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#835 The Kookaburra Laughs

Anne's son has type 1 diabetes and more.

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Scott Benner 0:00
Hello friends, and welcome to episode 835 of the Juicebox Podcast.

On today's episode, we'll be speaking with Anne, and as the mother of a child with type one diabetes. And I need to tell you that for the first like three minutes of the podcast, we're using a microphone that we don't finish using for the rest of the podcast. Anyway, and sounds bad for the first couple minutes, but you need to listen so you know the details. Plus, I don't know, I think it adds to the flavor of the episode. So I left it in. While you're listening. Please remember that nothing you hear on the Juicebox Podcast should be considered advice, medical or otherwise, always consult a physician before making any changes to your health care plan, or becoming bold with insulin. If you're a US resident who has type one diabetes, or is the caregiver of someone with type one, and you want to help with diabetes research, you can do that from your home at T one D exchange.org. Forward slash juicebox. You don't have to go to a site or see a doctor. It's HIPAA compliant, absolutely anonymous, and really will help T one D exchange.org. Forward slash juicebox should take you like 10 minutes. This episode of The Juicebox Podcast does not have any sponsors. So I guess two things. If you'd like to sponsor the Juicebox Podcast, reach out, I'd love to have you. And if you're looking for the diabetes Pro Tip series, ask Scott and Jenny afterdark, algorithm pumping, bold beginnings defining diabetes defining thyroid, the variable series of mental wellness stuff, it's all available at juicebox podcast.com. It's also available in your podcast app. But if you're looking for a place to pick through the episodes, see which ones you might be interested in, it's right on the website, go up to the top to the menu, click on something I'll pick algorithm pumping. Click on that gives you a list of the episodes that are in the algorithm pumping series. You can even begin to listen if you like online with a player that's there. Or you can take note of the episode number and search for it in your favorite audio app.

Anne 2:31
Hi, my name is Anne and I live in Brisbane, Australia. And my youngest son Xavier is a type one diabetic.

Scott Benner 2:41
I feel like your voice is a little low. Sorry. No, don't be sorry. I'm trying to figure out if we want to use are you using like Bluetooth headphones? No. They're they're wired is the is the microphone moving away from your mouth by any chance?

Anne 2:59
No, it's right next to my mouth hidden because

Scott Benner 3:02
when you talk with more enthusiasm, you're louder but when you were like hi, man, that it was a little soft. So alright, well then there's not much we can do about it. I guess then. Alright,

Anne 3:14
I'll just have to talk with enthusiasm. Exactly. Just,

Scott Benner 3:17
you know, like you're making that movie that we all saw the 80s and is the only reason we know about Australia. What was that called? Crocodile Dundee just always be projecting? Like, like a crazy person in an 80s movie.

Anne 3:32
Awesome.

Scott Benner 3:36
So tell me again, how old are you?

Anne 3:40
Too old about your age?

Scott Benner 3:42
50 ish. We'll call it Yeah, yeah, yeah. And we're talking about son or daughter. I'm sorry. Son, son. How old is 11 years old? Xavier is 11 Okay, how long has he had type one?

Anne 3:58
He was diagnosed in April of 2019. So

Scott Benner 4:05
can we try taking off your headphones and seeing how it sounds? Your voice is disappearing

Hello, hello. Just speak at a normal tone. You can't hear me can you?

Anne 4:35
Yeah, I can hear you now or you can Okay. Is that better?

Scott Benner 4:38
It is but are you yelling? I'm

Anne 4:45
thinking projecting. I'm projecting I'm not yelling. I'm just projecting.

Scott Benner 4:49
So be you're seated. Right? Yes. So just bring your laptop a little closer to you. And then just speak normal and let's hear it like that. Okay, hang on. Also some Yes. I think it's I think it's actually going to be better than the headphones. Okay, worse. Yes. Some is Xavier a low do you need to do something?

Anne 5:14
Oh no, he's dead say I have treated him before I came so he shouldn't be okay.

Scott Benner 5:20
You treated, treated treated. Oh, it's like, Oh, I thought you treated the kid. I thought I hear you take the

Anne 5:25
kid now. Wow, sometimes.

Scott Benner 5:29
Alright, so just to go over a little bit, especially now without the headphones. Just try not to like bang around or touch to stuff or anything like that. But if Xavier is 11 He was diagnosed three years ago. Do you have any other children?

Anne 5:42
Yes, he is. He is the youngest. Sorry, that's his diabetes.

Scott Benner 5:50
Nightscout I hate that noise that Nightscout.

Anne 5:55
No, I just turn it off.

Scott Benner 5:57
You're fine. They go back to you. That always makes that noise. Like you always open up the app to do something. And then you're somewhere very quiet. And then it makes that noise. You're like, stop, stop, stop, stop.

Anne 6:13
Exactly, exactly. Yeah, he's the youngest of six,

Scott Benner 6:19
six children that all came out of you. Yes. Wow. Yes. Look at you go was you know, I don't like to ask like this. But did you make exam you're on purpose.

Anne 6:35
It's like this, the first two were really hard to get. And they I left babies. And then the rest sort of just appeared by themselves. And you just have a different attitude. It's like, you know, what the universe sends you? And then the universe was very abundant. And then we finally went no, that's it. No more.

Scott Benner 6:58
Did you have that feeling at first like it was so hard to have children? It's it's weird to say no, when they keep happening?

Anne 7:04
Oh, definitely. Definitely.

Scott Benner 7:06
I understand that. Yeah. Alright, so let's start at the top. How old's the oldest?

Anne 7:11
A twins so I've got 19 year old twins. A boy and a girl. And then I've got a 18 year old boy. And a 15 year old boy and 13 year old girl and then save us. 11

Scott Benner 7:27
Wow. That's very cool. It was a

Anne 7:29
busy few years.

Scott Benner 7:31
I really it was only about like, if you take Xavier out of the mix. It's only about seven years, right? Oh, yeah. Seven years three pregnancies. That's not bad.

Anne 7:42
Yeah, that's Bob.

Scott Benner 7:44
Excuse me. I almost forgot one of your pregnancies with inside of the seven year window. So that's really that's crazy. See, I would have had a boy and a girl twins and I would have been like, oh, look, we're done. Perfect.

Anne 8:00
Well, I think my husband probably thinks that sometimes

Scott Benner 8:02
give me when he's at work for 43 hours a day trying to pay for everything.

Anne 8:10
But he can't get to golf up to the golf course. Because there's so many things to do for the children.

Scott Benner 8:15
Hey, in Australia don't things on the golf course try to kill you.

Anne 8:21
I think that's Florida.

Scott Benner 8:22
Oh, yeah. You're right. I was confusing Florida with Australia.

Anne 8:27
We just have kangaroos mainly.

Scott Benner 8:30
I love a good fistfight with a kangaroo. Those videos. Those videos are terrific. Any of the other kids or your husband or yourself have autoimmune issues?

Anne 8:40
Yes. Not the other kids so far, but there's quite a bit in my family. We've I've got Hashimotos my sister's got Hashimotos my mom's got Hashimotos we've got Pernicious anemia. One of Xavier's cousins has MS.

Scott Benner 8:59
MS. Yeah. A lot of autoimmune stuff in there. Okay. Yeah. All right. But nobody was looking for diabetes when he was diagnosed. Oh, no, no, he was eight years old. Right. Is that right? Yes. Yeah, he was having to present to you.

Anne 9:20
Really out of the blue. He just although I had I had it was the first term of school for the year and I had been looking at him and going there's just something not quite right with you. He had nothing specific. He didn't have the, you know, constant pain or constant drinking. It was summer so he was drinking anyway. And he just didn't look good. And he had like big black eyes and all of that sort of thing. And I thought oh, you're just not thriving. I'm I'll make a doctor's appointment for the school holidays and we'll get you seen too. And then the week before the school holidays, he He came in one night, one night on a Sunday night he they're allowed to have a glass of soft drink. And he only had diets often anyway. And after dinner, he asked for another one and I went, Oh, we don't get to eat. And he went okay and went to bed next morning, he woke up vomiting. And I went, Okay, you've got something so stay home from school and he wasn't too bad. And we got through the day, but I made a doctor's appointment for the next day. And I had noticed during the day I pulled up his shirt, His breathing was a bit funny. And I pulled up a shirt to listen to him. I could see his ribs. So I knew he'd lost weight. So then I weighed Him and He will lost a significant amount of weight. But he often got croup, so I sort of thought, Oh, it's great. It's fine. And when he woke up the next morning, he was vomiting again. And then he just was he was in a real state, he couldn't get off the floor. His breathing was shallow and rapid. And we still didn't go call the ambulance or anything. He'd still we didn't even think about it being life threatening. And we took him to the doctor's like within the hour, and the doctor took one look at him and fingerprick doing well. He's type one diabetic. I'm calling the ambulance and off we went to hospital when he was DKA. Oh,

Scott Benner 11:20
my goodness. Yeah, I was gonna say it was definitely DK. By the way, they only get one glass of a soft drink because it's too expensive to buy it for 234568 people. Is that why?

Anne 11:33
It was just, you know, we were trying to limit you know. Yeah. And they were all little them now. It's a very different story. They're all older

Scott Benner 11:42
and they don't listen to you anymore about what the drink

Anne 11:46
exactly three of them or 18. They want alcohol and stuff as well.

Scott Benner 11:51
That's funny. My son doesn't drink but he orders an iced tea that's not that's sweetened. And even that makes me upset. Like, I've never said this to him. I never would. But he'll order a sweet tea while we're at lunch. And it makes me upset because I want him to I want him to order an ensuite thing. And I'm like looking at him exerting himself over here with the sugar. So

Anne 12:15
did they make their own decision?

Scott Benner 12:16
I know. Right? Darn it. So you you sent me quite a little note here. Let's start just with coming out of the hospital like what? What's it like in Brisbane getting diagnosed?

Anne 12:32
They sent us home. Well, we had you know, some education, obviously in the hospital, and sent us home with pens. And they did talk to us about a CGM. And booked in in back. I don't know, we seem to have supply issues always or whatever. And it was months behind. So it was like four months later when we got it. But it was Dexcom. And it was a Dexcom five, hang on the I've got a puppy and she has decided she doesn't want to be where she is.

Scott Benner 13:04
So that's fine.

Anne 13:06
It's alright, if you come in and out. She's very nasty. That's what you need.

Unknown Speaker 13:16
Yeah. Great.

Anne 13:20
So and then you go back and you have classes, you go to diabetes school, and which I was really quite surprised how limited it was even with my very limited knowledge about diabetes, that it was really centered around carb counting and how that worked. And it really didn't talk about any of the other stuff.

Scott Benner 13:55
It gave you that feeling like while they were teaching you that there must be more to it than this.

Anne 14:00
Oh, absolutely. Absolutely. So where do I sign up for the next class was my feeling and of course there wasn't anything

Scott Benner 14:08
that was gonna say there was no next class.

Anne 14:11
Just go out to the world and find your own way.

Scott Benner 14:15
Well, what did that lead to? That lack of education what kind of like outcomes did you have initially? Do you think he was honeymooning in the beginning?

Anne 14:26
Um, no, they think he never honeymoon. He was he was on. He never he never really dropped from his initial dosing. And his needs just got more and more really you know, I thought we were going okay for the first few months. Although he did hypo a lot at school. And then when we got the dex calm, I could obviously see what was going on. And I'm like, I was really shocked the day we got the day Dexcom because the, the nurse, the diabetic educator, actually that said set us up was a diabetic herself and more a pump ended Dexcom. And I said, Okay, well, what do I expect to see from this? You know, what do I see post meal? What do I see here? She has autunno

Scott Benner 15:19
just didn't give you any idea at all what what to look for? No,

Anne 15:23
no. So of course, that sent me down the rabbit hole of the internet. What am I supposed to see? And what am I supposed to do? And all of that sort of stuff. And, you know, I was seeing really crazy things on his graph. And you know, he had that really big spike at about two o'clock in the morning, and it would last for a couple of hours, and then he would wake up and he'd below and

Scott Benner 15:52
when we talked about low, how low was he?

Anne 15:56
Oh, well, it shows his low on his. So under two

Scott Benner 16:00
under two. Okay, so for everyone else like a 55 ish, right around 5455 is a three. A two is 36. So like, like scary, worrisome. Low. Yeah. Any seizures? No. Okay. And then when he got hot, what would his spikes look like?

Anne 16:22
Oh, like, you know, 25.

Scott Benner 16:25
Wow. That's like 450. Yeah, yes. And you okay, this is interesting. So you were bouncing hard. Up, down, up, down, up, down. Yeah. Okay. And when you when you see this happening with a meter, I mean, how long were you on a meter before? You saw the CGM?

Anne 16:44
Ah, about four months,

Scott Benner 16:47
four months. So for four months, I imagine you were just chasing right like feed the lows. Inject the highs feed the lows and Jack the highs? Yeah, absolutely. So then the CGM comes into play. What's your first thought when you see it happen kind of in real time in front of you?

Anne 17:05
You know, I need to learn more I need you know, someone has to help me find answers. So, you know, I went to our first follow up appointment and said, This is what's happening. And you know, this, you know, I'm seeing this high in the middle of the night and what do I do? And they went, I don't know why that's happening. Really? Calculate how many I don't know it's I got but yeah, I don't know.

Scott Benner 17:32
What were you at a regular, like, so I don't know how it's how was it broken down in Australia? Like, were you at an endocrinologist?

Anne 17:40
Yeah, they had. It's, we've got a major like Brisbane, fairly big city. Yeah. And we've got major Children's Hospital. That's just, you know, a children's hospital and we were in had guests had endocrinology appointments. And there's a whole department that you go to and they've got diabetic educators. You hear the cooker virus?

Scott Benner 17:59
Yes, that was that was I thought for sure someone was abducting a child behind you. What is that? Cocoa bar is

Anne 18:05
it's the sun's starting to come up and the cooker bar is waking the morning up.

Scott Benner 18:12
What the hell does that mean? You mean? Wait, hold on. You're using words. I don't know. Are you? Are you saying chickens?

Anne 18:20
Cougar bars.

Scott Benner 18:21
Okay. Hold on a second. This is gonna be our first Australian roadblock here in the episode. How do I spell that?

Anne 18:33
Okay. You U cookoff. Bara kuca? So KWOKAB You are a?

Scott Benner 18:46
I got it. Hold on. They laugh. Oh, they sort of look at that. They're not particularly large birds, right? What are they? What big? No kidding. Yeah. Well, they seem adorable in the picture white brass brown wings and tails with little blue on the big beak. And they laugh.

Anne 19:09
Do they have

Scott Benner 19:13
that's I mean, I swear to you, I heard it. I thought I thought can add and I get these kids under control. And then tell everybody what time it is there for you.

Anne 19:25
is quarter to six in the morning.

Scott Benner 19:29
Yeah, thank you for doing it like this. I really appreciate it. I am also recording not nearly as early as you I'm later much later in the day than I normally do. But okay, so now that the cocoa Berra is that what they are cook, cook. Cook Amaro. Yeah. Okay, now that they're done or will they do it again?

Anne 19:48
Oh, they might do it again because they do it as the dawn happens. It's like that in Aboriginal folklore. They they welcome the morning.

Scott Benner 19:59
Yeah, bye My wife welcomes the morning every morning she wakes up, she says rub my hand, scratch mine. It's not the same thing from my hand a little more my fingers from my fingers. Okay, I'm over here. I'm like my hand is no, nobody cares. Okay. So so I'm sorry. So you get the CGM. And you start to be able to see these bounces. And they are as I'm expecting, right? Like you're from very low, shooting straight up very high back and forth. And then you go as you go ask for help. And the help you get is I don't know. So then Yeah. So you know, it's a problem. But what do you have? What do you do once a doctor says, I can't help you.

Anne 20:37
Go to the internet.

Scott Benner 20:40
Excellent. How do you even know where to begin? On the internet? You just Google?

Anne 20:45
Just start Googling. Yeah, I just started googling.

Scott Benner 20:50
What was your first intention? Like what were you trying to accomplish in the beginning?

Anne 20:55
Just to get more informed and to try and find some answers. Because I knew there had to be answers. There had to be more information somewhere. It just wasn't available where I was.

Scott Benner 21:11
You know how unbelievable it sounds that you asked the doctor a question like that. And they just said, I don't know. Oh, I know. It's fascinating. Like a nurse ever grabbed me in the hallway and say, listen, here's what you do, or like, nobody tried to help.

Anne 21:26
No, no, it was very, very frustrating and demoralizing. And I felt very alone. And I lost a lot of faith in the medical system completely.

Scott Benner 21:38
I would imagine, do they? Did they label him? Like are they called to use? They tell you you're not doing the right thing. But you didn't do what they told you. They call him brittle. Like any weirdness like that.

Anne 21:51
They just said he's, he's not he's not doing typical things. And at the beginning, they didn't label him. And they didn't. They weren't mean to me or anything. But they certainly weren't helping, you know, I was getting no sleep. And I'd go in and I cry, and I do all those things. And they just like, well, you know, you just got to get through it.

Scott Benner 22:14
He's only eight. How do you what do you mean? Like, for 30 years? Yeah. That's fascinating. So I mean, looking back now, where his ratios wrong? Was this basil wrong? What do you think it was?

Anne 22:28
No, we needed to do lots of changes of technology of his insulin, we needed to do lots of stuff. And we certainly have done that. And since then, but I think when you get diagnosed, the way we got diagnosed here, we have very, two very different systems. One's a public system that everybody can use and one's a private system, which obviously you pay for and you have health insurance to pay for. And when he went through the hospital, they said to me, Well, you have to stay in this clinic for 12 months, before you can go off and do anything else. Which I now know, isn't correct. But that's what I was told I was doing the right thing. And I got to, I don't know, nine months, you know, it's when I just can't do this anymore. You're not helping me, I have to find a different way. So I found a private doctor. And we went in and you know, at the first the first meeting, we changed insolence straightaway. And he said to me, Well, you know, the hospital has an arrangement with the companies, and that's the one that they use. So that's the one they use.

Scott Benner 23:49
So you actually changed like his Basal insulin.

Anne 23:53
And his and he's just on over rapid. And let me to start with okay. And we changed both.

Scott Benner 24:01
Where did you go to?

Anne 24:03
We went to human log and Lantus.

Scott Benner 24:07
And that was it was just that a difference? Or did you also start getting better understanding of the settings the amounts that needed to be used?

