda felt like bad numbers were a reflection of me.
Scott BennerAnd that's not language that you've been taught since then. That is how you felt when you were younger?
LindseyYes.
Scott BennerOkay.
LindseyYes.
Scott BennerYou know what I mean by that. Right? Like, sometimes, like, social media can tell you.
LindseyMhmm.
Scott BennerThe one that sticks to me is people with type one diabetes do a 130 extra things. You know, how many memes did we put that on before everybody just agreed that that was true?
LindseyYeah.
Scott BennerBy the way, I'm not saying they don't make a lot of extra decisions. I'm like, where did the number come from?
LindseyRight.
Scott BennerYou know? So, like, yeah, you think more about stuff and it sucks. And it's pretty constant. I watched yesterday was the first day of school for Arden, and I was downstairs doing my things in the kitchen. And she came down on her way to school, and I could see her stopping and looking around the room. And I didn't say, can I help you or something I can help you with? I just watched her, I realized, like, she was, like she was looking at different things around the room. She's like, do I have juice boxes with me? Do I have low snacks with me? Am I gonna need my an insulin pump change, am I gonna be back soon? Like, I could see her doing all that math before she left the house. And then she grabbed food. I watched her grab a banana. She clearly didn't want. She just grabbed it because I think she was like, I should have this with me. So I'm not saying you don't do a 130 more decisions a day. I'm just saying it's interesting that some one time somebody said they counted them up, and then suddenly everybody agreed on the same thing. Right. And I've seen that happen with other stuff too. So I asked, is that actually your experience, or is it something you that somebody's told you you're experiencing?
LindseyRight.
Scott BennerYeah. Yeah. Well, this is interesting. So the people around you are worried for you. The more attention you draw to it, the more worried you are, the more they speak to you, the more you realize you don't wanna talk about this, the more you're getting attention for things you don't want attention for. Yes. This is gonna be a strange thing. But taking how you feel out of it for a second, those people are still now in a orbit with you. Right? Like, so how can they more thoughtfully take their concern for you and make it actionable without it impacting you that way, or is there just no way for them to accomplish that?
LindseyYou know, I've had this discussion so many times with my parents and, like, my doctor because we had we've talked about it before, this problem that I hate the nagging or constantly, oh, how's your sugar? What's this? What whatever. So when I got my Dexcom and they were able to read my blood sugars, it was phenomenal because they didn't have to ask me anymore. They just looked at my graphs. And I loved that, but also kind of hated it because then they had the access to view it all the time. And if, say, my sugars were high, they were constantly nagging me like, you need to bring your sugar down, or would you eat, or why is it high, or oh, hey. Your sugar's going low. Like, I already don't know.
Scott BennerYeah. This is interesting. So that you fix one problem, but it just reveals a different issue for you.
LindseyYeah. I think, like, my issue is I don't like being told what to do, and I think it all comes down to, like, being in control of my life and, like, proving that I can do this on my own and I can take care of myself. And although, like, my parents and friends, they love me and they just care for me, and that's what they're doing. It's all out of love and care. Yeah. But to me, it would just, for some reason, annoy me. I don't know why, but it would trigger me anytime someone would ask me about my blood sugar or how are you doing with your diabetes. I don't know why. Yeah. And even still to this day, I still kinda like
Scott BennerThat was my next question. You still feel like that now?
LindseyKind of. Like, there'll be a couple times, and I don't know if it's because I think, oh, are they asking me because they think I'm not doing okay? Like, I don't know. I don't know where it comes from, but I still do.
Scott BennerListen. You and my daughter can start a band because no matter what happens, I think that's her initial feeling of, like, why are you insinuating that I can't do this on my own? Yes. She'll say something to me sometimes where, like, I can handle this. And I'm, I stop and I think to myself, like, no one insinuated that you can't handle this. And more importantly, I don't think you can handle it. Like so that feeling right there is just very universal for people. Yes. Like, you know, because I'm certainly I'm well aware of my daughter's ability to take care of herself. And I think she's an incredibly intelligent, thoughtful person who doesn't need my help at all. And so if in the course of a day you know, I'll tell you a great example. It's like we were I think we were all up I was upstairs. She was upstairs, but I think I was cleaning my room and she was cleaning her room. And I could hear I heard a beeping. I was like, oh, she's gonna get low. And I just knew that because we had eaten a few hours before, and then she went into a lot of activity and, like, was doing laundry and running around, and that classically kinda makes her low. And I needed something from downstairs. So I hear the beeping. I walk over to her and I say, hey. I gotta run downstairs for a second. Do you want me to grab you anything while I'm down there? She doesn't even, look at me. She's like, dad, I can take care of myself. And I was like, okay. So I stopped her and I said, I know you can. I was not saying you couldn't. I heard the beeping, and I'm on my way downstairs and I thought you might need something from downstairs. Let me ask. I said, this isn't me taking care of you. This is just a a well timed kindness. You know? And I said, so please please know I I believe you can take care of yourself. I I don't doubt that at all. That's not why I asked. And then I did not get the thing for her, which, by the way, she needed. And then five minutes later, she was downstairs looking for The me being right about that's not the point. Right? Like, the point is is that I don't want her to feel that way. But trust me, I was not coming at her from, like, hey. Let me get you a snack because you screwed this up and you're low now and what you know, like, it wasn't like that, but I bet you that's how it felt.