Anne 24:17
While he was still pretty crazy? When he changed? When he changed? Insulin, we saw a little bit of a difference. But we were battling all sorts of things. We were battling skin problems like he he wasn't a sick kid before he got diabetes. We didn't know. But he was allergic to all the medical tapes. So you CGM 's were an issue. He was you know, crying, itching and he had this all over ah, and we didn't know whether it was from insulin or whether it was from the type. His skin was really sensitive. And so we tried every medical tape in that we could get a hands on, we went down lots of different roads, you know, I've had him allergy tested, I've heard him lots of things. And you know, the diabetic educator that goes is that my endocrinologist that he's allergic to something? Well, I can see he's allergic to something, all his injection sites are red, all that sort of stuff, took him off to the allergist. And the allergist, tested him for insulin, but and said, Oh, no, he's not allergic and to do any more testing would be too invasive, so we won't worry about it.

Scott Benner 25:40
But he's just the just, I mean, it's having a reaction to the to the tape on the Dexcom. Right. At that point, that's what it is. Right. So do you. Does anybody help you like with barrier creams and wipes and things like that, or nobody brings that up?

Anne 25:56
Well, I had already, you know, I'd got on Facebook groups and all that sort of stuff. So I was well aware, I was I was more aware than they are of all the solutions. So we had tried, we've tried every single solution that is on the internet out there. We've tried every type, we've tried everything. We still don't really have an answer. And we tend to cycle through things. Even CGM, we cycle through we try different ones and and it's he seems to have a period of less reactivity with if you're with a different one, then it'll build up. It's like a buildup of toxicity or something. And then we change and go to something else just

Scott Benner 26:41
get bouncing back and forth so that nothing ends up. Does he have other allergies?

Anne 26:47
Well, you does now we've we have discovered that he's actually allergic to zinc. Really? Yeah. And so every inch one except a Piedra has zinc in it.

Scott Benner 27:00
Okay. How do you find out he's allergic to zinc?

Anne 27:04
A process of elimination?

Scott Benner 27:06
That's your long unpleasant process? Yeah. Yeah. Well, so how does that how does that present?

Anne 27:14
Well, it's just like, it's a systemic thing. Because it wasn't just, it wasn't just the tape that was itchy. It was his whole body was itchy. It was you could see how uncomfortable he was. And of course, we had him on any histamines and all sorts of things to try and counteract that effect. And when we finally discovered this, and we said, well, we have to find and think free insulin. And I had known about a pager from you. And I didn't know it was zinc free. But I'd done my research and discovered that it wasn't free. So I went into my endocrinologist and said he's got to have this one. I don't use that one. I don't care.

Scott Benner 27:58
Look at the boys. He's he lets go. Yeah. So he's go on did making that switch change his reaction to it? He's um, so no,

Anne 28:10
not really. But it certainly helped the all over.

Scott Benner 28:16
Yeah. Okay. Yeah. And how long did it take you to figure this stuff out about the adhesives in the zinc? Couple of years? Wow. That sucks.

Anne 28:27
Because I was doing it all on my eye. Yeah. And nobody, I'd go down one road, and they'd go, oh, yeah, that's too hard. I don't know. And so then I'd have to come back to the drawing board and do all this research and then go in and present them with information and go, he needs to have this test or he needs to have that test or,

Scott Benner 28:46
and you've tried and you actually try it. Like she started off with more of like the state run hospital and then you went to a private doctor who really wants you push them further things wasn't much more helpful, honestly.

Anne 28:56
Absolutely. Yes. You know, we've got, we've got a pump. And we got a diabetic educator and all of those things, but, and he will give me mainly what I want, but he doesn't have any information for me and happily says you have more access to current information than I do.

Scott Benner 29:13
Well, that's not true. He must have the internet also. Exactly.

Anne 29:17
It's about wanting to know it, isn't it?

Scott Benner 29:20
You have more access, because when you go home at night, you pay attention to this, and I don't how old is this doctor?

Anne 29:30
Oh, he's he's probably in his early 60s. I reckon.

Scott Benner 29:38
You need a younger doctor.

Anne 29:40
Oh, I know. I'm desperately searching him and I have got my name down at a different one. But there's a real lack. There's probably, I don't know, five or six, pediatric endocrinologist in Brisbane. And all of them are on the older side. Yeah, and yeah, It's like free clinics. And that's it?

Scott Benner 30:03
Well, you're not painting a fun picture, that's for sure. No, hasn't been a lot of fun. So when you get online and you start learning things, I mean, you Google, where do you end up? You end up on blogs? Or podcasts? Or what do you find first?

I am only going to take a moment to tell you about the private Facebook group Juicebox Podcast, type one diabetes, it has 34,000 members in it, don't let that overwhelm you, that's just a lot of voices, that maybe has the answer that you're looking for. So you put a post in there, you're gonna get some great feedback, you might see something that you know about that you want to share your knowledge for, or maybe you're just looking for companionship, or community, maybe you just want to lurk just so you don't feel alone. You can do that at Juicebox Podcast, type one diabetes on Facebook, it is a private group. That's important, because then you can feel comfortable there. So when you get to it, you're going to need to answer just a couple of questions. So we can make sure you're a real person. And then you'll be in. And you'll be enjoying what everyone else is doing. In the group. I literally just pulled it up now. Actually, two things. In the feature tab, if you're looking for the series that I talked about the beginning, there's a whole list of them there, as well as other featured posts that are in the group. But just out on the regular board, right? People are talking about everything. Here's a brand new post, somebody's talking about just not feeling great. Do you ever feel like there's a dark cloud, it starts out, this post has only been up for 11 minutes and 36 people have jumped in to give their support. There are all kinds of things on this page, from management, to community, something for everyone at Juicebox Podcast, type one diabetes.

Anne 32:08
I find lots of medical information is sort of where I went down the path of and I chased everything. And there was lots of organizations that I sort of I'd go into one with an organization and they'd say something and then I'd take that little bit of information. And then I'd Google that and all that sort of stuff, obviously, on online also, I was on through Facebook, I got on lots of groups and anything they said I would go on and that's obviously where I found the juice juice box. And I think for the first time I sort of took a big sigh of relief and went oh my god, there's somewhere that knows something.

Scott Benner 32:53
It's there. Yeah, that's silly. I really do find it to be silly, but it's like through Facebook that you find a thing and it's wonderful, but it's just, it's odd. Hey, I'm sorry. Do you live anywhere near I'm gonna mispronounce a word in a second to see you know, do you live anywhere near? God? What is this? into roughly into Indra? pilih. Indra Pillai, do you live near there?

Anne 33:16
No, no. Okay. On the other side of the city. We live in a suburb called Cappella Bob.

Scott Benner 33:23
Who made up these words? There's just a on my list at juicebox docs.com. A listener has suggested a provider named Rachel Baker. And she's at McIntyre health. So I wasn't sure if you live near there or not.

Anne 33:40
Yes, no, I did not. I did listen to Rachel's episode. Yeah. And

Scott Benner 33:47
not close enough. Well,

Anne 33:49
no, it doesn't matter. I would travel. That's fine. But she doesn't have a doctor. She because she's a diabetic educator. So

Scott Benner 33:57
oh, she's in the private system. So it's just her helping out? I see. Okay. Yeah, I gotcha. Gotcha. Okay. So did you think? Well, no, that's not my question. So so my question is, now you have the CGM, you've been online, you're learning about things. How do you start to they begin to find stability? What's the first adjustment you make? Do you remember?

Anne 34:25
When he got his palm? We, the process was that I would use to remain to the diabetic educator every day and we would start making adjustments. And I suppose that really when we started to dial it in, but we got to the point after six weeks and she went, you know what, he's just gonna be one of those kids, because everything we changed, changed something else. And the problem with Joe shift

Scott Benner 35:02
one of those kids by one of those kids, I think what she meant was, your kid's going to be one of those kids that I don't randomly get right. So you're screwed. And that's because they don't know because she didn't know what she was doing. Right. She was just turning knobs.

Anne 35:15
Yeah. And like, she was very experienced, and I'm sure she knew lots of stuff about diabetes. But for Xavier with his extra issues, it just, it just wasn't right. And she ended up saying to us, go to Nightscout and put in all of his insulin and food and all that sort of stuff and see what it suggests. Because it's more aggressive than I will be.

Scott Benner 35:47
I remember was that the website that are you think put it right into the app, or you think there was a website where you could kind of put in some of your, your information, and it would kind of spit out what it thought your settings were?

Anne 35:59
No, I like build the app and build his website. Yeah,

Scott Benner 36:03
do the whole thing. And then it'll tell you. Yeah, yeah. Well, that's not quite how that works, either. I feel like you know, you're describing like medical care is if you live on the edge of the world.

Anne 36:13
I know. It's ridiculous. Yeah.

Scott Benner 36:17
No kidding. It is. Yeah.

Anne 36:21
Yes. And then, of course, we've got we've got a pump that was brand new to Australia, and they sort of blamed the pump.

Scott Benner 36:34
That's the fault. It's great.

Anne 36:37
They didn't know about it.

Scott Benner 36:40
Yeah. Oh, no, anything they don't know about? It's, it's like, oh, I don't know, we don't know what that is, that's probably that thing messing up. We don't know, I can't say I don't have experience with etc. Meanwhile, how are you enjoying this time, like talking about how it feels personally, to be going through this with your kid.

Anne 37:00
I was really very, very, very demoralized, you know, and just so frustrated, and let down by the whole system. And just I felt very, very alone. And I think if I didn't have I hadn't had juicebox where I was starting to amass some knowledge, I don't know what I would have done actually, because it was the only place that I was getting any information about what I actually should be seeing and what I could be doing and what I end and giving empowering me enough to make really big changes with him.

Scott Benner 37:50
I'm glad. Did you dive into the Pro Tip series? Or did you go to the number one? Did you Oh, you're my favorite kind of listener. And thank you very much. We need all the downloads. And the best way to get them is to listen to all the episodes. But being serious. Well, actually, that I was serious about that. But being more being more serious. Did you find that just a little bit day after day added to your knowledge added to your knowledge? So you started feeling more comfortable? And then ideas started making more sense it just built? Is that how it goes?

Anne 38:25
Yeah, absolutely. And, you know, when when you're first diagnosed, they sort of say, Oh, well, you know, stay between four and 10. And you know, your ranges and do this and don't need but you know, don't correct after under three hours and all that sort of stuff, you get those rules. And it just wasn't working and to know what I should be seeing on my CGM. What was possible what spike would means, you know, if he went straight up at after he ate, then it was not enough insulin or my timing was wrong. Or, you know, if he was spiking two hours later, which unfortunately, he was, what did that mean? And was that normal? And, and, and through all of that, gradually information, I was able to go, This isn't right. What I'm seeing isn't right. And no matter what changes I make, it's not working. So what else is going on?

Scott Benner 39:28
Did you ever once you figure things out? Do you ever go back to the doctor and say hey, look, things are better. Now. This is what we did. Oh, yeah. Did they was their response, like, oh, yeah, we know that stuff. And it's good. You figured it out? Like we were trying to lie? No, they were surprised to

Anne 39:47
Yeah, and they go oh, what did you learn this time? Oh,

Scott Benner 39:50
okay. So you started turning into the person who listens to the podcast for the doctor then?

Anne 39:55
Exactly. I mean, I pay $500 for the privilege

Scott Benner 40:00
of recanting my podcast to a doctor what a deal in

Anne 40:08
bargain

Scott Benner 40:11
so what the guy say today? Hold on let me start the meter Well, that's terrible. A bit on your own. I imagine like, you know, or do you and your husband manages together or are you on your own a little bit?

Anne 40:28
I mainly do it he does it. But under instruction and he certainly isn't as attentive as I am.

Scott Benner 40:41
We're talking about him managing diabetes, right? Yeah, I said about married a long time to about how he handles everything. Is it just not? Not paying close attention and needs direction? Oh my gosh. I'm just trying to I mean, I'm paying in my mind I'm painting a picture like not for nothing. I'm not calling you old. But you're 47 ish years old when this is happening to you. You've already got you already got 1234 I mean, a lot of kids. You live in a I mean, a jungle right? Don't you live in a jungle? Yeah, that's right. Yeah, right. Right. Right. And so there's a lot going I imagine your job is just like collecting coconuts or something or I don't know exactly. Something like that. You sell boa constrictor skins or, you know, Oh, yeah. You probably own like an HR like outsourcing company or something like that.

Anne 41:38
But actually, we own an insurance underwriter.

Scott Benner 41:44
But it's mostly snake attack insurance. Is that correct? That's it. Yeah. Okay. And spiders, spider insurance, Snake insurance, stuff like that. Yeah, yeah. But so I mean, you're, I mean, I don't want to say you're later in your life. But you certainly at this point. I mean, you got five kids that were chugging along, you were kind of like, wow, this is easy, right? They come out one end, we feed them, they send them out, like, this is how it works. And now you have all this going on. And you're kind of doing it on your own. I mean, on a personal side, and then on a on a on a medical side, you're really doing it on your own, and everybody you search out in real life doesn't help you. Absolutely. Why didn't you give up?

Anne 42:28
Because of him, you know, it can't give up? You know, he had I had to find a way to give him a life because, you know, at that point, his childhood? Well, you know, his childhood has been stolen. He, it's just gone. It's all about his health and his ill health. And he doesn't feel good. And you know, We're up all night. He doesn't sleep very well, he, you know, I don't sleep.

Scott Benner 43:01
Yeah, it did feel hopeless at points.

Anne 43:05
Oh, definitely. Definitely.

Scott Benner 43:06
Did you ever have any anxiety or depression from it?

Anne 43:12
Um, I'm not that kind of a person. I sort of just get on with it. But there certainly has been times where I just you know, I think, truly, I think COVID probably saved us.

Scott Benner 43:25
Gave you a lockdown gave you time to think about it kept him at home.

Anne 43:30
And also, you know, the busyness of life. You imagine, you know, we spent a lot of time on the road, burying kids and kids were at three different schools.

Scott Benner 43:37
And yeah, it all went away.

Anne 43:39
It was all crazy. And it all went away. And they all were here. And we all sort of came in and just supported each other. And we're around each other. And I think that stopping and breathing again, probably was really good for us at the time.

Scott Benner 43:56
Right? Well, I mean, I would imagine when you when most of your life is spent running from King Kong, something like diabetes probably doesn't seem that scary. Really. You know, so Well, in

Anne 44:07
the beginning, that's how I sort of felt Oh, he's got diabetes. Okay. No worries, that's fine. We'll just get on with it. And I certainly have a look back and think oh my god, I can't believe how much I didn't know. And I would never have anticipated the journey that we've had.

Scott Benner 44:24
Well, you know, where you're where I think when I hear stories like yours, like the first time I think you're it's not lucky. It's it's it's um it's because it's not luck. It's kind of how people are built like some people hear doctors say, Well this is it and they go okay, well this is it. And they just they just agree and they move on. And if you had enough something to push back even in you're just in your mind at first so this isn't right like this can't possibly be right. Did you know any other type ones?

Anne 44:57
I have I have known typing. ones but I didn't know type ones. But they certainly came out of the woodwork. You know, I found people coming up and saying, Oh, I'm a type one did you not know? Or my sisters are type one or that sort of thing around me. But you know, it's like, I've heard you say, being a type one who's in your 50s or 40s, or 20s. Even is very different to now. Because treatments so different. Yeah. And his em have changed the landscape and pumps and all that sort of stuff. How long has

Scott Benner 45:33
g six is available in Australia now? Right? Oh, just just in the last month? Yeah. Just very recently on the PA just got there, but it's still it's not covered by your your health care system. Is that right?

Anne 45:47
Yeah, no, it's not covered at all. It's totally out of pocket out of pocket.

Scott Benner 45:50
They're still okay. What kind of pump did you get for him

Anne 45:57
is that he uses an Accu check solo, which is a tubeless pump as well.

Scott Benner 46:03
Oh, that's the I think I know this one. Hold on. I'm looking at it. Yeah, yeah. Okay. And it's got like a cartridges snaps into it. Is that right?

Anne 46:18
Yeah, it has what they call a pump base, and you put the cartridge in with the insulin, so you just load it in whenever you need it.

Scott Benner 46:27
How long does how long does the base stay on for

Anne 46:31
three months?

Scott Benner 46:32
Wow, doesn't get infected or anything

Anne 46:35
on Oh, no, it doesn't stay on the skin. So what happens is you have a they call it an assembly, but it's a base plate, which has got the cannula in it, and it sticks on to the skin. And then the pump clicks into that. So to have a shower, it just clicks out like it's a two second click out and click in. So you just take it off and change whatever you need and put it on how it works. Well,

Scott Benner 47:03
I'm sorry. Now that's what you're gonna say works. Well, code Fisher thought

Anne 47:08
works well for Zevia. Because we don't get any more than 24 hours out of the site.

Scott Benner 47:14
Okay, so the infusion sec, you have to move pretty frequently. And because of that, oh, and because and why do you have to move it so frequently?

Anne 47:26
Because he has, like a hyper immune response. So he's got insulin absorption issues as well. Okay. And it? The sites break down pretty quickly.

Scott Benner 47:38
They go bad after a while. Yeah, yeah, sometimes in 12 hours. So you sort of notice on his on his graph that the insulin is just not working the way you expect it any more than you move the site? Yes. Okay. Is that a diagnosed issue? Like do they put a diagnosis to that?

Anne 47:56
No, we're trying that's that's my current mission.

Scott Benner 48:02
That's what you need another mission. You're just trying to underwrite insurance and if you're busy get an amen.

Anne 48:11
Well, I've only just started working in the business. I've been a stay at home mum all this time. The last few months, but I'm actually homeschooling at the moment as well. So

Scott Benner 48:24
will tell me would you mind telling me a tiny bit about what lockdown was like in Australia? Because from an outsider's perspective, it seemed very rigorous.

Anne 48:34
Oh, it was, but it really didn't affect our lives very much. We didn't have a lot of COVID For a start, especially here in Queensland. And we, the kids stayed home from school, everybody worked from home, but we work from home anyway. So it didn't really affect our lives. The big thing was like extracurricular activities all got canned. And the hardest thing was finding supplies, like grocery stores and stuff, we just didn't have those supplies. So you really had to be like for us, you know, you could buy one bottle of milk and one thing of meat and all that sort of stuff, every trip, so I'd have to inbred was was you could only buy certain amounts of limited as well. So you can only buy a certain amount. So lots of things and rice and pasture and all that sort of stuff. So I'd be going to the shop slots, but only one person could do at the shops. You had

Scott Benner 49:27
to designate a person to go out. Yeah, it was me. At my house, it was me. And the first time I did it, I thought they had a meeting and decided I was expendable and that's why I'm the one being sent to the grocery store.