LindseyI I think it all comes down I don't know if it's the same for your daughter, but for me, I struggle with asking for help even if I need help. So me being the independent person I am, it's like I don't ever wanna ask for help even if I need it. So whenever someone is, like, trying to help, it's almost like I'm like, oh, you don't think I can do it? Or
The Struggle to Ask for Help
Scott BennerHere's my question. Do you know that's ridiculous?
LindseyYes. I do.
Scott BennerOkay. And how old are you?
LindseyI'm 25.
Scott BennerHow long do you expect to live?
LindseyHopefully, you know.
Scott BennerSixty more years, seventy more years. Right? Why can't we stop? Look at me putting this on you. You're 25. I'm like, here, answer the world's problems for me. But why can't you just understand that and stop? Just stop. Why can't I stop the things I can't stop? Why can't you stop, like
LindseyIt's a mental game. It's a mental thing, and I don't know why. I have always been this way. It's not even just diabetes. It could be as little as, like, I will struggle so hard opening something or doing something before I actually ask for help or before someone comes and helps me. Or, like, for instance, I recently broke my arm. Okay?
Scott BennerOkay.
LindseyAnd having a broken arm, I struggled to put my Dexcoms on.
Scott BennerFair.
LindseySo in this instance, I had to ask help from my mom to put my Dexcom on, and I hated it because, one, she hasn't put a Dexcom on my body in I don't know how many years. So one, I'm gonna have to teach her, and I know she's gonna get stressed out about it. Two, I'm asking for help, and then deep down inside, I'm like, well, is there a way I can try to figure out how to do it, like, by myself? And I try to it's like, I'm making it harder for myself when I could literally just tell my mom how to do it, and she could help me and just do it in the future. But
Scott BennerMy grandmother would say, why are you making a mountain out of a molehill?
LindseyExactly.
Scott BennerYes. Yes.
LindseyYeah. I don't know. Yeah. So for instance, just the other day, she came over because my arm is still broken. However, my arm is almost fully healed. I have about, like, a week or two left of my cast. And I've had my cast off after the shower because I I'm to the stage where I could take my cast off
Scott BennerOkay.
LindseyIn the shower. So I had it off for a little bit, knew I was gonna put my Dexcom on, and she was over. And she was like, okay. I'm gonna help you do your Dexcom. For some reason, because she was busy doing something, I was like, you know what? I'm just gonna figure out how to do it. So I do it did it on my other arm, and I figured out how to do it without my cast.
Scott BennerWhat else are you a pain in the ass about, Lindsay?
LindseyYou know what? Maybe you need to get my parents on here. They could tell you.
Scott BennerBut that's it's just interesting example of, like, you did not need to make a barrier for yourself there.
LindseyRight. Yeah.
Scott BennerAnd not only did you do it, it sounds like you were aware that you were doing it while you were doing it.
LindseyI was. And I was like, you know what? But, like, I like to prove to myself too that I can do things. So, like, me, like, putting my Dexcom on, I was like, oh. And I walked out and she's like, what? How'd you put that on your arm? And I was like, I did it myself. And she was like, I I woulda helped you.
Scott BennerLike, you're eight. But don't you know you're a capable person?
LindseyYes.
Scott BennerWhy do you have to keep proving it to yourself?
LindseyI don't know. That that's what I'm trying to figure out too. It's you know, like, see, this is the therapy I need to get into, like, figuring out all my deeper wounds and, like, why I think the way
Scott BennerI do. Don't you find people interesting?
LindseyThey are so interesting.
Scott BennerIf I didn't find everyone so interesting, I don't even think I can make the podcast anymore. Right. I know that some people will find this to be a minutiae, but I am fascinated by this aspect of you. Right? Like, you figured a thing out already. Move on. Yeah. But you're not going to.
LindseyI know. I will I it's not that I'm not trying because there are
Scott BennerWell, I didn't say you weren't trying. I'm saying you're not going to.
LindseyNot necessarily. I'm I'm gonna try. I'm gonna try to be better.
Scott BennerBut I don't think you even need to be better. I think you know what this falls under for me? The category of often, the best thing to do is nothing. Like, you're over managing something that doesn't need attention. Yeah. Your mom's there. You're taking a shower. She's here to help. Awesome. Right? Yeah. Okay. But then what happens? I can do it myself. I don't need help. I don't need anybody. I'm okay. All those feelings. Yeah. The world thinks I can't, but I can.
LindseyYep.
Scott BennerI'm smart. I'm not stupid like everybody says. Is that a line from a movie? I forget what that is. A very old movie if it is. Like, right like, so there's you know, do you ever listen to me talk to Erica?
LindseyI don't know. I'll be honest.
Scott BennerIt's mental health stuff. Right?
LindseyOh, yeah.