Anne 49:43
I don't know what they would have done if something had happened to me because I'm the one who does

Scott Benner 49:46
poor thinking on your side mind too, but you don't I mean, like at the very beginning of your COVID Like it felt like you were getting sent out like it felt like you were snooping trying to like cross enemy lines and you know World War Two like was that why Like yeah, like you went out I'm like, well this could be it. You know, I guess I'll go get pork chops and live through see if I can live through it. Anyway, I've never actually meanwhile, I've never had I mean I should knock on something but nobody here has ever had COVID so but okay so so that whole lockdown gives you time your life slows down a little bit. You don't you're not moving around as much you're able to spend more time paying attention to this new thing in your life and trying to figure it out ended up being a blessing really having the time.

Anne 50:31
Oh, absolutely, absolutely. And I could really build data so at the end of it I sort of went back to my doctor and went right I believe that he has delayed in delayed my brains gone digestion, okay digesting. And so we need to go to a gastroenterologist. So off we went. And she had some exploratory surgery and some testing some special testing done and got got got the diagnosis of gastroparesis.

Scott Benner 51:11
back quickly.

Anne 51:13
Yeah, pretty quickly, because I had the data to prove it. I can say like, because Mike because I work so hard on my CGM. I could go in and say, Look, this is where he's been. This is where he's being fed. This is where he's been injected. And this is what's happening. And so because I understood it, they didn't understand it, but I understood it enough to explain it and say, This is the proof that he's definitely something but got got something going on.

Scott Benner 51:36
So you were giving him insulin, he was getting low, and then much later needing the insulin. Yeah, they give you any, you know, it's funny, I was gonna ask if the doctor gave you an explanation, but after the last 45 minutes, I'm thinking what the hell do I care what your doctor said?

Anne 51:52
He was, I've never had a kid with gastroparesis before.

Scott Benner 51:56
I imagine that's the answer you get about everything. Like aspirin, I don't know where to buy those. Good luck. I mean, because I mean, your son was an undiagnosed for a very long amount of time. Like how does like how does something like that come on so quickly?

Anne 52:14
I actually think he had it first. Really, sorry, apparently can just get it to no reason they call it idiopathic gastroparesis, because for Eric in 18 months before he was diagnosed, and it could have been, he could have had the beginnings of diabetes. Even then it could have happened together. He started having all sorts of Gi problems and and, you know, we went to the doctor and they went, I just constipated and give him stuff. And you know,

Scott Benner 52:48
can you describe those problems a little bit for me?

Anne 52:52
So he always felt sick. He'd say, I feel like I've got acid burning. And definitely, you know, toileting issues.

Scott Benner 53:04
constipated, like constipated, diarrhea, and back and forth again, stuff like that. Yeah,

Anne 53:09
yeah. Yeah. But his teachers had also approached me and said, you know, he says, I would give instructions and he's just staring into space. And it takes you know, you have to refocus him on whatever and, you know, maybe he's got maybe he's on the spectrum or something. I mean, he's normal spectrum. I have a child on the spectrum. He's not on the spectrum. But looking back, I think probably he was having hypose and I was hypers for a long time before we ever thought about diabetes.

Scott Benner 53:46
Okay. It's interesting. Idiopathic gastroparesis, upon the three main causes of gastro precice diabetic post surgical and idiopathic. Patients with idiopathic have a constellation of symptoms, including nausea, nausea, vomiting, early, hold on early satiety.

Anne 54:09
So it feels full quickly. Yeah,

Scott Benner 54:11
satiation right post pragnell, fullness and in some patients upper abdominal pain. Interesting. How did they diagnose it?

Anne 54:20
So you do a radio, you go in and you eat a radioactive meal, and then you have a series of scans over four or five hours, so every hour for four or five hours and they because digestion is supposed to be fairly predictable and found that he has still had a significant amount of food in his stomach after all that time.

Scott Benner 54:46
Is there a way that it's treated? Is it with diet or how do they help him or can they not?

Anne 54:51
So they at the moment he has a he has a special laxative he has something for us Ah, and he has a really low dose, special antibody every day.

Scott Benner 55:06
Okay, what's the antibiotic though?

Anne 55:10
motilium is the one he takes

Scott Benner 55:17
second motilium

works by blocking the action of a chemical messenger in the brain which causes the feeling of nausea and vomiting. Okay, so that helps with some of the side effects of the, of the gastroparesis. Yeah. Are there any foods that he tries to stay away from? Or does it not matter?

Anne 55:49
Anything that's good for diabetes isn't good for gastroparesis.

Scott Benner 55:53
No. Perfect. So, like beef? No.

Anne 55:58
I mean, he, he's a very, very, very fussy eater. So he's very limited to what he will eat. So that sort of doesn't help either. But you know, nothing, high fiber, nothing. Really hard to digest nothing. You know, they like easy, simple, quick digesting meals that have got not a lot of bulk in them is what I say. They prefer, which obviously, is really hard, because diabetes likes it the other way around.

Scott Benner 56:28
Yeah, that's interesting. I'm sorry. It sucks to hear that. How does he deal with all of this?

Anne 56:37
At the moment, not very well. He, which is why he's he's we've taken a term off school to try and just give him a rest from all of the stress because schools really, really hard on him. He has, on top of everything else, he has a lot of different reactions to things. So he doesn't have the general wake up and blood sugar rise, adrenaline drops his blood sugar. So as soon as he gets drives through the gates of school, his blood sugar goes through the floor. And we spent all day he spends all day eating to the point where it goes, I don't want it any more food. Okay. And then as as it's getting close to time to come home, all of that food hits skyrocket.

Scott Benner 57:33
So have you tried, have you tried eating some uncovered food prior to school?

Anne 57:40
Well, that's the hard part. Because breakfast is of course, horrible. And you have to give him a good work of insulin to cover his breakfast. Otherwise, he's sky high.

Scott Benner 57:53
And then if you don't, then he gets low. Yes, there's no no winning really?

Anne 57:59
No, there's not really any winning. So we really have to, you know, we really, I live by stay flexible. i The arrows are really, really important for me, if he wakes up, you know, he can make up in range. But if he's arrows down, he will get his insulin over half an hour. But if he's arrows up, he will probably get it by injection.

Scott Benner 58:29
Hmm. Wow. Seems like a lot. Are you okay?

You had five and five, you were good.

Anne 58:47
I know. And I was just getting to the point where I was like, Hey, I'm gonna get a life again.

Scott Benner 58:51
Yeah. Was it really worth the one last time you had sex? Because I'm assuming that was the last time and I would have given up after that. I'd been like, I can't believe we got pregnant again. It's over now. We're not doing this anymore.

Anne 59:06
Oh, yeah. He was my sweet. He was the sweetest little boy. And he was really, he's just I used to say, when he was little that he made my soul sing. And he just, he just was I was just everything he we were such. Yeah, because he was the only one that I ever had on my own, you know? Yeah. Just

Scott Benner 59:31
feel feeling like because all the other ones were just a little older. Right. And it was sort of like, he got the focus. Well, and I'm sure he's still delightful, right? There's nothing

Anne 59:41
he's, he's diabetes has definitely impact his personality. And, you know, he is he is sweet when he's good. But I Oh, he's he can be difficult. You just

Scott Benner 59:57
described Arden's mother. There you go. That's I'm sure he's not just married to me.

Anne 1:00:07
I'm sure my husband would describe me as.

Scott Benner 1:00:10
Yes, she's great when she's okay. I mean, I don't know what the hell happens the rest of the time. I'm sure that's how people describe me as well, by the way. But i Wow, it's really a hell of a story. And it really is what made you want to come on?

Anne 1:00:25
Um, you just put a call out one day on Facebook to say, I've got some spots. Does anybody got a story? And I thought I will. ALS is a bit different. So

Scott Benner 1:00:36
certainly is yours is the only one with giant spiders. Actually, that's about to happen again, on the pod. I'm getting it's may now. And I'm getting ready to open up the 2023 calendar. Wow, I'm booked like straight through 2022. I think I'm I think I'm booked into like February of 2023. Because I had to open up the front end of the calendar to start like, sometimes I hear from people, I'm like, I definitely want to interview you. Can you pick a spot at nine, nine months in the future? Like you'd be surprised? I always just, and if I'm being honest, when I send people those emails, my expectation is that I'm going to get an email back that goes, how about you go off, but instead? Instead I get back? Yes, sure. Great. I grabbed February 23. I'm fairly excited. I'm like, Oh, my God, thank you. I'm so grateful for how like, amenable people are when they're making the, you know, they're making the recording time. So it's really cool for you to do this. Thank you, especially with the time swing is just terrible. And I'm not wrong, right. We messed this up once, didn't we?

Anne 1:01:44
Yeah. Right. And we organized it a couple of times before.

Scott Benner 1:01:49
But I was sitting here and I'm like, she's not here. She thinks this is tomorrow. And we're something because because the time zones are so far off like it's Friday for me, but it's Saturday for you. Is that right? Yes, it is. Yeah. So that gets confusing it by the way, not the first time that's happened, trying to record trying to trying to record you don't have to feel bad trying to record with Australia. It's gone wrong a couple of times, I actually have one coming up in a few months from China. And I keep thinking like, Oh, I hope that doesn't get messed up. But it might you know, because it's confusing. I will pay more attention in the future. I should have sent you an email a little sooner. And we could have talked but

Anne 1:02:29
that's okay. I was glad that you sent me one yesterday and said right, this is the right time.

Scott Benner 1:02:35
Well, I figured let's not mess it up twice. Just let you know, tomorrow at 330 My time, etc. No, seriously, it's really it's lovely of you to do this. I'm sorry to hear that he's having such a tough time. And I mean, there's a couple of things going against them here for sure. And one of them is that he's not getting, I mean that his mom's having to figure this out through the internet is not it's not it's not great news, you know, especially if stuff like this should progress a little bit or even even just for your comfort, like how do you even know when you're doing something? Like for the gas, your prices as an example? Like how do you even know you're doing the right thing, because you're taking this advice from people who let you down so many times already.

Anne 1:03:20
I always take it with a you know, I'll try that and see how it goes. approach. And, you know, because I feel empowered, and I you know, I know that I know more than they do. So I'm gonna change things up.

Scott Benner 1:03:42
Let's hop on them. Well, you're tough lady. And it's it's a very, very laudable personal trait to be able to push through when you're getting bad advice and come out the other side and figure something out for yourself. It's a it's a really big deal doesn't sound like you ever flinched, like when you got bad advice. It sounds like you just kept kept hammering away. I'm thrilled that the podcast was helpful to you. It really is.

Anne 1:04:06
It really has saved us really has

Scott Benner 1:04:09
a really it's wonderful to hear it. Certainly. I especially because you're you're so far away. You know, I know that sounds strange to people, but I'm old and I know the internet reaches the whole globe. But to me it's even crazier that you're in Australia, you know? So yeah, absolutely. For sure. I want to make sure we have have we haven't left anything out or anything like that. I don't want to cut you short, but if I'm being honest, my car was being worked on today and I have a limited amount of time to get to it. I won't be able to have it over the weekend. So I have to get but I just want to I don't want to rush you off. I still have time. I just want to make sure that we've not missed anything.

Anne 1:04:51
Yeah, um something that we've been trying lately and it's only been because he's having so much problems like we still his variability is all over the place, we haven't got to the point where he is a state stable at all, you know, some days he's really low and some days he's high. Once he goes high, I know how to get him down. And he can have an extraordinary amount of insulin. And like, you know, double, triple sometimes and it just does nothing for hours and hours hours, and then he could have a delayed reaction. It would be the next day that it all hits and we face all those lows. So we actually use glucagon instead of food a lot to get him up in micro doses. Yeah.

Scott Benner 1:05:47
Do little micro Bolus is of glucagon. You know what I was just wondering, as you were talking, and this is just happenstance that I had to record twice today, which I don't normally do, but the person I spoke to earlier was talking about a trial that her daughter's in for a Frezza for the inhalable insulin. And I'll tell you, she just talked so glowingly about how those sticky high blood sugars come down and 15 minutes with a Frezza for her daughter. Wow, made me think of it made me think of a decision just said that. So is that available there?

Anne 1:06:19
No. No, it's it's a very long process to get anything approved here. It's really very frustrating. And everybody in the medical world just seems to go oh, you know, we're a couple of years behind everyone else. I think it's not good enough. You know, we get the latest phone as soon as it's released. Why can't we have medical technology as it's released?

Scott Benner 1:06:46
I get an iPhone right away when it comes out. That's not helpful for anything. Exactly. That's it. I wonder if you could buy it. Cash Me, maybe it could, but I don't know how much it would be? Well,

Anne 1:06:58
I'm gonna be pushing them because we have done this trial with glucagon. And like I've used in the last month, 14 vials of of glucagon. So, you know, lots of people say, you know, I've never used it in my life. I use it regularly at night. I never give him food anymore because foods just not reliable. You know, I can't guarantee when it's going to hit. Yeah. And he he could sit at low on his, like, it shows as low on his CGM for an hour, two hours.

Scott Benner 1:07:33
And there's nothing you can do. Except this. But glucagon does work.

Anne 1:07:38
Glucagon does work it's not as quick as as you expect. It's not like a 15 minute nap you go sometimes it's half an hour sometimes it's three quarters an hour before it hits, but it does it is much better and then I don't have to deal with the food hitting at some random time later on.

Scott Benner 1:08:02
Do you do you ever get into a situation where nothing works and you feel like it's an emergent situation you ever end up in a hospital for this?

Anne 1:08:11
Luckily, we haven't. But then I I sort of see other people's posts online and you know hospital emergency departments don't really know about diabetes either. So going in you know they put them on a drip or they give them insulin anything well you don't really know anyway, so I just keep them at home and just keep working it give me more glucagon or giving more insulin you know making take a hot shower.

Scott Benner 1:08:43
Has he ever had a seizure from from a low prolonged?

Anne 1:08:47
He hasn't. But I think I think and that's part of the problem that we're trying to get to at the moment is that I go a lot on how his how he's reacting to me. So if he's talking to me and he's functioning at a higher level and he's able to do everything, I think okay, well that's hid in his brain, it just hasn't reached his extremities. So I think there's a circulatory issue as well. And it's just takes time to get to the outer bits and he can only wear his devices on his arms and his legs because his torso justice too active. Yeah. And even a finger stick. It takes a long time to come up because we do do one every now and again. And but if he's talking to me, obviously he's laying on the lounge and it's semi conscious or whatever. I'm much more aggressive with things. And I have come close to calling the ambulance but I have never actually got there.

Scott Benner 1:09:56
I don't know how you're living like this and you sound like you're either I don't know, like you're not either you're not human, or you're Are you medicated and you? How are you staying even keel during these things here, something taking the edge off, you can tell Scott drink a lot. Hey, he's gonna pass out, I'll have a beer while we're waiting. And I mean, it's a lot of pressure, but then you describe yourself as not a person who feels anxiety or depression.

Anne 1:10:30
And I certainly there are times where I feel down in the dumps about it and feel very low about things. But I tend to pick myself up and just, you know, you just got to keep going. There's nothing you can do. And I think the busyness of our lives is that you don't have time to indulge in that.

Scott Benner 1:10:51
Yeah, that's impressive. It's an impressive trait. It really is. To not give into it and to not be knocked over by it is really something I mean, especially we mean, these are two things you're talking about, they're not gonna go away. If they're not exactly, they're not flexible. So, I mean, the gastroparesis is either going to stay the way it is, or get worse. Yeah, you know, the diabetes. I mean, you know, I mean, we can all hope for a cure. But even if we get one, right, show, you won't get it for five years later, anyway.

Anne 1:11:25
Exactly. That's right. You know, things come out, I find that really hard, you know, things come out. And I'm, I'm on top of what's what's happening in the world. And, and, okay, you know, when Winter's coming out when we're getting it, and you just go, oh, well, two years down the track, I can't get back.

Scott Benner 1:11:41
Every time something happens with any of the companies that I do business with, I get messages from people, please tell them in Canada, we're waiting, please tell them in Australia. When are you coming to here? You know, like, it's, I think you talk to them privately. And they're like, we're trying like, you know what I mean? Like, it's, it takes a lot of staff and a lot of money and like to get law, you almost have to open new offices. And you know, it's it's a big undertone.

Anne 1:12:05
I know, it's crazy. And even with his pump, I said, every every time I renew it, because you sort of renew it every 12 months and say, Okay, tell me about, you know, we got plans for CGM. Have you got any you know, I want I want an algorithm because I think that would really make my life easier

Scott Benner 1:12:24
has made me wonder while you're talking, especially because I just had a meeting today with Omni pod were I you know what? And I'm going to tell you something, and you just don't tell anybody else. Okay. Okay. And because this will come out so much later, it won't matter. But okay. I, I suggested to on the pod. And we're going to do a small series of instructional episodes about on the pod file. Awesome, right? And the reason it made me think of it is because this, this algorithm of theirs is really a learning system like it, it takes from what happens before and makes different adjustments. And I did wonder, I wonder if it couldn't figure out the slow way that your son's I mean, like, I'm just guessing here, but I wonder if it couldn't find a pattern in his digestion? Do you know what I mean? And like if that, because that, because if it could, and I have no idea if it could or not, but I'll tell you right now, I made a note for myself to ask somebody. I, it would just be such a blessing if like, it could even just help you a little bit.

Anne 1:13:29
Oh, absolutely. Yeah, absolutely. And, you know, when we did do the Nightscout, we learned a lot about it. That, you know, putting in the stuff, you know, that we had never ever even thought about taking doing a zero rate or doing a 200% rate or whatever. And that's all we use. Now. It's either zero or 200. And he's got crazy Basal rates that go from like point one to 3.8 during the day. And

Scott Benner 1:13:58
so no Nightscout sort of teaching you how to think like an algorithm, right?