Scott BennerShe's a therapist, and, like, she'll explain something and she gets done and often I wanna say, so there's no getting out of this? We're all just just stuck in this the way our brains work and everything.
LindseyMaybe I need to talk to her.
Scott BennerI if I was you, would just stop. I would write on a sticky note, stop, and then hold it in my hand.
LindseyGot it. Just stick it to my forehead and look in the mirror every day.
Scott BennerEvery time you go to do something and you're like, I shouldn't be doing this, you go, oh, yeah. I should stop.
LindseyYeah.
Scott BennerIf it was that easy. You know? Right. So, anyway, thirty five minutes later. So you experienced burnout?
LindseyYes. I experienced burnout, and I still do. And I think it's a like, it's because of this, because I don't ask for help, I try to just do everything myself, which, I mean, like I said, not that I'm not capable and not that I can't do it by myself, but there's certain things in certain moments in diabetes that, you know, it's okay to get help or, you know, it's okay to be burned out from the everyday things that you do.
Scott BennerYeah. Of course. But are you explaining that to me or talking yourself into believing it?
LindseyShoot. I mean, kind of
Scott BennerWhile you're keeping that in your head. Because you have maybe a half a dozen times said that people need help sometimes. But you preface it each time by telling me that it's not that I can't do it myself. Who told you you can't do things?
LindseyI don't know. That's I don't know.
Scott BennerWhat happened that makes you so confused and able to accept the fact that you're a capable person?
LindseyYeah. I I really don't know. I'll be honest. I have no idea where I got, like, this mindset.
Scott BennerIn this conversation, do you know that you've prefaced that so many times?
LindseyYeah. Now now after you've said that to me.
Scott BennerEvery time you stop yourself and you go, it's not that I can't. It's not that I don't know how, but it's okay to accept help. I'm like, who are you talking into this exactly? I don't know.
LindseyI don't know. Now that you say that, now I realize it, but I didn't even know I doing that.
Scott BennerYou're fine. You're lovely. I've seen you. I've seen a picture of you. You're a lovely person. Accept all that and move forward. Yeah. Yeah. I could save you ten years of pain.
LindseyYou're right.
Life Goals and Career Paths
Scott BennerYeah. Because you don't wanna know what's gonna happen? What? Eventually, you're gonna meet a boy you can somewhat tolerate. Okay? And then you're gonna let him have a baby with you. Okay?
LindseyI don't know about that.
Scott BennerTrust me, Lindsay. It's coming.
LindseyI don't know about that.
Scott BennerAnd then you get this kid, and then you're gonna realize that you're wasting all this time on this, and you need to focus on that kid. And then you're just gonna let it all go. And then you're just gonna move forward. I'm telling you, move forward now and enjoy this time, and don't have to make a baby with a boy you can only tolerate to get to it. Just do it now. Live like Valerie, Valerie Harper in that television program, 70. Just be by yourself and wonderful with you and your girlfriends. Yeah. It's gonna be awesome. What are your goals? 25 is an interesting age. Are you out of school? Did you go to school? Are you working? What are you trying to accomplish? Let's talk about the Tandem Mobi insulin pump from today's sponsor, Tandem Diabetes Care. Their newest algorithm, Control IQ Plus technology and the new Tandem Mobi pump offer you unique opportunities to have better control. It's the only system with auto bolus that helps with missed meals and preventing hyperglycemia, the only system with a dedicated sleep setting, and the only system with off or on body wear options. Tandem Mobi gives you more discretion, freedom, and options for how to manage your diabetes. This is their best algorithm ever, and they'd like you to check it out at tandemdiabetes.com/juicebox. When you get to my link, you're going to see integrations with Dexcom sensors and a ton of other information that's gonna help you learn about Tandem's tiny pump that's big on control. Tandemdiabetes.com/juicebox. The Tandem Mobi system is available for people ages two and up who want an automated delivery system to help them sleep better, wake up in range, and address high blood sugars with auto bolus. When you think of a CGM and all the good that it brings in your life, is the first thing you think about, I love that I have to change it all the time? I love the warm up period every time I have to change it. I love that when I bump into a door frame, sometimes it gets ripped off. I love that the adhesive kinda gets mushy sometimes when I sweat and falls off. No. These are not the things that you love about a CGM. Today's episode of the Juice Box podcast is sponsored by the Eversense three sixty five, the only CGM that you only have to put on once a year and the only CGM that won't give you any of those problems. The Eversense three sixty five is the only one year CGM designed to minimize device frustration. It has exceptional accuracy for one year with almost no false alarms from compression lows while you're sleeping. You can manage your diabetes instead of your CGM with the Eversense three sixty five. Learn more and get started today at eversincecgm.com/juicebox. One year, one CGM.
LindseyI'm out of school. I did go to college after my associate's degree to, like, a university. I was at community college, went to university for a little bit. Then when COVID happened, I decided to drop out during that. I became a bartender server. Now I currently bartend at a sushi and martini lounge that I absolutely love.
Scott BennerAwesome.
LindseyAnd, basically, my goals in life, I just want to live life to the fullest, travel everywhere. Like, that is one of my biggest goals is I want to travel everywhere.
Scott BennerOkay.
LindseyI want to go see everything, do everything. I'm always just interested in trying new things. Goals, you know, this is one of my goals is starting my own podcast because I think it would be so much fun.
Scott BennerOh, you think so? I'll explain that to you in a minute. Go ahead.
LindseyBut, yeah, like, podcast, just, you know, being happy in life. I'd love to move up in my bartending career and maybe become a mixologist of some sort. I'm looking to make a move to Chicago very soon. So, hopefully, I can learn more once I move to the big city.
Scott BennerSo Look at you. You're gonna get off the farm?
LindseyYeah. Basically. I mean, I'm not where I live is just very small town, and I've been here way too long. I'm I just need to experience a change.
Scott BennerIs it more Northern Michigan?
LindseyYeah. I'm, like, in the middle. So, like, Mount Pleasant.
Scott BennerI've heard people from there com complain about it.
LindseyYeah.
Scott BennerYeah. I've also heard people complain about the Southern part of Delaware, the center part of Pennsylvania, the Western part. People complain about wherever they're from. And and, you know, and everybody thinks that, like, you know, a city center is gonna be a big change for you. Maybe it will be. That's lovely. When you went to college, did you go because you wanted to go or because somebody told you you should?
LindseyKind of both. I thought I knew what I wanted to do, and then I I realized I did not know what I wanted to do once I was taking classes. I was going for psychology, and then I wanted to become a psychiatrist. So I thought, Later on, realized, no. I don't wanna do this. However, before I went, I did think I wanted to go, but I was going because it's just the thing to do. It's the thing that everyone's doing after high school. It's the right thing. It's the thing that's gonna make people proud of you.
Scott BennerMhmm. Oh, so you thought people expected you to do it and you wanted them to be happy again?
LindseyYeah.
Scott BennerAre you a people pleaser in general?
LindseyI am. It's something I'm working on.
Scott BennerHow do you work on that?
LindseyJust really thinking before I agree to things or say yes to things. I try to really like, the hardest thing that I deal with as a people pleaser is making time for myself instead of spreading my time thin with Mhmm. All the people I love. That's what I suck at.
Scott BennerNo. Is it possible having diabetes turned you into a people pleaser, or do you think that's always how you are?
LindseyI think I've always been this way.
Scott BennerOkay. Wanna hear something interesting? Yeah. If a 100 students started college today, 62 would finish on time. That's within six years. Sixty two percent. Three percent will finish late in the six to eight year realm. Thirty five percent never finish college. That's a pretty big number. Thirty five percent. Yeah. I wonder if a hundred percent of those thirty five percent would later say to themselves, I never really want like, if they'd start describing it the way you are. Like, oh, I went because I thought I should or, yeah, I was trying to make somebody happier, like, that kind of a thing. Yeah. Because you don't have any world domination goals. It doesn't sound like you want a whole big pile of money. You're not looking for
LindseyNo. Yeah.
Scott BennerYou'd like to see the world, enjoy your life. Yeah. And you love being a bartender.
LindseyI do.
Scott BennerYeah. And the good news
LindseyEnjoy it.
Scott BennerYou know the good news about that? What? The bartender never gets killed.
LindseyHey.
Scott BennerHave you ever seen Desperado?
LindseyI have. Yes.
Scott BennerDamn. Right? And what is Cheech Maringrave? He goes, the bartender never gets killed. And then they they eventually kill him. So, I I guess it's not a hard and fast rule. But why do you love it so much?
LindseyI love it because I get to come into work and talk to people and hear other people's stories. I get to know people. It's a social job. I could never do a job where I'm sitting at a desk or just looking at a screen all day. I need to be up and active and talking to people. And not only that, like, that's just, like, the service part, but, like, making drinks and just getting to be creative, that's always fun. I love anytime a job allows you to be creative. So that's what I really enjoy. The two things that I enjoy most about bartending.
Dating, Relationships, and Independence
Scott BennerWonderful. I'm glad you found something you like so much. Why did you so, effortlessly say, I'm not letting a boy near my baby maker? What is it? You don't like the kids?
LindseyI just I don't have any goals of having kids, if I'm being completely honest.
Scott BennerBecause they suck. Why? Because.
LindseyThey just I don't know. I I guess this is another thing, like, you know, I can barely take care of myself. I don't know how I would take care of another human being.
Scott BennerWhat if you get married and that boy really wants a baby and your people pleaser, like, snaps in and you're like, oh, I mean, he I mean, he does like, he lives here too and he does really want a baby. Like, what happens if that happens? Will you be able to be like, no?
LindseyI have thought about it. Well, only because, like, it is a thing. Like, it's a deal breaker these days. Like, people wanna start families.
Scott BennerYeah.