Anne 1:14:03
Yeah, yeah. So then I'm the I'm the one that's done all the changes that it's sort of saying, we don't do it all the time. But we do do it occasionally. If I think I really lost I think we need to go back and have another look or whatever. But generally, we just you know, stick with unless something's really coming up saying this is a pattern. We just have to stay flexible and deal with whatever's happening at the time and if he's you know, low return is Basal rate off and if he's high, we turn right up. But also he can only have this as another crazy thing. He can only have two units straight up through his pump at a time. So if he's having a big Bolus, he gets a bone injection.

Scott Benner 1:14:54
I say, Wow.

Anne 1:14:56
I need that we need the pump. Definitely for basil because you Yeah, and injectable one doesn't work. But he doesn't always get his boluses through for food through his pump.

Scott Benner 1:15:08
I see. But you absolutely have you need the power of shutting off the basil and doubling it up that absolutely. It's interesting like you took the more fringe aspects of how I talk about diabetes, and they're your main management ideas. Oh, absolutely. So cool. Absolutely. Yeah. Absolutely

Anne 1:15:27
lost without them.

Scott Benner 1:15:28
I didn't mean to speak over that. If you were gonna say something nice about the podcast, let me be quiet. No, no. Thank you. No, I mean, I just think you're talking about some of the bits that are a little more like, oh, once in a while, you might need to bump it this way or that way or shut your basil off or something like that. But it's a it's a big part of your day.

Anne 1:15:48
Oh, it's Yeah, absolutely. Crazy. Absolutely.

Scott Benner 1:15:52
Very crazy. Well, I'll tell you what, in those birds did not stop the entire time. i At the beginning, I found a YouTube channel that has like a video of them. And I thought oh, it'll be fun. Like I'll play play it again at the end. Except nobody needs to hear what it sounds like. Because they were just going the whole way. No, I found that I actually found that to be nice. I felt felt like it felt different, which I enjoyed. I do have to go though, but I want to thank you very much for doing this. Oh, thank you. It was it was a pleasure to talk to you. Oh, you as well.

A huge thank you to Anne for coming on the show and sharing her family story. And thanks to those birds. Or they call it again. Cuckoo cuckoo. I don't know. I'll make it the title coupe Carrera. Who could I don't know cuckoo cuckoo baby. But there's a preference no one's gonna get. Thank you so much for listening. Don't forget to check out the private Facebook group Juicebox Podcast, type one diabetes, find those series that you're looking for diabetes pro tip, and on and on. They're all there. They're in your app. If you're enjoying the podcast, please consider leaving a five star rating and a thoughtful review. Wherever you listen. Thank you so much again for listening. I'll be back very soon with another episode of The Juicebox Podcast.

#834 Lies, Truths and How We Feel

Erika Forsyth is an LMFT who has type 1 diabetes.

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Scott Benner 0:00
Hello friends, and welcome to episode 834 of the Juicebox Podcast

guess what everybody Erica Forsythe is back. That's right, your favorite licensed marriage and family therapist is here again today. Today I start the conversation off with Erica, by asking her to talk about a sentence that I hear spoken very frequently. People love to say, I don't let diabetes get in my way. I'm not letting diabetes slow me down. I hear it all the time. And I hear it two different ways when people say it to me, and Eric and I talk through it. And then at some point, we talk about how to change things. And then it just goes down a slippery slope of my of my internal workings of my mind. So that'll be fun, you can sit in on a therapy session with me at the end. While you're listening. Please remember that nothing you hear on the Juicebox Podcast should be considered advice, medical or otherwise. Please Always consult a physician before making any changes to your health care plan, or becoming bold with insulin. If you like Erica, and you'd like to hire her, and you live in California, Utah, Oregon, or Florida, she's at Erica forsyth.com.

This episode of The Juicebox Podcast is sponsored by touched by type one, head now, two touched by type one.org. And also find them on Facebook and Instagram. When you get to these locations, you're going to find an organization doing an immense amount of good for people living with type one diabetes, go see what they're all about. Touched by type one.org. The podcast is also sponsored today by my favorite blood glucose meter, that Contour Next One, and you're gonna find out way more about the Contour Next One than you ever thought possible. At contour next one.com forward slash juicebox. Okay, all right, so we're recording. Erica, before we get started, I have a growing list of things I'd like to talk to you about. And I thought maybe it would be interesting to just let you pick on the day. Okay, all right. Sounds good. Okay, so here's what I have already. You and I have already talked about. I don't know if you know this. But when I think of things, I go into this little note and I put like ideas. And so like I put it in magical thinking one day, and you and I did an episode about that mom guilt. We did that one. But since then I've put in Maslow's pyramid. Do you know that? Yeah. Okay. I put in scarcity mindset. I put I put in charitable interpretations. I put in what the principle of charity and critical thinking is. Sorry, this jumps all over the place, how to support how to support suicidal people. I want to talk about the statement that people make that says I don't let diabetes slow me down. I want to talk about how people interact with each other online. I want to talk about rebellion as like a human decision. Like what happens to a person's mind when they see like, my mom wants me to do this. So I'm going to do the opposite. I'm fascinated by that. And just life expectation, like how does it impact your life? When you paint a picture for yourself? And then it starts to deviate immediately? Because it will I also have on here how to share burdens. Like when you have a burden, how do you learn to share it with somebody. And then people diagnosed with type one as an adult, how they could find community engaged their partners for support and things like that. So that's my list so far. Do you have a choice for today? Oh,

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 4:06
my goodness. That's an exciting, an extensive list.

Scott Benner 4:11
We got to keep you busy. You got this.

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 4:13
I know.

Scott Benner 4:16
I said everybody, Eric about a nice microphone. So we're gonna give her a lot to do.

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 4:21
It's exciting. It's good stuff. Goodness, where do we want to start? Do you are you do you have a leaning? I think I will tell you. Yeah. Have

Scott Benner 4:33
you started to talk about anything off this list? I'd start getting ramped up and want to talk about it. So it doesn't matter to me. But what's been on my list the longest for you? Maybe we could do it that way. I think I think the statement about not letting diabetes slow me down is really interesting to me.

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 4:54
You I was leaning towards that or how to share like the burden piece I think is a is a topic It comes up quite frequently, particularly with caregivers. So yeah, either one of those,

Scott Benner 5:04
let's start with the statement, we'll see where it goes, maybe we'll get to two of them today, or maybe the next time you come on, we'll do that. So I, I'm not gonna need any notes for this, I'm not gonna need the internet. This is all just anecdotal for me. So I'll begin by saying that when I first heard somebody say, I don't let diabetes slow me down. I thought, that's amazing. This is a person who's saying, I have this thing, but I do everything I want to do. And it doesn't get in my way, what a what a beautiful statement. And then I started interviewing more and more people. And I started to realize that for some of those people, what that statement means is, even though I have diabetes, what I do is I ignore it, and then I just do whatever I want. And in their mind, they're not letting diabetes get in their way. Does that? Does that resonate with you as a person who has played Pong?

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 5:59
I think I think it could really go both ways. I think there's the, the avoidance kind of omitting ignore it and not let it stop me from doing what I want. And by that, you're maybe you're not actively managing it. Or there is the hyperfocus hyper management, you really, truly can do, quote, whatever you want, eat whatever you want exercise however you want. And you figured it out. And while there is parts of your life that made diabetes interferes with, for the most part, you view view, your narrative of your life is I'm living my life. And I have diabetes, but it doesn't stop me. So I think can go both ways. Right?

Scott Benner 6:40
Yeah, no. And I think that I think that broadly, and mostly, it's a great mindset, like, absolutely the way to go, like this thing is not going to stop me. But if it's stopping you ignoring it, and just trudging on, it's not the answer. You know, I I interview people every day, just this week, 12 year old, you know, when she's diagnosed, and she said it, she's like, I never let it stop me. I played this many sports in school, and I did all this. And I did that. And then the last 30 minutes of our conversation are about the injection, she's getting in her eyes, and she can't feel her feet. And, you know, like, what she meant was, I just kept going, which is admirable, by the way beyond admirable, honestly. But there's a way to, there's a way to learn about diabetes, and to corral it and work with it, so that you can really go do whatever you want. without it hurting you. While you're it's it doesn't need to be a trade off. And I don't know, like I've never heard. It's the one statement that sticks out in my head. Because no matter which side of this, this scenario, I hear people speak about it. They say it the same exact way. That's the part that fascinates me, I don't let diabetes get in my way. And that can come out of a person's mouth, who was a five to a one C, and knows how to keep their blood sugar's between 70 and 140. All day. And that same proud statement can come out of someone's mouth, who has an 11 a one C for their whole life.

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 8:10
I was just thinking, I wonder what the difference is internally between that sense of kind of healthy pride, and maybe inter and maybe shame, right? Like, the person who is not managing and says, I don't let diabetes get in my way. I'm, I'm guessing there might be some shame, there might be some anger, disappointment I can't deal with process with this means to live with this chronic illness. And so I'm just gonna ignore it. And I'm not going to let it stop me. But I'm still but I'm ignoring it. And I you might feel awful, probably physically, emotionally. Whereas the person who's saying with pride, like I can do this, I imagined they probably feel pretty good about themselves. They've done the work, they figured it out. They have the skill set, they have the tools, they have the availability, you know, to have all the things that you need to manage well. So they're even though maybe it's coming out the same way. I'm guessing that probably internally the narrative is a little different.

Scott Benner 9:13
Yeah. So one side is is like genuine pride, and just like, wow, I can't believe I've accomplished this. And the other side might be a mask. It might be, I'm being beaten by this thing, but I'm just gonna, I'm gonna go on like, it's not happening. And then there's pride in that I imagined to which and that's not misplaced. You know, like, if you're just like, it almost, it's like you're in a movie, and you get shot. And you're like, you know, some some people are like, Go on without me. I'm gonna lay here and die. And some of the characters are like, I'm gonna do it. They pick themselves up and the dragon the bad leg. And I think I think that's how I think of it sometimes like, you're like you're injured, and you should stop and tend to yourself, and it is brave to just drag your leg on. Like, you know what I mean? Like, but it'd be better if you just stopped like, stop For a second, and figure this thing out so that you can make that statement from that place of pride instead of from a place of, I know I'm being beaten, I'm just going to, I'm just going to be tougher than this. Because eventually you can't be tougher than it at some point. And I think that's one of the problems with type one. Type two as well, honestly, is that you can, you can pretend you're doing okay for a while. Right up until you're not? You know,

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 10:26
that's right. Yeah. That's right. And I think it is, it is actually prevalent. Now, you mentioned type two, it is prevalent in the type two community as well, because you, you have lived a certain way. I mean, there are obviously there are different ages of diagnosis, but for the general population who are diagnosed as adults with type two, it's hard to shift your way of thinking eating lifestyle. And it's really challenging, too. I think of actually the the gentleman you had on with type two, who and it was really hard for him to accept as it is, is there a connection between I'm not gonna let it stop me and acceptance? What is this mean to live with this diagnosis for for type one, type two, that interferes with? How do I take care of myself? Do I want to take care of myself? How do I take care of myself? And if there's all the things, lack of resources, accessibility, support, community, family, all of those things that we need to continue to thrive? Those interfere, you know, with that ability to function and accept it?

Scott Benner 11:35
I mean, honestly, type one almost, does you a favor by just stopping taking care of yourself. I mean, it really does force you to do something. And then it's that level of understanding that that dictates Is this a five, a six, a seven and eight 910? Like, what is my what is my A one, say? What's my average blood sugar? With type two, you can, can ignore it for a good long time. And it may, you may feel tired, and then of course, get accustomed to feeling tired, and then something else might happen. You get accustomed to it, and it'll hit you, you know, all at once. You know, when it's probably too late, which is the reason why I bring this up because because this is all this talk aside. It's a very human reaction to say, I'm not giving up. It's it's so laudable, you know, it's why we're all here. Probably still. I've joked before that if I was on the Mayflower we'd live somewhere east of the first river we came on. Like, I can't get over that we're done. Let's just make a house right here. But, but other people see that river and they think like, no, most people, we're going to climb over. We're gonna get into a wagon, and go from here to Oregon. Are you kidding? Like, like, as safe as the world is right? Now? If I told you to walk to Oregon, you'd be like, I'm not doing that. I said no, no, the life you that you dream of Erika, it's a 3000 mile. Yeah, you'd be like, Nah, I'm sorry. I'm gonna write where I'm at. It sounds like so that there's something about people it's, it's, it's wonderful, right? But then you put it in this exact situation. And what what starts out as and what is mostly a great trait that will get you through life turns into the thing that's, it's stabbing you in the back and you don't realize it right away? I've never heard one person say it. And not mean it. If that makes sense. I don't let diabetes slow me down. I don't let diabetes get in my way. Like they always meet it. And so I don't know, like, I'm just so what do you do? If you're listening to this? And you find yourself thinking, I feel like that I feel like nothing stops me. I accomplish everything I want. But is the guy talking? He's onto something my A once he's like 8.5? Like, how do you shift that mindset to like put that that energy that desire to like triumph? Like how do you put it into the place where where you might actually figure out how to take care of yourself better?

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 14:10
I think the answer depends on from which lens, you know who the age is the caregiver? Is it the teenager? Often times I think if you're a teen and thinking that you have this sense of you know, they don't often don't feel like they're invincible. It's hard to think forward, you know, complications. And you're, you're kind of in the moment. And so for a teenager, it's hard. It's hard to get them to that place of understanding of how to take care of yourself. I think there's I would go underneath what what is interfering with that process of acceptance of understanding that you know what, I really do need to take care of myself. And oftentimes, I think it is maybe there isn't a connection to a Mmm, did you process the diagnosis? Are you still carrying anger, unresolved anger? Are you trying to figure out your identity as a teenager? In spite of but also connected to your diabetes? And oftentimes, I think when that I know, we I keep bringing up this acceptance. And I think that's one of the things also on your list of, you know, what does that really mean to accept it? It is a process. But part of that what it means to accept is to integrate it into your life and know that you know, there is you can't live a healthy life, but you can't you can't ignore it.

Scott Benner 15:37
Do you talk ever about optimism bias?

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 15:44
Yes, I think that's a really good Go ahead. And just really interesting thought

Scott Benner 15:47
there's, there's part of me that wants to take the list of all the, the biases that humans have, and just lose series about them. And the problem is, I've tried a couple of times, he can never find somebody who really is like, I could really dig in on this one. You know what I mean? Like, because I want to have that conversation, but an optimism bias, just as it's defined, a cognitive bias that causes someone to believe that they themselves are less likely to experience a negative event. It is also known as an unrealistic optimism, optimism or CU, comparative optimism, optimism bias is common. Throughout people it's saying doesn't matter your nationality or ethnicity or age, that it's a common feeling. And it's what I'm talking about. It's that it's, it's me watching my father smoke three packs of cigarettes a day, and him saying, like, it's not getting me and then that's what kills him. You know, because right up until it did, he's like, I went to the doctor doctor said, I always used to feel angry about this doctor told me he can't even tell him a smoker. And I used to think he can't smell that you smell like for ashtrays rubbed on a hot days foot. Like you don't I mean, like we're right, but maybe the gut, maybe the doctor never said that. But my dad would come home and say that, like they say they can't even tell. And eventually, you know, he had congestive heart failure and he died. And so. But why is that? Like, why do we see the old lady on the news? Who lived to 100. And in our minds, we're all like, that'll be me. She meanwhile, it's so rare. They got to put her on the news. I don't know why I just don't I don't understand why. like common sense, doesn't take over and say to you, I'm not going to be that person. I don't know if I've shared this with you. But as my mom had health issues as she's gotten older over the last couple of years, I went to my wife earnestly, and I said, I'm 51. And I said, I am going to begin treating the next 15 years like they are the last 15 years I have. I was like no and then everybody right away said, Oh no, no, you're gonna Oh my God, I didn't say I was gonna die when I was 16. Right? I said, I'm gonna treat the next 15 years like they're the last ones. Because the last six years of my mom's life have not been she hasn't been at the waterpark. You know what I mean? Like, like, but we all feel that way. We're like, Oh, if I lived at in your mind, you imagine that on your 80th day when you drop dead? You're in the backyard playing croquette with a with a with a brandy. You know, I'll just hit a couple balls. Oh, and then over. Doesn't it doesn't work that way for everybody. Everybody doesn't get to be the lady on the news. And I don't know how that thinking isn't obvious and how it doesn't translate to health? Because that's all I think about when I think about my kids health. You know, like, this is it. We need to figure this out now because laters too late. And damage is happening. Like I don't know. I don't know, maybe there's something wrong with me. But that's

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 18:46
no, I think that's because you're you're you're a realist, but you're also have an optimistic, hopeful outlook. In life. You're not a you're not a pessimist. You're not, you know, doom and gloom. But I think you're able to apply, you have that sense of hope. And you want to give your children a long, healthy life. And you're able to apply that and say, okay, but we need to be realistic with what we need to do in order to have as long of a life as possible. And I think we all have a sense of you know, optimism and hope that we are going to live a healthy long life. But what you're what we're trying to figure out is what is the difference between those who have that hope, but ignore reality, versus those who have that hope and couldn't attend to like your current immediate needs? Yeah. Right. Like we're trying to differentiate between those two. And I think the bias piece, you know, we all have certain biases and distortions that we believe. And part of you know, becoming attuned to your, your way of thinking and acting and living in your behaviors is understanding some of those, you know, biases and distortions.

Scott Benner 19:57
So is that done in therapy?

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 20:00
Well, yes, it can be done. We can just talk

Scott Benner 20:03
somebody into right now like, like, throwing a little cold water in their face and say, I'm probably not going to be okay. 30 years from now with my nine a one say?

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 20:13
Well, yes, I think I, as you know, I definitely appreciate the value of cognitive behavioral therapy. And it's understanding how our thoughts affect how we feel, which obviously impact what we do. And that can go it's the cognitive triangle, we can start with our actions which impact how we feel which impact how we think about ourselves, it can go at any which way. And so part of the initial work that I do with a lot of my clients is understanding what are those lies is the easiest way to call them that we believe about ourselves, or about our worlds that impact what we do and how we feel. And then and then we want to break down those that those lies or distortions and replace them with truths. Yeah, so that is something you can do yes, in therapy.

Scott Benner 20:57
I'm thinking of the things that I I know aren't true about myself that I, I lie to myself about as you were saying that I was like, Oh, I have some like,

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 21:05
like, what do you want to share? I

Scott Benner 21:13
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Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 23:50
like, what do you want to share?