LindseyI'm 25. You know? There's men my age who are like, alright. I'm ready to settle down and start a family. And then there's others that maybe they don't want a family or they're still figuring it out. But I have always thought, like, oh, I don't want kids. But then I start to think, okay. What if the right person came, and what if I wanted a mini me and a mini him? Like, that'd be so cute, and I would love that. But then when I think of all of the things that come with parenthood, I start to be like, ugh. I don't know. I still I don't think I want it that bad.
Scott BennerIt's wonderful and horrible at the same time, Lindsay.
LindseyYeah.
Scott BennerYeah. Yeah. Who knows? Just be careful because sometimes those hormones, they start hitting you the wrong way. And before you know it, you're doing stuff you didn't even expect to
Lindseydo. Right.
Scott BennerHave you heard those stories about the women who marry guys while they're on birth control, but then go off birth control to learn they didn't like the guy?
LindseyYeah. A little bit.
Scott BennerYeah. Look into it.
LindseyOkay.
Scott BennerYour hormones get a little wonky and tell you what you want. The pill tells your body you're pregnant, and then you start looking for, like, big burly can kill a moose guy.
LindseyYeah.
Scott BennerRight? And then when you're off the thing and you're not pregnant, you realize I don't really like big burly can kill a moose guy jumping in this coal plunge guy. Yeah. I it's not what I was really looking for. Apparently, that happens.
LindseyYeah. You know, I have heard of it, but I should look into it more.
Scott BennerI would. Be careful.
LindseyIt's so funny. Yeah. Yeah. I actually just recently decided to be off birth control. So, like, that that this is I should look it up.
Scott BennerPay attention to what's happening to you. Yeah. I'm only living in this house because my wife got confused and thought she wanted a baby. Thank god. I'd be out of the street. You know what I mean? She would have looked at me like and been like, why am I dating this idiot? And like yeah. But now she got fooled. So Yeah. That's her mistake. Now, and now I have a house.
LindseyYes.
Scott BennerFool me once. Shame on me. Fool me. Can't get fooled again. Too late, though, now. Okay. Alright. So be careful with all that. I like your plan. Are you gonna be by yourself? Are you dating someone?
LindseyI currently am not dating. Mhmm. But I've been single for going on five years now. So I've been single for quite some time.
Scott BennerOn purpose?
LindseyYeah. Actually, yes.
Scott BennerI don't understand your whole generation. Explain it to me.
LindseyFor me, currently, it's not that I'm opposed to getting into a relationship. I will definitely get into the relationship with the right person.
Scott BennerMhmm.
LindseyBut I'm not going to settle for less than I want, and I'm not gonna force a connection if it's not there.
Scott BennerSure.
LindseyI've definitely talked and dated around in these past five years, but just, you know, relationships, things happen and
Scott BennerWhat about the fun parts?
LindseyWhat about The fun parts?
Scott BennerWhat about 01:30AM in a grocery store holding a pint of Ben and Jerry's? You've just had sex three times. You're in a pair of sweatpants, and you're just, like, couldn't go to sleep. So you and him are in the grocery store looking for ice cream.
LindseyNo. You know, that's great. And you have those connections with people, and then sometimes they just end up saying, oh, yeah. That was casual, and I don't want you like that.
Scott BennerIs the cell phone ruining personal relationships? Is the feeling, Lindsay, that I don't have to persevere through real relationship ideas with this person because I can just go find another person, go back to the fun part at the beginning? Do you think that exists because it's simple?
LindseyFor some people, yes. For some people, no.
Scott BennerYeah.
LindseyBecause I do know a lot of people who kind of go through that phase of, like, they're with a person, realize, well, I know I can be with somebody else and just do this all over again and just keep repeating it and, like, it's a cycle, and they go through relationships like
Scott BennerIt's like digital divorce, I think.
LindseyYeah.
Scott BennerYeah. By the way, not that some people shouldn't get divorced. I'm not saying that. But I do sometimes think some people are like, oh, I wanna do the fun part again.
LindseyRight. Yeah. No. I I definitely think that is true, and I think that's valid. However
Scott BennerYou would like a nice relationship, but you just
LindseyI would love a relationship, especially after being single. Like, don't get me wrong. I'm like I said, I'm in independent. So, like, I love my independence.
Scott BennerThere's a new girl in town. Go ahead. Lindsay, tell them. I
Lindseylove my independence, but there's times where I'm like, dang. It would really be nice if I could just have someone here with me hanging out all the time or, you know, I wish I had my person to talk to every single day. Like, I hate the dating apps. I hate the constant meeting someone online or talking to someone online for a little bit and then then just disappearing and then you forget who they even are or how you even have their number in your phone.
Scott BennerWho is this?
LindseyYeah. That's happened a lot.
Scott BennerBoy, I let touch my arm three months ago. It's in the phone book right there. Now I just I can't imagine the whole thing seems terrible.
LindseyIt does. I don't know. I really do feel like this generation, it's hard because everyone is like, well, is there better out there? Can I have better? Like, settling comes to a certain, like, fine line. Are you settling for, like, less than what you deserve and you know that there's more out there, or are you not settling because you just think your perfect person is going to come that matches all of
Scott BennerAnd then that never happens, and then one day it's just you and the cats and cancer. I hear what you're saying.
LindseyYeah. And it's tough because you want to believe, oh, like, my person's out there, And, yeah, they don't need to be perfect. They don't have to have everything on the list.
Scott BennerCan I tell you something? I believe my wife is my soulmate. I also believe there's probably a thousand other ladies out there I could feel that way about.
LindseyTrue. Yeah.
Scott BennerThis is no disrespect to my wife. I'm sure she would say the same thing about me. I'm saying, like, there are other people I've met through my life that I could see my life having gone well with that person too, but something comes up or, you know, it doesn't work out quite right. Just I don't think there's just one person. And I do think that in a world where I could pick my phone up right now and order the silliest thing and it show up at my house, like, without resistance, it'll just be there. I do think that people are willing to believe that there's better coming, and you don't wanna settle because better is coming. Yeah. And I do really think that could make time go by quickly. Yeah. Because I don't think I'm not perfect, and I don't think my wife would tell you that I am. And I'm sure she was with boys or new men before me that, like, she could probably look back now and go, I probably should have given that one a shot instead, and I could tell you the same thing. But, like, that doesn't make my life invalid Mhmm. Or what we did a waste of time. It's so it's wonderful. It's beautiful. You know what I mean? Like, I just think if you guys are waiting for the exact right thing, I think you're out of your mind. I don't think that exists.
LindseyRight. No. I totally agree with that, and I don't. And I don't think there's anybody who's perfect or who's gonna match up to my perfect list of Yeah. Traits that I want in someone. However
Scott BennerYou don't wanna be involved with a bunch of boys who are just gonna jump on you three times and then be like, alright. I'm gonna go do it with somebody else now.
LindseyExactly. And I feel like that's a lot of what's going on
Scott BennerMhmm.
LindseyNow and at my age. However, another thing, I'll be honest, that's another reason why I am so excited to move to a different city. I feel like I know everybody in my small town. Oh. Either I know somebody that's dated them already or slept with them or I've already talked to them and it's already not worked out or whatever. Like, the town is so small that, like, I'm just ready to see and meet new people.
Scott BennerYeah. So You wanna find a bigger pond efficient.
LindseyYeah. Yeah. For sure.
Scott BennerAnd is the job kind of anticlimactic for people? Because a lot of people in a bar situation are looking to hook up. They're not looking to
LindseyYeah. That's where it does get tough. Being a bartender, you meet so many people. But the type of bartending I do, I usually stick to the more, like, classy restaurants, not like the dive bars, but more like fine dining. So most people are going on dates at my bar. They're not really looking.
Scott BennerThey're not leaning across the bar going, hey.
LindseyYeah. Me
Scott Benneryour name. I gotcha. Yep. A lot of problems. Not a lot of answers. You live by yourself?
LindseyI actually live with my sister.
Scott BennerOh. Oh, that's nice. How many other brothers and or sisters do you have?
LindseySo I have two sisters, one twenty three, one that just turned 16, and then I have a younger brother who's about to be 19.
Uncovering Hypothyroidism
Scott BennerWow. Anybody else have autoimmune issues? Type one diabetes, celiac, thyroid?
LindseyNo. Not at all. Nothing?
Scott BennerNothing.
LindseyI will say my father has some thyroid issues, but nothing like
Scott BennerWhat's that mean? Is he moody?
LindseyNo. No. It sounds bad, but I just know he takes a pill for his hypothyroidism.
Scott BennerOkay. So he has Hashimoto's?
LindseyI don't know. I I mean, I assume.
Scott BennerHow often do you guys speak? Do you know each other by first name?
LindseyWe talk a lot. Like, we see each other a lot, but it's bad that, like, I guess I've never really asked him about that. I will say, they told me I have Hashimoto's, but yet I don't take any medication
Scott Bennerfor it. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. First of all, it's not bad that you and your dad don't talk about what a great opportunity for you to get to know each other better. And secondly, you have Hashimoto's, but why don't they have the medication? Do you not have any symptoms? It's Do you wanna go over the symptoms? Do you are you tired even though you've slept?
LindseyI mean, yeah. I think I do have symptoms, but it's weird because I had markers for it on, like, lab results, like, years ago. And then all of a sudden, I didn't.
Scott BennerYour hair falling out?
LindseyI it's occasional. It's not all the time.
Scott BennerDry skin?
LindseyYes.
Scott BennerMhmm. Do you have trouble losing weight?
LindseyYes.
Scott BennerMhmm. Do you need me to keep talking, or do you wanna go get your thyroid checked out?
LindseyI guess, that's what I should do next up.
Scott BennerWhat was your TSH the last time it was checked?
LindseyYou know, if I looked, I could probably look and tell you right now.
Scott BennerDo I need to do this with everybody on the planet? Listen to me. I I'm gonna say it out loud. If your TSH is over 2.1, 2.2, and you have symptoms, those symptoms are listed anywhere, ask the Internet, you probably require a thyroid replacement hormone. It's a tiny little pill you would take in the morning when you wake up, but it's not difficult. It will change your life and make things better.