Scott Benner 23:51
I definitely think I look taller than I am. The small one, I I've told myself that I carry my weight better than my size. Which is not true. Like that's not like I look at if I looked at myself reasonably, I'd be like, Oh, I should lose 20 pounds. But but I've taught myself that I have broad shoulders, or that like, like that. Like it's okay, because I can carry it up here. And it's visually it's okay. And it runs along the same lines. This one actually happens to be reasonably true. But the mechanism is similar. I look younger than I am. And somehow I'll talk myself into making that think I am younger than I am. But I'm not I just appear younger. If you meet me at first, and I'm and I'm you'll look at me and you'll you know, I mean beyond. He's 35 I could I could pass for 40 Right, right. Yeah, totally. Yeah. And so, and then I start talking and I'm goofy and then people shave off yours for that because they think like an adult wouldn't speak like this that's All lovely, and everything, but my knees still hurts and my back is stiff. And I, you know, I still go outside sometimes to do something and go to lift something up and think, man, you should not pick this up. Right? You know, but I feel I've talked myself into believing I'm younger than I am. That's all and even like, there are times you can. Okay, there are times.

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 25:23
I like pause, do you want to share this?

Scott Benner 25:27
There are times that I hear things on this podcast, that somebody sharing is a negative that they've learned how to get past for instance, and I'll think, Oh, God, I do that sometimes. Yes, yes. And, and then I can picture where in my life I do it. And then I don't do anything about it. Right. But one of the things that I've, I'm disappointed with myself all the time I fixed last week. So that's exciting. It was, but it always everything else ended with me crying, but hold on a second. Oh, I'm sorry. That's okay. I, I grew up, it's not a person who makes eye contact during conversation. And I recognize that is a younger person that has younger adult, and I ignored it. And I told myself, it's okay, because when you talk to people, you're entertaining the group. You know what I mean? Like you're you're doing because I am, I can be that person in a group where I'm like, you're looking here, and you're looking there. And sometimes you just talk, you know, but I don't look people in the face. And I decided to do something about it. When I recognized one day, it's the silliest thing. But my son used the pacifier for the first couple years of his life. And then when he stopped using it, I had this horrible feeling that I had missed what His face looked like, while he was using it, if this makes sense or not. And I thought, I'm having conversations with people. And I'm not looking at them. I'm like, not seeing their face. And so I started to more constructively I say to myself, like, you have to look people in the eye. And in the beginning, it was hard. Like, I don't know, I bet Oh, my God. And then I got past that. I'm like, Okay, it's not trouble for me to look you in the face anymore. And, and that's the thing that I do now. So now, fast forward, my son gets his first real job. And we have to take him far away, to set him up for his first real job. And I get there with him on a Wednesday, and I'm going to leave on a Saturday, and we're very busy. We're buying furniture and like, getting his cable turned on and getting food and buying a pots and pans like everything. Yeah, all the adulting things. Yes, he had nothing, you know, plus, he's not sure he's gonna be there for very long. So we're trying not to, like, overload him with stuff, you know, like, you don't need seven pans like, here's a couple I think you'll be okay with. And as this time is going on, and we're spending it together, I keep thinking, I'm gonna leave in a couple of days, I'm gonna leave in four days, I'm gonna leave in three days. I'm upset. I don't want him to be upset. So I'm not going to tell him I'm upset. And finally, I thought that's not right. Like, that's not right. He needs to know how upset I am that I'm leaving him here. You know, so I said to him, I want you to know that over the next couple of days, you are going to look up at me. And it's going to seemingly be out of nowhere. And I'm going to be crying. And I was like, and it's not because I'm sad. It's this is such a great opportunity for you, you're going to do great at this. I'm not worried about you. It's nothing like that. I just and I said I could tell you that I'm going to miss you, which would be true. It was like But the core thing here and I second. It's me. I don't want to leave you here. And I think it's because my dad left me. I said I think that's why this is I feel like I'm abandoning you here. And I'm like, I know I'm not. I'm like you're going to be great. But I don't want to stand here swallowing all that. And us that just have these awkward moments together. Because you're looking at me and I'm thinking, oh my god, what are you doing? Take him home. Don't leave him here. Like don't leave him here the way somebody left you like don't do that. Plus, I'm adopted. So technically, I've been abandoned twice. So so I'm like, I'm sitting there having that thought. I'm like, I'm gonna share this with him instead. And my son is like my wife. Like they have the Irish thing going, like, you know what I mean? Like the palace is on fire. Dead bodies are falling all around you and they're like, this is gonna be fine. Yeah, doesn't matter. Let's not show like anything. But I could look at him sometimes. And he looked like he was five in his face because he was worried not about me, by the way about this whole thing. Right? And so I'm like, I'm like We're adults. And I don't want to, I don't want there to be any confusion here. I don't want him to think my dad's mad or sad or scared that I say, I'm gonna suck at this or something, I'm just gonna let them know why I might be acting strangely. So I did that. And then, and he gave me a nice hug. And we sat together for a minute. And then when I went to leave, I cried. Yeah. And he was uncomfortable. And I'm like, I'm sorry, I'll be okay. And then if you I mean, to finish this story out, like I got in the car, I had to drive away. And I screamed a couple of times, like, in a very, like, very, like, not focused primal way, I had to stop myself from like, not living outside of his door for the rest of my life, I guess. And, and I, I kept going. And I just, I did the same thing. This is gonna sound so strange, that I learned in Dr. Sardos book about back pain. I just told myself it was going to be okay. That the things that I was worried about, they weren't real. I reminded myself about the good situation he was in, and that this was going to be okay. But I'll tell you that I had to drive from his house to my daughter's, which is a different story. College. So I was in the car for three hours by myself. And about 45 minutes into it, I thought, I need to call somebody who loves me. And I called my brother and my brother and I chatted about this a little bit, and then something else, because I was making myself upset. And and you know what I mean? So anyway, what are you talking about that, but

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 31:43
no, but that's such a beautiful gift you gave your son, and we'll just being authentic with how you feel. I think often as parents and connecting us to diabetes in the government, we feel like many caregivers will share with me that they can't, they feel like they don't want to cry in front of their child, they don't want to make it feel like worse than it is. But I think that's okay, it gives them permission to be upset or cry. So I think you gave him the gift of like being authentic with how you're feeling in the moment. And then you, you worked your way through interrupting that those lies of that narrative that you had experienced with your father. And you were breaking that cycle. And also, replacing it with truth that it is going to be okay, this is not the lie that you are that you know, your brain is like flirting with, like, you know, this is not the truth. The truth is you love him, you've set him up for success, you're not abandoning him, and you reminded yourself of all those truths. And, and then you did something and it helps you feel better reach out to a connected, you know, to feel connected with a loved one. So you worked yourself through some of those techniques all by yourself, you did reality checking and all those things. Well, they

Scott Benner 32:55
a couple of them were just out of like, like sheer, like necessity. You're right, because as I was like you like when my wife and I didn't get pregnant on the first time on purpose. And so it was a shock. We'd been married for a couple of years, we were talking about having kids, but we did not purposely get pregnant with call. And then in the months leading up to her having the baby. We started talking about daycare, and I was the one that said I don't think I can leave the kid in daycare, it feels like it feels like we I told her back then we were so young, I said it feels like we bought a puppy to put it in the kennel. Like that's what it felt like to me. And I was like, and I was like so I said to my wife, like you should stay home with the baby. She laughed at me because I had no prospects for any kind of reasonable work. And she was doing pretty well. And then she said, you know, you should do what I think you'd be a good stay at home dad. So there's something I don't care what anybody says like I had to make a number of, of adjustments and how I was raised and how I grew up. The first one was in the first year he was alive. I realized that my wife would be doing things almost naturally, that I didn't know to do, and that I had to sort of give myself over to this if he was going to be served in a way that he needed, right. And plus I was I was cheating myself. Because I was just caregiving. And my wife was being cheated because she wasn't having this connection with my son. I was like, Well, I'm gonna at least honor all of this if I'm gonna do this. And that was kind of my first leap. But then when you do that, and you just give yourself over to it. When he like turn when you go from being a guy who was like raised to like, you know, go kill something and find a pretty girl, get her to have sex with you and then buy a car, like you know what I mean? Like go dominate things and like when you're raised like that, you know, being at home with a baby day to day. I don't know if anybody's ever done it, but it's a lot and it's monotonous and you have to find joy in it. You have to find joy and things that you can't imagine there's joy in at some point and And that just bonds you together with that kid in a way that I'm standing there now thinking, I know, he's been out of college for seven months, he needs to get the hell out of here. Like he was starting to get stir crazy, you know? And all this is good for him. And all I could think was, I think I could afford for him to live here longer. Like, why would it matter if he stayed here? Like you because the house is very still without the kids. It's a weird feeling. It's not good. And, and my wife and I seem to be doing okay with it. But as I was in his apartment, I was like, why don't I just tell him like, he doesn't want to do this. So he doesn't really want to be an adult like I could. I could throw some money around, I'll take another advertiser, and I'll keep them in my house forever, you know what I mean? Or something like that. And, and not to say that out loud was hard. But anyway, we were talking about how to break things that you don't want to do. Yeah, sorry. That's all. Yes, I'm sorry.

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 35:58
No, it's a good. I think you modeled a lot through all that you shared?

Scott Benner 36:04
Does any of that help people who are lying to themselves about why they're okay with their current situation? I hope it does.

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 36:13
I. Well, I think you you model that, you know, that? Is it? Is it healthy to, to listen to the lie? No, no. And to you, you have done the work, you know, I don't know if you've been in therapy, or you've done it yourself, or you've read books, but you are, you are learning and applying how to interrupt those lies. And that that pattern thinking that you were exposed to as a child

Scott Benner 36:40
in the in the car and the drive. Before I call my brother. It was fascinating. By the way, I mean, I did a tiny bit of therapy for like a year when I was in my 20s. Other than that I haven't read, I'm embarrassed about how few books I've read. As a matter of fact, once when I was on a book tour for my book, my publisher said stop telling people you don't read. But but I'm in the car, and I'm like, It's okay. And I'm calm, and I'm okay. And then in no time at all. If he I just if I were to just think of him, then it burns like up through your chest through your neck into your head. And it's a it's not a voice like a voice in your head. But you start thinking like, no, that's not right. I'm leaving him there. At one point i i solidly imagined that I had just left him in a box. You know what I mean? Like, I just I driven to another state put my son in a box and I left is how it kind of felt to me. And, and then I'm like, okay, don't think that and don't think that for your own sanity, and for and for his happiness. Because he this is the game, right? Like, you make a baby, you put it in a situation and then you don't go, yeah, it's unfair. To me, my wife, and I, these little bastards have abandoned us again, it's fine. But um, but it's the right thing, you know. And so I don't know, like I did later. It's because of this podcast, because it's talking to so many people keep kind of running through ideas in your head. And I thought to myself, there were a number of times in that car, that there was a dark path in front of me that if I didn't avoid it, I could see how people run down them and get lost. Do you know what I mean? And then that made me feel badly for people who, who get drawn down those paths. I felt lucky to not have that happen to me, honestly.

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 38:46
So yeah, you were able to interrupt the that spiral, right? The spiral, thinking of that life feels like it's over, it's not worth living. And you were able to find something within yourself like, okay, that now's the time, I need to reach out to somebody, and that's hard for people to do. Yeah, it's when they're, when they're really in that low place of that really low depressed thinking, and they, you know, kind of spiraled down to do what you did. It can be really challenging for people. And you also, it kind of feels like you know, grounding, you grounded yourself to the present moment. Whether you're in the car, you're going up to paying attention to what you're doing. And that's something that people can do when they're in the middle of that spiral. And feeling like there's no hope to ground yourself to the present. Maybe it's looking at three, there's nothing all sorts of techniques. You can Google them for grounding techniques. But looking at you're looking at three things that you can see two things that you can touch one thing that you can hear it there, it doesn't really matter which way you go, but like bringing yourself to the present moment to interrupt that spiral can be helpful.

Scott Benner 39:56
I'll tell you where it helped the next day so to give a little other context, through odd circumstances, my son had to be in a part of, I think I'm supposed to say Arden's in Chicago and college. She's she choked ones out of the pocket. She's like, if people are just telling him in Chicago, she's not. Okay. So basically, my son needed to be across the country, in the same state that my daughter was in, but three and a half hours from each other in this state. And they had to leave on the same day, and they had to start either class or their job on the same day. So I had to, I had to leave him that night to drive the three and a half hours to where my wife was with my daughter so that we could drive home, right. And it's a 14 hour drive home. And so I get to her, she's in a hotel with my wife. And I'm like, you know, I don't know, when I get there. Maybe midnight because I kept hanging on. I was supposed to go have dinner with my daughter, and I just, I couldn't leave my son. And I was like, I can't I can't I texted Kelly, I'm like, I can't make myself leave. You know, like, I'm trying, you know, and so I missed dinner, which then I felt bad about that. And but I'm sure they all sat around and joke that dad's crying right now he can't come to dinner, which would have been right. And so I get, I get to the, to the hotel, my wife's already in bed, it's late. And I lay down. And, and she's like, are you okay? And I'm like, I did the wrong thing. Like, I'm like, I just I was like, I did the wrong thing. And then I get really emotional. Like, I'm, it's, I come in and I'm okay with it now, and I'm still upset right now. Right? Like, so. I'm like I did, she's like, No, you did. And I was like, No, I did, I left in there. That was like, I was like, you know, like, I shouldn't have done and, and so I got through that. Okay. And then the reason I'm sharing that with us, because the next day when I said goodbye to Arden after lunch, she's like, it's okay, if you want to cry. I'm like, I'm okay. Like, and she did. She was like, what? Were the tears, like, when you're the guy that cries lets me know, I'm gonna be missed. Like, when is this happening? Mom's over there, like an Irish statue, like getting ready to go. Like, like, you know, where are you? And I just said, I told her, I was like, she's like, you're gonna cry. I'm like, I'm not like, this is a good spot for you. I'm like, It's okay. You know, and I'm like, I'm really upset that I'm not gonna see you, but I don't think I'm gonna cry. And she was like, All right, like, seen her like, she was like, a little let down. She's like me. So she was, I don't know, she was joking with me. And I got a little teary. And I said, I am really going to miss you. And, you know, we'll be back to visit in a few months. And I left and we got out in the hallway. And Kelly's like, You didn't cry. And I was like, I think I figured it out last night, you know. So anyway, I don't know why I'm I just really to bring this back around. If you are saying I don't let diabetes slow me down. Because your variability is good, and you don't get low, when you're out playing soccer, or you figured out how to eat, I don't know, cheese fries without spiking for three hours, then then diabetes isn't slowing you down. And that's amazing. But if you were one of the people that I've spoken to who said diabetes isn't slowing me down. And there's a lot more to that sentence that you're not sharing, I hope that you can find a way to push through that stuff and, and get to a place where you really are, you know, it's a word people dance around all the time. And I don't understand why they do. People try not to say control around diabetes, but I mean, I'd like for you to get into a better decision making tree so that you have outcomes, you know what I mean? That are more reliable?

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 43:52
Yes, well, I I appreciate your vulnerability and sharing that your story with your precious children. I think the the mindset of diabetes isn't going to stop me that can also be like a family culture mindset, that maybe as expressed at diagnosis, because they want to instill hope that this you know, you can still play the sports and you can still do all the things that you can eat the cake, and you can get married and have babies if you're, you know, want to and can. I think that that mindset, it can be healthy, but it also can prevent the space for the emotional processing, which, you know, you die diabetes is not going to stop me but Batang I'm really sad and angry. Why did I get this? And if there's no space for that expression of frustration, then maybe you just adopt the diabetes isn't going to stop me I can't I can't let it stop me. And but I still have all these other feelings. And I don't really know how to control it. Yeah. So I think what start off maybe as a really positive, hopeful mindset of your family system, it can maybe wreak havoc on how you process it as a child or teen or young adult or a grown adult. And interfere with Yeah, how to actually manage control, that your sugars,

Scott Benner 45:20
I think it also matters as you're talking like it. In my mind, I'm imagining it matters who you are to me, because there are certain people who hear that, and they were always going to be the people, it wasn't going to get in the way off, right. Like, there were certain people who were just going to be like, didn't matter what happened to them, they were going to like pop out of it, you know, right, with a 2% body fat with a shine on them. look amazing. This is going my way. Like they're just there's some people who just that works for them. I wonder if I wonder if it's not a blanket statement that's given at the beginning. And if you don't know that when it's happening, like what happens when someone says, Don't worry, this isn't going to get in your way, when you know about yourself, you are the kind of person who falls down rabbit holes and things get in your way, then it just probably feels like a lie. It probably feels empty. Like when like when my wife sometimes like when my son was looking for a job, anything he applied for she'd like, you'd be good at that. And she's like, Mom, I have not said one thing yet that you were like, no, don't do that. You know, she's like, you're my mom, this is what you're gonna say. My wife later said to me later, yeah, my wife later said to me, there was something he applied for. I was like, Oh, that would not be good for him. But but she didn't. She didn't tell him right. But I wonder like, we are who we are. And a platitude, which is really what this is. Right? Don't worry. Plenty of people. First let's list some famous people. We know Westside who have type one diabetes, you didn't know that this guy had it and Bobby Clark, for the flyers like, Wait, you're bringing up 70s hockey, like, okay, you know, like, um, it didn't stop him and blah, blah, blah. And, and I think that's meant that way. But I think some people hear that now that I've spoken to more people have more of a depressed mindset, they're probably like, they probably hear that and think, oh, it's gonna get me, you know, like, I'm not going to be the one. And then the person who gives you the platitude is like, Oh, I did my job, I told him, it's not going to stop them. And then the people who aren't stopped by it, we're never going to be stopped by it to begin with. It's like me taking credit for being able to work through this complicated thing that might have fell somebody else like I can't take credit for that's just how my brain works. Like, my easily my brain could work a different way. And I could have driven my car into a tree, you know, like, and just been like, Everything's over. So Erica, every time we get down to these conversations, I realize there's no way

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 47:53
sorry. No, it's it's it's complicated, right? It's it's your mindset. It's your family upbringing, your culture, you're up? I know, we've talked about this a lot about like, you know, what is it for your resilience? And what does that actually mean? How is that nature versus nurture all of those things? But I think yeah, being mindful of is it a platitude, and how is that landing for whoever you're sharing that with? is really important to remember? Yeah,

Scott Benner 48:24
I mean, if you're a health care provider, or you're the parent, or a loved one of somebody who has been diagnosed that you can't just run around being like, don't worry. And there are also people who you can't pile on them, like, Oh, my God, there's a lot to worry about here, like, equally as bad for that person. And who's who, in that scenario, and by the way, most people most of y'all listening, you don't even know who you are, in that scenario you think you do. But you're often not the person you think you are. You know, like sometimes it's you think, Oh, I can handle this. But I mean, I've talked to plenty of people who get caught up in almost like OCD, like rituals about keeping their kids safe. And, you know, they say things that are, I mean, one of the things we'll talk about in another episode is how, like, you see online, somebody says something, and then they get attacked. And if you really look at it, you realize the person attacking them is trying to quell a fear in their own mind. And like, See, you're, you know, you're not always who you think you are. I'm not who I think I am. You know, like, so. It's interesting. It's we're

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 49:25
all Yeah, we're all on a journey of becoming more self aware. But just to be aware, that you're not self aware is the first step. Perhaps.