LindseyYeah.
Scott BennerYes. Are you moody? Do you ever have brain fog?
LindseyBrain fog? Definitely.
Scott BennerOkay. Okay. I I gotta stop doing this with you people. I I I I I can't be in charge of everybody. Okay, Lindsay? You gotta get out there and help yourselves once in a while. Alright. Go to your person, whatever the doctor is. I don't know what you use, endocrinology, and tell them you have these symptoms. List your symptoms. Don't let me tell you what your symptoms are. Okay? You list your symptoms and then ask to have some blood work done. And if your TSH is over, like, 2.1, 2.2, tell them, but still in range. Say, I appreciate that my labs are in range, but I'm having a lot of hypothyroid symptoms. My father has hypothyroidism. You've told me I have Hashimoto's. I already have an autoimmune issue called type one diabetes. Let's try that Synthroid. Run that up the flagpole one time, see who salutes. Get in there.
LindseyI'm so glad we're talking about this because I just pulled it up on my chart. And?
Scott BennerAnd it says the last time, it was 4.1 What is going on? What kind of a witch doctor do you see? I see the Did no one know what the hell is going on? I can't be everywhere, Lindsay. I can't. I can't. I'm trying, but I can't. Okay? Immediately, call your doctor, refer to the lab, tell them the things, tell them you want the Synthroid, tell them to base the first dose on your weight, whatever they do there in their little doctor's office with their calculator, and most of your symptoms are gonna go away.
LindseyOkay.
Scott BennerWeeks to months.
LindseyAlright.
Scott BennerI love this for you.
LindseyYeah. I love this for me too because wow.
Scott BennerYeah. Because who needs all that? Yeah. Like, I thyroid symptoms explained. May I? Extreme fatigue, weight gain, cold sensitivity, constipation. Do you have any of those?
LindseyYes.
Scott BennerExcellent. Dry skin or hair, puffy face, hair loss, hoarseness. Oh, do you have a hoarse voice?
LindseyI don't know.
Scott BennerLindsay, you do. Okay. Muscle weakness. Do you feel weak particularly in your upper arms or thighs?
LindseyNot not necessarily.
Scott BennerYou don't have to have them all. Brain fog, depression, low mood, apathy, lack of interest in activities.
LindseyYeah. Some of those. Yeah.
Scott BennerMhmm. Menstrual change is heavier than normal, irregular periods. Yes. Slow heart rate, joint and muscle pain. Okay. That's okay. Again, you don't have to have them all. That's it. I'm telling you, my god, please.
LindseyThank you so much.
Scott BennerAlright. Episode four thirteen of the podcast if you wanna be talked into it by a physician and not by a guy who has a podcast. Okay? Okay. Alright. Last thing. I I I'm gonna try to be, supportive here. Okay? Mhmm. What did you mean you wanna have a podcast?
Starting a Podcast
LindseyI love talking. I just love talking to people. And I do have a lot of just life stories. Mhmm. And I know a lot of people in my life who have a lot of funny, cool, awesome stories that I just would love to share and just post it somewhere. Not even, like, for other people, but just, like, even for my own friend group. Like, just to us to get it out, talk, or just have it recorded somewhere. Like, I've always thought that'd be so awesome.
Scott BennerI like this idea for you. You see, you're not telling me you wanna quit your job and have a podcast.
LindseyOh, no. Okay. Definitely not quit my job, but I definitely think I should take more out of my day or time block to actually start a podcast because I've been saying it for years. Oh, I think it'd be so fun. I would love to do it. And now that I'm actually talking with you, I'm like, oh my gosh. I could I could actually see myself doing this.
Scott BennerObviously, you're doing great. You're fantastic. And so yeah. So what do you need? You need a microphone? You need a computer? You need a hard drive? That's pretty much it.
LindseyAnd Alright. Good to know.
Scott BennerYou could definitely do it. May I give you my angle for you?
LindseyYes, please.
Scott BennerPeople you met at the bar. Right?
LindseyYes. Yeah.
Scott BennerYou sit down and you talk about people you met at the bar. You have a conversation with those people. Yes. That's a great way to, you know, find a niche.
LindseyAnd Yeah. That would be so fun, actually.
Scott BennerOf Of course. Don't get caught up in you and your friends are so interesting. You're not that interesting. Right. Okay? Keep that in mind. I'll give you a couple little pieces of advice. Nice clean audio is very important. Okay? Nobody's listening to your garbly like somebody's like sounds like they're across the room yelling into a pot. It doesn't need to be video. Okay? If you find it easier to do it that way, no problem, but then you're gonna feel pressured to light it well and it'll look good. And the truth is is ain't nobody looking that much, so don't worry about it. Audio is fine. Okay?
LindseyGot it.
Scott BennerAlright. You're not as interesting as you think you are. I am not as interesting as I think I am, and other people are definitely not as interesting as they think they are. So when you get bored while you're talking, pivot. Okay? Don't let somebody go on and on and on. If you're getting bored, then the audience is getting bored. Makes sense?
LindseyGot it.