Scott Benner 49:36
This is completely inappropriate. So I won't say that. Well, now I'm going to say because I thought I used it when I was younger. And somebody would be like, what's with that person? I'd say, Listen, crazy. People don't know they're crazy. You got to cut them a break. You know, and now I've come to realize like, none of us really know ourselves that well. And, you know, it's just, you're trying to figure it out as you go like when it hit Me, I was like, Oh, I'm upset because I feel abandoned. I was like, that's why I don't want to do to my son the worst thing that's ever happened to me, even though that is not what's happening right now. It was, you know, fascinating. So But that's so

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 50:17
profound that you were able to make that connection. I am feeling this way because I was treated this way. But this is not what's happening now. I mean, that those two sentences, I don't know how you got there. But that's, that's pretty profound and hard to do. For many people.

Scott Benner 50:34
Well, it was self preservation because I thought my heart was going to explode. And I, and I don't, I'm not prone to like panic attacks. So I wasn't there was going to be no outlet for it. Like, I felt like I was going to explode. You know, so it's, it's just, I don't know, like, I just thought like, I've got to figure out what this is. Or I'm gonna, like, I felt like I was gonna die. Like I like there's I know, I wasn't going to but it felt like that.

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 51:03
Well, that's what people say, who feel like they're having a panic attack is that they feel like they're going to die, then truly, they believe it and they feel it. Yeah, I

Scott Benner 51:10
didn't get to that part. I was just like, I was like, I've got to like figure this out. Like I, I did my best to step out of myself.

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 51:19
Had you had well, I was gonna ask more questions about that. But I was gonna ask, have you had those connections, those thoughts before? Like, this is why I feel this way because of abandonment.

Scott Benner 51:32
No, that was the first time that was,

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 51:34
yeah. Oh, wow. I

Scott Benner 51:36
was like, Oh, this is because my dad left. And I was like, okay, like, and they I mean, the adopted thing is like, I joke about it a lot here. I really don't think about whatever. But if I start thinking about my dad leaving, it's not lost on me that he's the second father that that apparently was okay with being like, Hilliard. And because that is, and then I look back on leaving my son at college. And maybe I'm lying. The first time I left my son at college. I found myself wondering how my dad could have left me. Like, it didn't I didn't put it together. Yeah, I asked the question of myself. Like, if this is what it felt like to leave my son somewhere safe. That was good for him. How could my dad have left but I quickly transitioned into He must really not care about me. Like, because if he felt this way, how could he have gone? And done it? Yeah, right. Right. And so but I never got past that. And that was four years ago. So this was the first time I've thought about it since then. And it was because it was more. It's finite. Like for all of you have young kids, like the college thing hurts, but then they come back like a bunch of times a year. And or they'll play a sport or you'll go there or something like that, you actually end up seeing each other more frequently than you think as long as it's not like great distance away. But this thing, I thought, like, he could be good at this. They could offer him a different position. He might never come back here. Like and like, he might never, like he might never live in my house again. And I know some people are like, I don't know how everybody feels about their kids. I like my children. Like, you know what I mean? Like, I like them being here, they bring something to the conversation. It makes me I'm gonna tell you one more thing. So the other night, I cook for people. I don't know what that says about me. I don't love food myself. But I like cooking for other people. And I make cookies every once in a while. And sometimes nobody even eats them. And I don't care. I love making them for people. Like I see like my kid pill cookie out. I'm like, This is great. Like, you know, it feels good. So we have these boxes of and when your kids leave, they always forget something. So we have the like forgotten boxes that have to be ups to people. And I said to my wife, I'm like, I'm going to make some cookies, and I'm going to put them in the boxes. My son stuff, my daughter stuff. And my son's girlfriend who left the hair straightener here apparently is my job to send to her. But I'm like, I'm gonna give her some cookies to write. So. So the other night, I got my work done. And I thought I'm going to make the cookies now. And I made them and as I was halfway through it, I felt bereft. And my wife's like, are you okay? And I just go, it doesn't feel the same. And she's like, what? And I was like, making the cookies doesn't feel the same. And I was like, I don't know why it's hollow. And I'm, I'm so annoyed. I just want to throw them away. was like I don't care that I'm sending them to them. I don't care that they're going to get them I don't care if the like them. Like there. I couldn't there's one for you. I can't figure that one out yet. Like I'll get to it, but it felt weird. And I didn't like it is the best thing I can tell you. So anyway, he

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 55:02
feels that feels like growing up. It's grief you're grieving. You know, I stay horrible. Yes. Painful. I

Scott Benner 55:09
did eat the cookie slider just so you know. I sent them some but I was like, right, but a couple. Anyway, do you think people listen to this and think wow, Scott's found a way to trick this woman into giving him free therapy?

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 55:25
I don't know. I haven't had you sign a consent form?

Scott Benner 55:32
I have not. Did this conversation do justice to the the idea of that I brought up in the beginning. I don't know, what was the idea? I don't want diabetes slow me down.

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 55:45
I'm getting. Yeah, God. Gosh, I mean, perhaps we probably could even do a part b i feel like dissecting it further if we wanted, but I think we it was a good conversation. Yeah,

Scott Benner 55:58
I just I listened to, it's gonna feel weird that I shift gears like this so quickly, because I was legitimately just crying a little while ago. But um, I think about this podcast, the way I think about my kids. And the way I think about everything, like I, as I'm bringing up stories about myself, they are absolutely true stories, but in my mind, they're gonna move this conversation and the people listening in a certain direction. So I am a tiny bit Machiavellian about it, which is bizarre, because I'm an idiot, Erica, but this, I'm good at this. I'll get past the fact that I can't add or subtract, but this thing I might be pretty good at. So I just, I really feel very strongly about it. Like, like that statement. Every time someone says it. It's like a bell rings in my head. I was like, somebody needs to do something about that. Like, like, you know, people can't live their whole life celebrating, that they're ignoring their body deteriorating, but at least they went to Burning Man. Like I like the only mean, like, because that is how it feels to me when it said sometimes. And it's not, it doesn't need to be that way. You know, like me, if you're strong enough to ignore high blood sugars, and all the horrible things that come with it to go do the things that you really want to do, then dammit, you're strong enough to figure out how to get your blood sugar lower to begin with, you know, I don't know. And I just feel like, I feel like that there's a conversation somewhere that will spark somebody into doing that thing. And if I've got to lay my soul out so that you people take better care of yourself, then that's what I'm going to do. Because obviously, at the end of this year from now, Eric is going to tell me that I'm making this podcast to take care of myself, because I feel like nobody took care of me or something like heavy like, you know, like on the last day, I'm gonna be leading in the microphone we like. Go on. Alright, that sounds right. Is there in the last minute just to tease it out for the next episode? There there's something about how I grew up that leads me to want to help other people, right?

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 58:06
Oh, absolutely. Yeah, you have a helper helper mentality. Yeah. You want to pay it forward in a way that maybe you didn't receive as a child? I would nothing wrong with that. No, I

Scott Benner 58:17
don't know. I think I'd prefer to have the guy at the club mentality. Like, those people look like they're having a great time. So it gets Friday night, a little high there dancing. I've never done that in my life. I'm busy making sure people have cookies.

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 58:33
Well, I think I wanted to add to Scott that I think the people who are maybe saying, you know, the diabetes isn't getting in the way. I think they ultimately want to, they want to though they want or they want to know how to manage their diabetes. And so what is that? That's the fascinating piece of like, what is blocking that? Because I think they don't, they don't want to ignore it because they ultimately know what's happening to their body.

Scott Benner 59:01
Oh, I truly believe that. I don't think that I've ever spoken to anyone who doesn't care. Yeah, never, never once they have varying degrees of success. They have varying degrees of guilt, they have great degrees of stress. But in the end, it's that thing you said once got out about, about the about burning out. And that it's that the hardest part is that you're trying so hard, over and over and over again and you're not getting a result like that. That's the That's what burnout is like. It's not the end when you give up. It's it's the part where you're like I don't have the right tools. Like somebody gave you a screwdriver to like nail the put a nail and you get up every day and spend 24 hours trying to make that screwdriver and a hammer doesn't work you know and Yes. Anyway, I that's how that's how it strikes me is that I've never once talked to somebody with diabetes who I thought oh, they don't care. I've never thought that

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 1:00:00
Right, right. Yeah. And I don't think you do either. I think it's just that that's where the empathy pieces of like, I know, I know they want to change. And, you know, I hope that they are able to find that what is that piece that's preventing them from getting to that place of acceptance?

Scott Benner 1:00:18
It's hard. But Well, I appreciate you doing this, I hope. I hope everybody appreciates me giving myself up like this to hope. Because I guess there's, I'm in the middle. I'm like, why am I doing this? Like, why? Because a lot of people are gonna hear this. And I'm just like, I'm like, I'm crying in the cards, screaming and blah, blah, blah. Anyway, all right. Well,

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 1:00:41
I don't think people talk about you know, the emptiness stage very much. So I think you probably normalized a lot of people's experience in a really healthy way.

Scott Benner 1:00:51
Listen, I'm gonna tell you something. The hardest thing I did in the last week was turn my wife down when she was like, we could have another baby. And I was like, Ooh, no. That's not okay. That kid would end up really poorly raised in school for this now, it's, I at first thought that it was the past of time that I, I was upset about, and there is some of that, like, I just like, at one point, my son's like, what's wrong? And I said, I didn't think my life would go by this quickly. You know, and, and I just like, I'm like, I always knew we were going to get here. I just don't understand how it's happening. Yes, yeah. That's all because I can like, I can see him in my head at like, different stages of his life. And it was like, how did we get past that so quickly? Like, get away? How did uh, it's just the weirdest thing about time a day takes forever, a week takes forever a month goes by and you know, and you're like, oh, it's New Year's Eve again. Like, but how's that possible? Because every day felt like it took forever, you know?

Erika Forsyth, MFT, LMFT 1:01:55
Anyway, I'm gonna you're encouraging me. I'm gonna go be very present and focused with my children today. Appreciate where they are sure that

Scott Benner 1:02:03
bother. Thank you. Good. 15 minutes. You're very welcome. Well, a huge thanks to Erica for coming on the show again and sharing her insights with us. Don't forget Erica forsyth.com is where you can find her. And I have it here somewhere. If you live in California, Utah, Oregon, and Florida, you can use Erica. And she's adding more states all the time. So keep checking back at Erica forsyth.com. I'd like to thank the Contour Next One blood glucose meter. Why am I thanking a blood glucose meter you say? Well for sponsoring the Juicebox Podcast and for being amazing. Contour next one.com forward slash juice box get yourself an accurate, reliable and easy to carry meter.

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#833 Very Strange Basal

Katherine has type 1 diabetes and she talks managment with Scott.

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Scott Benner 0:00
Hello friends, and welcome to episode 833 of the Juicebox Podcast.

This episode is very interesting. 18 year old Catherine and I are having a conversation. She's talking about how it's going with her diabetes. And then suddenly something strikes me as being not quite right. And we begin to talk about the management of her type one and how she's using insulin. Before you know it, Catherine and I are texting each other, trying to get things straight. And then she comes back on the show. Anyway, it's very, it's not it's not as confusing as I'm making it sound she came on. Something sounded wonky. We talked it through on the podcast. Then I chatted with her infrequently for a couple of days by text message, and then she came back on the show to tell me how it went. Anyway, that's what I should just said the first time. Also, I should have said that nothing you hear on the Juicebox Podcast is considered advice, medical or otherwise, always consult a physician before making any changes to your health care plan are becoming bold with insulin. And don't forget, please go to T one D exchange.org. Forward slash juice box, fill out that survey. It takes fewer than 10 minutes. It helps diabetes research. And you can be a big part of it right from your sofa, T one D exchange.org forward slash juicebox. This episode of The Juicebox Podcast is sponsored by Omni pod. And Omni pod makes the Omni pod five and the Omni pod dash. I'll tell you more about each of them in the ad. But for now all you need to know is Omni pod.com forward slash juice box. That's where you go to get started right now with the tubeless insulin pump that my daughter has been wearing since she was four years old. The podcast is also sponsored today by us Med and US med is the place where Arden gets her diabetes supplies. And you could to get your free benefits check right now at 888-721-1514. Or you can always go to us med.com forward slash juicebox. Get your diabetes supplies the way we do.

Katherine 2:29
I'm Katherine and I've been a type one diabetic since February 22 2021. And I live in Connecticut.

Scott Benner 2:36
Wow. Just a year and a month almost. Yep. Katherine, are you 12 years old or are you just have a very young voice?

Katherine 2:44
I must have a very young voice. I'm 18. Okay,

Scott Benner 2:47
well, okay. 18 is young. Don't worry. But still, you sound like you're younger, even so I was like, Oh, I sometimes you know, I don't read the notes. Catherine. I don't really know what I'm doing when we sit down. Yeah, I'm just sort of like, yesterday, I recorded with somebody who's been on the show before, did an amazing job. I really enjoyed talking to them. And we're six minutes into it. And I'm like, I think I know this person. So we figured it out as we were going and I was so I was actually very embarrassed. And I said to her I was like Maddie, I feel like we met at the mall. And I knew everything about you except your name. And I was standing there having that conversation where you're like, oh my god, it's you. And then you walk away and say to your like the person with you like Who was that? They're like, it's Scott. You go. Ah, I couldn't think of the name. Anyway. 18 diagnosed a year ago. 17 Have you even left for college yet?

Katherine 3:42
Not? Yeah, I'm a senior in high school. Wow. Wow. When do you graduate? Like any day? Yeah, June, June 10.

Scott Benner 3:49
No kidding. Congratulations. I mean, yeah. Are you gonna graduate? Yes. And congratulations. I have to go to summer school. Scott. I need three more credits. Do you are you planning on going to college?

Katherine 4:04
Uh, yes. I'm gonna be I'm gonna study for elementary education.

Scott Benner 4:07
Oh, that's lovely. Was that always your plan? Yeah,

Katherine 4:11
since I was pi, seven,

Scott Benner 4:13
gotcha. has diabetes changed anything about your college plans? Or?

Katherine 4:19
I'm a little bit I'm still living away from home. But I chose a very close college. So if there are any problems I can commute and call my parents if I need them.

Scott Benner 4:30
And that wasn't the plan originally. No, not originally. Were How far away were you gonna go? Do you think?

Katherine 4:39
I, you know, I was really sky's the limit. Hawaii, California. Probably like mass or New York.

Scott Benner 4:47
Okay. Are you in that area? Like in the Northeast?

Katherine 4:51
Yeah, I'm in Connecticut.

Scott Benner 4:52
Okay. I'm sorry. You said that. I'm sorry. I'm trying to wipe off my whiteboard. So I can write things down that I need to forget it. That's okay. So much graffiti here from art and just making fun of me Hold on a second. She comes in here and writes insulting things. To me, when I'm not looking at that I come sit down. I can't even tell you the one thing I'm looking at right now it's, it's completely inappropriate. Well, you and my daughter are pretty much the exact same age and the exact same situation in life. But as far as diabetes goes, your different ends of the spectrum and she's been at it forever Arden's going all the way to Georgia, from New Jersey. Wow. Yeah. And, but if she just got diabetes a year ago, I don't think I'd have the nerve for that. Maybe? Not sure. Yeah. What technology do you have?

Katherine 5:44
So I have a FreeStyle Libre, two sensor. And I also started an omni pod in December.

Scott Benner 5:51
How are you liking that? I love it. How about the libre? How's the libre?

Katherine 5:57
Um, it's good. I chose it. Because it's circular and round. And I dance a lot. So I rolling on the floor every day. So it was something that I could like, easily move in.

Scott Benner 6:09
Have you recently seen the image of the new Dexcom? g7? That'll be out soon?

Katherine 6:13
I have my dad sent it to me. Yeah,

Scott Benner 6:16
it's pretty much the same. It's small. Yeah, it's

Katherine 6:18
awesome. Flat. It's

Scott Benner 6:19
gonna be cool. But anyway, I mean, whatever works is what works. And I think that's the best. You know, anything that makes your life easier that fits in your life or your budget or whatever? Is? is excellent. I don't Yeah, I would never want people to think you know, like, Dexcom is a sponsor of the show. And they have been forever and Arden's used it forever. But that doesn't make me think that you shouldn't be using something else. You know what I mean? I think I think it's very important to take advantage of technology with diabetes. So let's go back to when you were diagnosed for a second. How did that how did it happen?

Katherine 6:53
So I was just having really bad symptoms. For around nine months, I was extremely exhausted, like, I couldn't, I couldn't get off the couch. I was super, super thirsty, which would come and go. So I didn't think it was a problem. And I would have just like really weird stomach pains. And I just I didn't really know what was going on. So I had a yearly checkup. And I had lost a ton of weight. And they were like, alright, well, we'll do some blood tests. But maybe it's your like nutrition because I I've always had like very healthy foods, and I've been into health a lot. So they're like, oh, it's probably your nutrition. So we'll do some blood tests. And, you know, see, see what happens. And then I got a call. No, like, I need to go to the hospital. Your blood sugar is really high.

Scott Benner 7:47
Oh my gosh, hey, when you said you lost a significant amount of weight, can you share how much just so even if it's just a percentage of your body weight just so people know what to look for?

Katherine 7:56
Yeah, I lost 20 pounds. Wow.

Scott Benner 7:59
Is that a significant amount of your weight? Yes, yeah. Okay. And you're a singer dancer. Yes. So yeah, that's interesting, too, isn't it? Because if you're, you must look like you're healthy. I'm assuming if you're if you're dancing, and you say you're eating very healthy, it's weird that someone would say to you, this is probably a nutrition problem. Did you say that can't be I eat this is how I eat? Or do you just kind of listen to them at that point?

Katherine 8:25
Yeah, I listened to them. Because my parents were really noticing the weight loss. They saw me eating so they were like, alright, something's something's off here.

Scott Benner 8:35
And you're young too. I mean, you're going to a pediatrician still, right? Yes, yeah, gotcha. They're just like skinny equals food. But they got you pretty quickly, because they ran off with a run a full blood panel on you. Yeah, they did. Yeah, maybe the thing about the food was just to keep you calm, because they maybe they closed the door and like, something's really wrong with this girl. You know? Because if you run like a CBC, they did that.

Katherine 9:00
I'm not sure they I just remember I went to go get my blood drawn. And she like, had five vials. And I was like, Whoa,

Scott Benner 9:07
I think you probably had a complete blood panel. And I bet you that part of them was looking for cancer two.

Katherine 9:14
I think Yeah. I think my labs did come back with all that information.

Scott Benner 9:17
Yeah, like white blood cell counts. And yeah, right. I bet you they were scared to something really bad was wrong. And, and that's good. It sounds like they kind of threw the kitchen sink at you and got everything they needed. Pretty quick. Yeah. So did you just, I mean, how did you feel in that moment? Did you just go to the hospital? Or did you make plans? How did you handle it?

Katherine 9:37
Yeah, we just went to the hospital. And I was very calm at the time. It's really crazy. My parents were like, Alright, your blood sugar's really high. Like we need to go to the doctors and I thought it was just the blood drawing lab again. So I'm like, All right, like Yeah, after school, it's good and like, no now and I'm like, Oh, okay. And then we're at the hospital. I'm like, Oh, okay. So Hospital.

Scott Benner 9:59
Hospital. Oh, yeah. Had you been? Had you ever been sick prior to that in your life?

Katherine 10:05
Um, no, I've diabetes was the first

Scott Benner 10:09
thing to happen. Yeah. My brothers

Katherine 10:11
and sisters, younger sister,

Scott Benner 10:14
younger sister, any autoimmune in the family celiac vitiligo, thyroid conditions

Katherine 10:25
and nothing, nothing on both sides

Scott Benner 10:27
with your parents. How about grandparents or anything? Oh, yeah. How about this? Got an aunt that runs to the bathroom after Thanksgiving dinner that nobody talks about? Anything like that?

Katherine 10:36
No, it's nothing. Interesting.

Scott Benner 10:38
Okay. All right. So now you're in the hospital? When does the weight of it hit you?

Katherine 10:47
Um, I would say I was only in the hospital for a day. Because they just COVID Yeah, it was during right right in the middle. And they thought they were testing my blood for something. And it came back fine. I wasn't in DK. So they told me to go straight to the endocrinologist. And I didn't even know what diabetes was. I thought it was you prick your finger once a day. That was it. And maybe you couldn't eat bread? If you're?

Scott Benner 11:19
You know, that would probably be if that's all it was. I think that would actually be good for me. If I if somebody was like, lucky, just can't eat bread. I was like, I might fix a lot of my problems. Thank you. Yeah, well, I was so your ex, your expectation did not meet the reality at all. So did they? Did they educate you in the hospital? Or is it something you learned slowly, over time by yourself?

Katherine 11:44
In the hospital, they really told me nothing. That's when I went to the endocrinologist and she whipped out an insulin pen and was like, You're gonna take this three times a day, then whipped out the nighttime one. She's like, you're gonna take this one today. And I had a phobia of needles. I was terrified. And I was just like,

Scott Benner 11:59
oh, no, I'm not. I was like, you've got to be kidding me. Did you have any pushback? Even internally? Did you have any thoughts of like, This isn't me or I'm not doing this? Or what were your What was your monologue? Like internally?

Katherine 12:13
It was definitely a lot of denial. Like, in a couple days, it would be okay. I wouldn't have to do it. Yeah, because I didn't. I didn't really think I was sick. In my head. I was like, oh, like, I wasn't that sick. I wasn't that sick. But looking back on it now looking at those months and the photos and everything. I was like, oh, yeah,

Scott Benner 12:31
right, right. So it occurs to me two things. First of all, you sound like a very together person for your age, which I don't know what that means. Exactly. But that's the vibe I'm getting so far. Also, I don't think many 18 year olds reach out to be on podcasts about diabetes. So you're a rather mature person your whole life, I'm guessing.

Katherine 12:53
Um, yeah, I've firstborn. So I've been pretty responsible. Gotcha. All right. I really, this year, especially listening to the podcast, and everything I've gotten way more together. Okay.

Scott Benner 13:07
The reason I asked? Well, is because I mean, how you how you make out in the first year, how it strikes you, I think is going to have a lot to do with your perspective and your mindset. So let me ask you, because when I think of your generation, right away, I think of people who grew up with cell phones, internet access, which I know sounds crazy to you, because you probably don't even think of it that way. But you know, how when you're watching a TV show, and you see a guy or girl and you think, Oh, I know them, but I don't know from where and five seconds later, you know, their life story. Yes, that didn't used to work that way. What would happen was that four days later, while you were at work standing around a water cooler, literally, you'd look at a friend and go, You ever see that show where the girls will which any go? What? Yeah, the mother in law on that show, you know her? And then your buddy, go, no, no, anyway, all right. And that would be how it would go. Right. So you don't have a lot of expectations too, for things and especially for things to come quickly. But in your generation you have that you have instant access to almost anything you want. And I know you don't even see it that way likely, but it builds a an expectation inside of you that what you want comes fast. And I don't know that that's a bad thing or a good thing. I just think it's a reality of growing up in the internet age. So my first thought was, did you ever have a feeling of like, oh, I can I can fix this then the doctors just don't know. Did you ever have that like initial? This must be wrong. We can fix this feeling or did you go right into acceptance?

Katherine 14:48
Um, I think I did go into acceptance. I really didn't think about there not being a cure for type one diabetes. It i One day I was just like, oh, so there's Nothing like I can do to fix it. Right. I, I knew it was important, and I had to take care of it. So I think I went into acceptance.

Scott Benner 15:08
Yeah, I mean, and that's really I mean, you're listening to the podcast, you hear stories of people twice your age three times your age, who have trouble, kind of just getting past the initial. I don't want this to be my life and getting right to taking care of it. So it's impressive that you've and by the way, I don't know that you've done that. I just feel like you have. So we're gonna keep asking questions to find out but your perspective and your attitude seem right. To me, it's really impressive. You're your parents help you with this at all.

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your parents help you with this at all.

Katherine 20:22
My dad really took it on the first, the first day he was like, alright, nothing's terminal. diabetes, we're good. We can do it and just researched. Everything was the equipment, the pumps, that type of insulin was really amazing and helping me.

Scott Benner 20:40
I'd love to talk to you dad for five minutes. I'd ask him one question. I'd say after you said that to your daughter. Where did you go and cry privately?

Katherine 20:48
Probably I don't think you slept since.

Scott Benner 20:51
You don't think he slept in the last year?

Katherine 20:54
I really don't think so. He's just watching the graph.

Scott Benner 20:57
Well, he's gonna need to get over that. But is there a need for that? Are you getting low or high overnight a lot.

Katherine 21:04
Um, it's been in sometimes it's either like drastic highs or drastic lows. But recently it's been i i figured out how to get it pretty steady before I go to sleep.

Scott Benner 21:19
Okay, so he helped you with research and stuff. Does he help you with management?

Katherine 21:26
In the beginning, yes. I picked my own finger from the start. But shots I didn't do probably till a month after I was diagnosed. So my mom, my sister, and my dad all did them for me.

Scott Benner 21:37
That's very nice of them. Seriously, give you some time to acclimate? Right. Yeah, when you finally did it for yourself? Was it a feeling of like, well, I guess I can't let somebody do this forever. Or did you? Like what was the thing that pushed you over the edge? Got you going?

Katherine 21:52
I was really mad at my mom. And I was really hungry. And I didn't want her to be the one to give me the shot. So I was like, no, what? I'll just do it.

Scott Benner 22:00
Aren't people interesting? So you were very mad at the lady who was paying all your bills, taking good care of you helping you reduce? Yes, yeah. And so much so that you were like, I, I just need her away from me. I'm going to do this. So that I don't have to be involved with her in the moment. Yeah, listen, that's a very common story. So just interesting, but that's not what happened. Okay, so where do you find? Well, that's not my question. Hold on a second. Catherine. Let Scott revamp what he was gonna say. Take your time. Yeah, I. You said it's been and then you paused like three minutes ago. And in my head. I heard, it's been one week since you looked at me. And now I'm gonna get emails from people like you have ADHD. But it's put me off track for a second. Okay, so how do they teach you? I mean, who teaches you, you get an endo? Right. You're not going to your pediatrician anymore. Yeah, I have an endo. Okay. What's their teaching of management? You're so fresh in this you're going to remember?

Katherine 23:04
Yeah, it was I mean, they told me if your 250 for three hours, you take this much. And you divide carbs by this amount, and you take this shot at night, and that was really it.

Scott Benner 23:18
Hmm. And you did that?

Katherine 23:22
I did that. But it wasn't going great. Because who wants to be 250? For three hours?

Scott Benner 23:27
Yeah. Man, for sure. So were you getting while you were doing what they told you? Were you experiencing many lows, as well as these highs to 50?

Katherine 23:39
Yeah, I had super high highs and super low lows. And then I my sister got COVID One week after I was diagnosed, and then I got it two weeks after that. So that also,

Scott Benner 23:52
when you don't know what you're doing, and then yeah, COVID on top of it. I'm not going to ask you how that was because I don't imagine it went well. So high highs, low lows. Let's put numbers on that. What's a low low

Katherine 24:07
50s.

Scott Benner 24:08
Okay, how and how did you feel it? 50

Katherine 24:13
I, I went low so much that it didn't affect me after certain point.

Scott Benner 24:18
Sorry, getting used to it. So were you were you ping pong and just up down all day long?

Katherine 24:24
Yep. Gotcha. Sorry. 50 to 50. So they had

Scott Benner 24:27
your basil wrong. They had your carb ratio wrong. And I'm guessing you didn't Pre-Bolus Is that all right? Correct. Yeah, Catherine. I've been doing this a long time you understand? Okay, so how did you I mean, obviously, it's wrong and obviously it's difficult to live with. But what makes you look for other information? I mean, I guess how many times did you go back to them and say, hey, help before you went and did something for herself.

Katherine 25:01
Um, when I did have COVID We call them a bunch and message them a lot because freaking out because we're like, oh my god, it's the first time she's sick. Her numbers going crazy. She's COVID. And they didn't answer us until like, after I was done with COVID

Scott Benner 25:19
Hello, it's the doctor's office. How can we help? Good call five days ago? Really? How long between when you call them and when they got back to you? I would

Katherine 25:30
say five or six days shameful. Okay. Yeah. So

Scott Benner 25:33
you were finished with COVID by then? Yeah, yep. Hey, just for context. What were your COVID symptoms?

Katherine 25:40
Um, fever, headache, shakiness, nausea, runny nose. Cough.

Scott Benner 25:49
Did you get Ketos? Yeah, I

Katherine 25:51
had a lot of ketones.

Scott Benner 25:53
Yeah. And there's no way you were gonna manage them with insulin because you you're all out of balance to begin with?

Katherine 25:58
Yeah, the fever. Really? I had to take shots like every two hours.

Scott Benner 26:02
Okay. He didn't have a pump that either. Yeah, no pump. Right. Okay. So, okay, so does that turn you off to your doctor's office at that point? Or do you just think this is how it goes?

Katherine 26:14
Turn me completely off. Good for you, Catherine.

Scott Benner 26:17
Okay, so then you do what an 18 year old would do. And you go to tick tock to try to figure it out. Right.

Katherine 26:26
I well. So I don't know. I was at the hairdresser's one day. And I'm getting my hair cut. So you know, it just needs to be cut. And the hairdresser is talking about her granddaughter who has type one diabetes. I'm like, Oh, my, this will tell her I'm like, oh, you know, I have type one diabetes. And she's like, Oh, really? Like, you know, yeah. And she told me, she's like, You have to listen to this podcast. Like it's helped us so much. It's really great. And she writes it on a sticky note and gave it to me. And I didn't listen to it for about a month afterwards, because I found the sticky note in my car. But then I started listening. I'm like, Okay, I'm not going crazy. I should be changing things.

Scott Benner 27:08
Wow. Good for you. And good for her for sharing. And thank you. Yeah, let me just say, thank you seriously, like at the end of the episodes, Catherine, you ever hear me say like, Hey, if you enjoyed the podcast, tell somebody else about it. You know, but it really is how the podcast like stays alive. Yeah, word of mouth is the is the only real way to publicize the podcast. Like you could buy ads. I've seen famous people buy ads for their podcast, and it doesn't help their podcast. It really is. The only way to do it is that somebody has to listen to it really get something out of it. Enough so that they're willing to tell another person a stranger. Really? Yeah. Hey, give this a shot. So okay, well, thank God the sticky stayed in your pocket, I guess. How did you start to listen? Did you just because people listen all different ways. So I'm interested.

Katherine 27:59
So I started episode one, and binged like, one to 100. Like a week.

Scott Benner 28:05
Am I better at it now than I was then?

Katherine 28:09
I think it's been pretty good. From the star consistent.

Scott Benner 28:11
You're saying I love consistent. My microphones better now, though. Right. And there's no more dogs in the background. That's probably a bonus.

Katherine 28:20
Yeah, but then I, you know, did some recent ones after that, and then went through and saw some good names. And it was really good.

Scott Benner 28:28
Wow, that's amazing. And so did you find this interesting, did you? So I just heard somebody say this? Actually, I know exactly. Who said it. She was an hour. I'm gonna get her episode number because I love her horse. You know, the best thing they say to do on a podcast is to search the internet. People find it incredibly interesting, they say. And by the way, what I'm searching is my own website, because I don't know where anything is. Okay. Episode 587 is with Laura. She's actually from Switzerland. And she was on Instagram the other day telling someone about how starting at the beginning, she learned so much about management, because at the beginning of the podcast, it felt like I think what she was saying is that it felt like I was just talking through what I do at that point. Yeah, right. And so is that was that you're finding in those first, like, 100 episodes or so?

Katherine 29:28
Yeah, it was just listening to you like being able to talk and share how you do things. And I took it from there.

Scott Benner 29:35
Wow. And so have you been to the defining diabetes series or the pro tips or anything like that?

Katherine 29:42
Yes, I go through them and listen, okay.

Scott Benner 29:45
All this has been valuable for you. It really has. Catherine, you're like my focus group now. Right, thank you. Because I would think I would think I would not be as palatable to a 17 or eight 10 year old person. So do you like me? And like my vibe works for you? Or did you just need the information so badly, you didn't care who was delivering it to, you

Katherine 30:09
know, the vibe and just the way the episodes are set up and how it's really just conversations is, it's very helpful

Scott Benner 30:16
that works for you. So you don't care that I'm 32 years older than you, that doesn't matter. No, it doesn't matter that I don't have diabetes. It does not matter. Wow. Cool. Well, it's all working the way I wanted to then Kevin. Not a lot is gone the way I wanted in my life. So it's pretty exciting. You know, I've had a lot of ideas I once Can I tell you something I've never told anybody. Sure. I was married not long. And I go to my wife, who must have been very disappointed. I said, I'm not going to work today. I have an idea for a movie. And it's in my head. I'm gonna write it down. Right. So I call out of work. And I don't know how old I am. 24 Maybe. And, but you would think I would know when I got married. Right? Maybe we should figure that out real quick. I was born in 71. And I was married 96. So 8191. I'm 25 Then right? Okay, so imagine you're, first of all, you're married way too young Katherine, in this story. Already, you've probably already quietly called a friend and been like, I don't know what I did. You know. And then the guy says, I'm gonna stay home and write my movie idea down. You've got to be at a panic as you're going off to work. You're like, Oh, great. I'm gonna be taking care of this idiot my entire life anyway, I, I write out a treatment for my idea. And it's about these kids that live in a house. And behind the house is a meadow. And there's this gate that they find it's not attached to anything. And when you go through a gate, you go to this other place and this whole thing and my wife comes home, she reads it. And she goes, this is very good. And I said, Thank you. She goes, have you ever read a Bridge to Terabithia? Oh, my God, I go, No, why? And she goes, Well, that's what you're writing right now. And I was, I was like, damn it. So my point is, can you imagine having an idea? So good, that it's already a book? And would one day become a movie? Except somebody had the idea before? You? You don't? I mean, so yeah. So when I had the idea for the podcast, there actually wasn't another diabetes podcast. And I'm just excited that my ideal works like Like, no kidding. How long ago did you find it?

Katherine 32:26
Um, it was around July.

Scott Benner 32:29
Okay, August, September, October, I'm counting now November, December, January, 10 months ago, two months into your diet three months into your diagnosis. About 10 months ago, you find a podcast made by a guy 32 years older than you that does not have diabetes. And it actually helped you. And he decided to make it eight years ago. Like you were listening to something last year that I made like six, seven years prior to that. Yeah, it's crazy. It's nuts. Right? Like, none of that makes sense. To me. Still, I'm see it probably does to you because you're young. But I'm old. And so I'm still mesmerized by the Internet. A little bit. Okay, so what did you take out of the podcast first, like, what was your what were your first steps? What got you moving in the right direction?

Katherine 33:14
Um, bold was insulin. You've probably heard like, a million times, but I wasn't afraid to Lowe's for a really long time. So I was just like, oh, I can use more insulin. Sure. And I just started doing that. And then when you talk about Pre-Bolus thing, I was like, Oh, my God, this is so smart. I never knew that. And I started doing that. Wow.