Scott BennerYeah. Alright. Ask open ended questions. Let people talk. Have opinions. Don't be embarrassed by your opinions, and just share how you feel. And hopefully, people will enjoy it. And if they do, it'll grow. And if they don't, you'll stop doing it. And if it's just for a small group of people, then right on. Like, that would be cool too. It might be interesting for you, like, to pick a small group of people, interview all of them, and then come back again and expand your conversation with them and see if you could learn. There's so many different things you could do. I love this idea for you.
LindseyThank you. I appreciate your advice.
Scott BennerOh, please. Yeah. Here's the part you don't wanna hear. It's impossible to start a successful podcast. You're not gonna make any money. And, if you keep those things in mind, think you'd have a great time with it. Yeah. It's random that it becomes popular. You can't make it popular is what I'm saying.
LindseyRight.
Scott BennerAlright? And if it does, then it's just a happy accident.
LindseyYeah. And honestly, that's kind of like my whole goal with it is honestly I don't think I would really hope it blows up. Like, cool if it did, that'd be awesome. But if it doesn't, I think it just would be good to just talk and just know that I'm sharing my stories with whoever wants to watch or listen.
Scott BennerThen I think you have the perfect attitude for this.
LindseyThank you.
Scott BennerSeriously, I was afraid you were gonna tell me like, Scott, let me tell you something. I am gonna start this thing up, probably be making $510,000,000 a year in no time. And, you know, I'll probably be pushing out bigger names in the podcast industry. This, call me daddy girl. She'll be gone.
LindseyAlright.
Scott BennerI'll run her right over. No. You there are people in your generation who think they're going to be influencers.
LindseyRight.
Scott BennerThey actually think that's a job. Yep. Yep. That's so silly.
LindseyUnfortunately, it's not.
Scott BennerYou're all gonna end up on OnlyFans. Just stop it.
LindseyOh, no.
Scott BennerNo. And and, Lindsay, we don't want that for you.
LindseyYeah. No. Definitely not.
Outro and Final Thoughts
Scott BennerAlright. Listen. You're awesome. I want you to remember something.
LindseyOkay.
Scott BennerYou're a capable person. You don't need to talk yourself into it over and over again. Okay? Okay. We do things for us, not for other people. Right? So you don't have to make anybody happy. Just live your life.
LindseyMhmm.
Scott BennerYou don't get a lab value of a four. Have somebody tell you of hypothyroidism. Have a bunch of hypothyroidism symptoms and then not do anything about it. That's not okay.
LindseyNot okay.
Scott BennerWhat else are you ignoring in your life?
LindseyProbably my laundry right now, if I'm being so real.
Scott BennerGet right on it. And here and let me talk to boys your age for a second. This Lindsey chick is cool. Do you hear her? You'll be lucky to get this girl to to have a a meal with you. Stop running around trying to have sex with everybody all the time. Maybe get to know somebody, you bunch of idiots. There. That's what I got for those boys.
LindseyI love that. Yeah. My future like, when I go on a date, I'm gonna play that before we go on dates now.
Scott BennerListen, dumbass. You'll be nice. You'll see them, but calm down. Okay? That's how you start, Lindsay. You can tell if they don't get to see them right away just because we drove somewhere. That's not how it works. Okay? Right. Yeah. You'll be nice and real, and I'm nice and real, we have a little connection, and then yeah. Okay. And then, by the way, the first time I bring something up you don't like, it'd be nice if you didn't ghost me. Okay? Like, because you already said six things I don't like about you and I'm still sitting here. Tell them that
Lindseytoo. Yes.
Scott BennerAlright. Lindsay, God bless you. I don't know what's gonna happen.
LindseyYeah. Who knows? You know what? I'm just along for the ride. It was crazy awesomely.
Scott BennerWhat a great attitude. I love you. You're awesome.
LindseyUh-uh. I love you too.
Scott BennerSeriously, I'd introduce you to my son. The two of you would definitely have a baby with diabetes, so I'd be trying to avoid that. Okay? Alright.
LindseyWell, you know what? If your son's cute, give him my number.
Scott BennerListen. You guys are about the same age, and the the ladies do seem to find him attractive.
LindseyOkay. Well Yeah. Yeah. You know what? You might have to email me right after this podcast.
Scott BennerHe's got a good job, Lindsay.
LindseyShoot. What does he do?
Scott BennerI don't wanna say.
LindseyYeah. No. Understandable.
Scott BennerHe's a data engineer. Like, he's a, like, a reliable person.
LindseyOkay. Dang. Now you're gonna start, a speed dating thing on your podcast for your son.
Scott BennerI have to tell you something, though. I don't know. Like, there are, I wanna be vague because this is his personal life, but the very specific kinds of people are attracted to my son.
LindseyOkay. Yeah. What are those specific people?
Scott BennerI don't feel like that's my place to share that.
LindseyOh, okay. Okay.
Scott BennerYeah. I'll tell you when we shut the microphone off.
LindseyYeah. That sounds good.
Scott BennerSay goodbye to the people. You'll find out right now.
LindseyGoodbye.
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