Scott Benner 33:35
So all the way back to Episode 11. Right? Yep. Yeah. You know, that. As crazy as it sounds, that I just I think during the course of, like, if you listen to the podcasts, you know, I just come up with the titles from the tax like at some point in somebody says something like a woman the other day told me, I only have ginger cat. And I had a whiteboard in front of me and I wrote down ginger cats like that. That's going to be the episode title. It is not in any way descriptive of what we talked about for the hours that we're talking. But I to me, I don't care. And so I recorded that episode 11, which was still a lot of it's a lot of stream of consciousness for me back then. Right? Yeah. And I think in there for the first time, I said, you just have to be bold with the insulin. And I wasn't trying to make a catchphrase or something like that. It's just something random. I said, and then I made it the title of the episode. And now people wear it on T shirts and things like that. Very, very weird. But so so your first thought was, I'm not stuck using just what the doctor told me. So is it as simple as like when a doctor gives you a pill and says, take one of these twice a day? You've never you've never once in your life considered harm. I just take three.

Katherine 34:51
Right? Yeah, I mean, yeah, I never questioned it.

Scott Benner 34:53
So when they say take this much insulin at a meal, you go well, that's how this works. Yeah, I see. Okay, and then up, down, up, down, somebody comes along and says, you know, you could probably take more insulin if you needed it. And by the way, insulin works this way. So you can't just put it in. So were you not you were just were you shooting and eating at the same time? Or were you even eating sometimes and shooting afterwards?

Katherine 35:18
I would, yeah, basically take the insulin and then, like, eat seconds after that.

Scott Benner 35:23
Okay, so there's no Pre-Bolus whatsoever and you're eating interested in a healthy diet, you say, what does that consist of? Generally?

Katherine 35:31
I'm a ton of vegetables. I'm, I'm not even I'm not a big fruit eater. But just yeah, like, like, I would eat eggs in the morning. Sometimes I would put, you know, bread with it. And then at that point, I wasn't eating lunch, but for dinner, I would just have a ton of vegetables.

Scott Benner 35:48
So a lot of fiber kind of heavy vegetables, carrots, beans, things like that.

Katherine 35:52
Yeah. Yeah, some quinoa. Like,

Scott Benner 35:54
it's you. You know, who would love you? Give you you've probably never listened to the thyroid episodes with Dr. Benito.

Katherine 36:03
I actually I have oh, how come? I thought I had a thyroid problem for a while bit of anxiety, but I'm fine. But

Scott Benner 36:12
you're good. Okay. Dr. Benito. Every time I see she goes, You could have quinoa. And he says qinhuai all the time. Have you ever noticed like Jenny's go to was like quinoa? Yes, yeah. And I'm like Jenny, less healthy. We're talking to everybody picks up stuff using keto as your example. Because I'm thinking nine out of 10 people are like, What is she talking about? But, but yes, you're eating things that need insulin. And yeah, and that aren't simple. They're not just count it, shoot it, it'll work. They need Pre-Bolus thing they need. I mean, some of those things need considerations for protein rises later. All kinds of things, right? Yeah, yeah. How bad off? How bad off that wasn't English. How far how far off? How far off was your basil from where it needed to be?

Katherine 37:04
Um, it wasn't too far off. I think. I have I haven't been on basil for a while, but I was around 11 When I went off the pens, but I think they started me off at like, 910. So it was, it was a little off, but not awful.

Scott Benner 37:22
Okay. And you do have any honeymoon at this point, or you are no, no, honeymooning. What's your Basal rate right now in your pod?

Katherine 37:31
It's actually very strange. For 8am till 9pm, it's zero. But from nine to whatever time during the night, I have like point five point a point to

Scott Benner 37:49
where you literally have no Basal for like 15 hours a day?

Katherine 37:53
Yeah, I think it's the level because it's my Basal switches so much. But I think it's still my level of activity during the day that any insulin that's just in there just makes me go low.

Scott Benner 38:06
What's your insulin to carb ratio? You're the first person that's ever said this to me. So what's your insulin to carb ratio?

Katherine 38:13
Another reason why my doctors shake their head at me is because I don't divide. I don't have like a set number where I divide by carbs. I look at what I'm eating. Think about what I'm doing. And then I kind of go from there about like, how much carbs? This like if it's pasta, you know, I know it's gonna affect me a little later. So I'll take it less and do a little less of a Pre-Bolus. But with something with keen well, like, it's more upfront,

Scott Benner 38:41
Catherine Yuri took this podcast to heart, didn't you? Yeah, okay. So But alright, let's try to figure it out for a second. If I gave you a piece of bread and the bread was 20 carbs. How much of the time would you give yourself for a slice of bread?

Katherine 38:58
If it's in the morning, probably three. But if it's in the afternoon to 1.5

Scott Benner 39:05
Interesting. You sure you don't have any? You should you don't have any kind of honeymoon happening still?

Katherine 39:14
Um, I mean, I don't think so.

Scott Benner 39:17
What's your blood? What's your blood sugar? Does your blood sugar sit stable during the day? 8am to 9pm

Katherine 39:23
Well, you Yes, sometimes but mornings are tough.

Scott Benner 39:29
Okay, so mornings are tough. Yes, sometimes so when it is stable, what's the number to stable up?

Katherine 39:38
I tried to stable it. The lowest I can go but usually 120 route either around there 90.

Scott Benner 39:46
Okay. 120 to 90 and, but in the morning it's higher.

Katherine 39:52
Yeah, in the morning. If I if something happens I don't Pre-Bolus correctly or food affects me In a certain way, or like shoot right up to 300,

Scott Benner 40:02
because you don't have any basil going, yeah. Okay. Give ketones during the day. None. All right. That's a long time not to have insulin is why I'm saying, like, I know a doctor would say to you don't please don't do that. But I'm trying to figure out I mean, what's your agency right now?

Katherine 40:26
Um, my last agency was 5.3. But I was going low too often. So I would say, I have to go soon. But I'm guessing it's gonna be like, 5.7 5.8.

Scott Benner 40:43
How much do you dance?

Katherine 40:46
I'm five times a week.

Scott Benner 40:51
Certain times a day.

Katherine 40:53
I'm usually always around four to nine

Scott Benner 40:56
in the afternoon to the evening. Okay, so what if I said to you? What if I said, you, I wish you had a time I wish you had some basil happening during the day? Is there a way for you to try to take so my expectation is that there's a way for you to try to take some of your meal insulin and swap it for basil. So go lighter on your meals, but add some basil during the day. Have you tried that?

Katherine 41:29
I have right now I have it. So my Basal turns off at around 9am. So I have it for breakfast, and then it's it switches off.

Scott Benner 41:38
Okay. But have you like what if like, could you make your like, here's my thought, could you make your Basal point one an hour? All day long? I could, I could try it. Because if you did that. I mean, seriously, it's kind of, you know, there's, there's always this fear in me, Catherine that one day, I'm going to go Oh, god, there's nothing left to talk about this podcast is over. But you just said something to me that I was like, No, I've recorded 750 of these. And I was like, no one's ever sent this to me before. So cool. So let me let me get my calculator out. Hold on a second buy out. I mean, like open an app. It's a calculator. So if you do you have your PDM I do. Can you read me your Basal program? Yeah, you want to do this? By the way. We have not yet talked about what you want to come on for. But we will get to it. I promise.

Katherine 42:28
We have time. Okay, good. Okay, so right now.

Scott Benner 42:36
So I have you as like 9am. To what is it? 8pm? Zero, right?

Katherine 42:43
Okay, so yeah, it's nine 9am to 9pm zero, okay. And then 9pm to midnight is point 453 hours and then 12 to I think 3.55.

Scott Benner 43:02
Negligible three hours, go ahead.

Katherine 43:06
And then three to 430 is

Scott Benner 43:11
point six, five 30.653. That's only an hour and a half. Okay.

Katherine 43:15
And then 430 to nine is point eight.

Scott Benner 43:22
Interesting 430 3637 3834 and a half hours. Okay, here's what I do. I got point eight times four. You getting 3.2. In that segment? I got 6.65. For an hour and a half, that's like point that's like another unit. And then we have for three hours point five cents a unit and a half. And we have for three hours point four five, which is basically another unit and a half. So 34567 You're getting like 7.2 of basil a day. Would you tell me how much you weigh?

Katherine 44:10
Oh, 125.

Scott Benner 44:14
Okay, now, can you go into your history and tell me how much you've bought? Like how much you Bolus yesterday? Yes. Oh, also Katherine while you're doing that, nothing you hear on the Juicebox Podcast should be considered medical or otherwise, always consult a physician before making any changes to your health care plan. We're becoming bold with insulin. 7.2 units of basil for a day. You weigh 125 pounds. You dance constantly. Alright, when you're ready, tell me how much you Bolus yesterday.

Katherine 44:47
Do you want the percentage? No, the percentage is

Scott Benner 44:51
going to be really high because you don't use any Bazelon thinking. But actually, Hey, Catherine. I'm going to curse. Give me the bait. Give me the percentage. Okay, good. Okay. Eat some d3. Yeah. Okay. And then, but I want to know total insulin

Katherine 45:06
18.5 units. point five.

Scott Benner 45:10
How many foreign meals did you have yesterday? Like how many meals to two? Can you see how much of that 18.5 went into those two meal bonuses and how much was correction?

Katherine 45:23
Yes. might take me a second. Oh, yeah. Okay, so 6.8 of it was basil.

Scott Benner 45:35
Yesterday 6.8 was Basal. Yeah. Of the 18.5 Yes. Holy snap. Okay, so of the 12 that's remaining. Did you make any corrective boluses yesterday, or were these only meal boluses?

Katherine 45:50
I did one corrective.

Scott Benner 45:51
How much was that?

Katherine 45:54
That was around three units.

Scott Benner 45:57
He got to the day before and see how much of your insulin was corrective.

Katherine 46:04
So yesterday, I was weirdly the same 70 That's just my pump beeping.

Scott Benner 46:10
That's not It's not weird at all. Catherine. All right. I, by the way, I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm having an incredibly good time talking about this. Like, if you like if you said to me right now, finish this, or go to Coachella, I'd be like, I'm good with me. And Catherine.

Katherine 46:27
Said it was 73%. Yesterday, too, with 18.1 weirdly units. Seven of it was Basal. And then I did do a corrective shot that was a little lower around like two.

Scott Benner 46:42
Okay, so if you were here, I would take I would do a couple of things. First things first. round numbers not and I'm so sorry. You get your period do you do not because the dancing?

Katherine 46:58
Um, I don't not from dancing from what? I just lost it when I before I was diagnosed, I never got it back.

Scott Benner 47:08
Maybe you'll find it one day. Although from what I hear from ladies, good riddance. So. Okay, so because you're not getting any weird hormonal fluctuations, you don't have times of the month that are harder or easier to Bolus for right? Now, yeah, nothing, I'll tell you what, I might take that 100. So I'm going to treat you for a second like your, your pre pubescent, which you're not, but you don't get a so the same thing. So if you were 125 pounds, point one per 10 pounds per hour point, one point 10 pounds. Oh makes you 1.2 an hour for basil. If you were 1.2 an hour for basil. By the way, I'm not saying you should be I'm just a math in my head here. That would give you 28 units a day, which is obviously too much, you're not even using that much. So that's not the measurement we're going to use. Instead, what we're going to say is you're basically using seven units a day and basil and you're correcting once a day with three. So what if we took the 10 divided by 24 and made your Basal rate point for all day long?

Katherine 48:23
I'll try it I'm excited.

Scott Benner 48:25
Right? So by the way, this is like the equivalent of getting a medical procedure in an alleyway. Okay, so I let's all be clear, barely graduated from high school didn't go to college. Don't have a medical degree, but nothing is considered medical advice. You know why it can't be cuz I'm pretty much an idiot. Okay, so that's why now let's ignore when the times when you hear Jenny's call me like a contemporary or colleague like you know what I mean? Like that. That would be I'm not misdirecting you into believing I'm something I'm not. I'm a guy whose kid has diabetes. Who thinks it's bonkers that you don't have Basal all day long. And I and I makes me wonder. So you're eyeballing your meals. But you're eyeballing your meals without basil. So that's the first thing I have to tell you. If you do this, you've got to be careful. The first couple of times should Bolus Yeah, all right, because you're suddenly going to get between nine and nine. You're gonna get point for an hour for 12 hours. Well, there's going to be, I think, let's see. Let me make sure I'm saying this, right. So you're gonna get almost five units of insulin and basil throughout the day that you're not normally getting, but you are sort of normally getting some of it because you're putting in three units as a correction. I'm guessing your correction usually happens around 10 o'clock in the morning.

Katherine 49:54
Almost exactly, yes.

Scott Benner 49:56
I should get a podcast about this. You know what I'm saying? I'm at this point do you think people are like he knows all this? And he's just trying to sound like he's he's like, I've paid you or something? You have not gotten any money or compensation, is that correct? I've gotten nothing good for you. And by the way, when I sell ads on this episode, I will not be sharing it with you just so you know.

Katherine 50:15
I do not expect that. That's good.

Scott Benner 50:19
I got bills, Catherine. All right. Now let's um, so that's my boy. That's it for me if I had to guess for you. I mean, look, you're at some points, point eight, overnight. That's just you getting ready for your Dawn phenomenon, I think. Because that's what you did. Right? You've been getting high in the morning. So you're jacking it up? Is that right? Yeah. All right. I don't want you to have to make basil adjustments. Don't get me wrong. If there's a thing that happens with like clockwork, then by all means, if you know, if you always spike at 4am, then make your Basal higher at three 3am. You don't I mean, like I'm not saying yeah, I think that's fine. But I think there's a world where you could start at point for an hour and not go low? And then take a look again and see. Do I need it to be hired for am? Do I need to be higher somewhere else do I need to be lower somewhere else make an assessment off of that, if you were if you were scared, because you're you have nothing right now I'd even understand if you wanted to make it 9am to 9pm, point three 9pm to 9am. Point four, see how it goes the first day kind of a thing. But I would work off of that point for number and see what you can figure out now when you go to your meals, I think we need to remember that you are going to now have basically a half unit of Basal every hour going that you didn't have before. And so if you I'm just going to make up a number here, okay? If you look at your meal and say to yourself, Catherine, that is I don't know, that's going to be six units, okay? And I expect it in three hours, it will be mostly out of my system. Maybe try four and a half units for it then. Okay, because you're gonna have point four point 4.4 over those next three hours of basil happening that you hadn't had before. That's probably not going to end up being enough. But I prefer to see you on the safe side of that decision the first few times you make it and then try unless you're getting a significant rise after a meal. Try not to correct it for no 90 minutes, two hours. Okay, okay. But if you see a rise 90 minutes after or two hours or you see any kind of a rise you don't expect or you don't want them begin to go back more towards the basil or the excuse me the Bolus for the meal that you expected. Not taking off. Maybe a unit for basil or something like that. That will make sense. Yes, thank you. You're like my favorite 18 year old ever. If I said this to my daughter, you know what would have happened 20 minutes ago. She'd be like, why are we talking about this? And I'd say other people would like to talk to me about this. She go I am not one of them. Okay. All right. Say it all back to me. What are you going to do the whole thing?

Katherine 53:24
No, I'm

Scott Benner 53:25
not word for word. Tell me what you're gonna do.

Katherine 53:28
Point four units from my basil and lower the Bolus on my food and see how it works.

Scott Benner 53:34
seems so easy, right? Yeah. All right. Now, you're still white. By the way. Why are you able to talk to me on a Wednesday? What's going on here? Are you at school? Oh, Argent gets those two. Pretty killer. So when do you think you'll start trying this? We try it on the weekend because you have some time. Or when you try? I was gonna

Katherine 53:53
I already changed it. I'm ready.

Scott Benner 53:57
Life is for the living. Catherine. I understand. I'm saying that's right. Nothing like being youthful. You're like what? This seems fine. Let's try this. So you're saying that? Like, let me just ask you a couple like cleanup questions. After your meal? Well, you don't know because your bolusing your Pre-Bolus and your breakfast. So there's, you have active insulin all the way up to lunch, and then your bolusing going for lunch? So you really have active meal insulin all day long. And you're still higher than you want to be. Is that right? Yeah, this is the Basal. This is going to be the greatest day of your life. Okay. Katherine, would you I don't want to give myself more work. And you can say no. Okay. But would you carve out a little bit of time for me Monday afternoon next week to sit down for 15 minutes and just record again and tell me how this went? Sure. All right, cool. I will do that afterwards. Now 15 minutes into it. Why did you want to come onto the podcast is talking about how you teachers helped you, right?

Katherine 55:01
Yes, it's it's a pretty quick story. So if it'll be good, go for it. So I found this podcast in July. So basically, I went right back to school after I was diagnosed the week after from February to June, other than having COVID I was home, but I was petrified to do any type of management in school. I wouldn't scan myself, I wouldn't drink a juice box. I wouldn't eat at school, we had a weird schedule because of COVID. So we went home at 1210 and did a class online. So I didn't have to take any insulin at school. But even if I was high, I would just let I would, I would really eat in the morning. I would eat like oatmeal, and my numbers would shoot up to like 350. And then they would go down to about 60 When I was leaving school. So it wasn't great. Obviously,

Scott Benner 56:03
that's what I'm gonna do. I'm gonna do something I don't do. Okay, so wait a second. You're just gonna get a text with my name. Okay, and you and I are going to be friends for the next couple of days.

Katherine 56:15
I'm so excited. Okay. All right.

Scott Benner 56:18
You are of the legal age. Right? You're over 18 Yes. All right. Perfect. That's the last thing I need. Is your father. Like, why is this guy texting you? So I just want to I don't want you to be lost while you're doing this. Okay. I'm sorry, I took you off your story. Sorry. You were having trouble with your Bolus at school? Go ahead.

Katherine 56:36
Yes, and even if I was, I had my so FreeStyle Libre to just made it so the phone can scan to the sensor in the summer. So I still had the, you know, the little scanner. And I just turned off, all the alarms turned off the noise. So even urgent, low, I wouldn't have been able to hear it. And it was just not good. I would go out for my 90 minute gym class outside with nothing, not a glucose tab, not a phone, not a scanner. So I was just like, oh, like I was just terrified to manage it. And I didn't have any references really, to anyone with diabetes, or how serious it was. So I didn't, I didn't have really any perspective on it until I was able to listen to the podcast. And I was like, Okay, this is important. This is you know, something I need to fix. So I started to do that over the summer, but going into school, you know, taking out an insulin pen, putting a needle on it and sticking it in your arm or leg or stomach, whatever, terrified me. I was just, I had no idea how I was gonna get through it or do it. And I went into my first day and I have I have amazing teachers, I truly have great relationships with most of my teachers. And I knew that doing this in class, you know, drinking juice, giving shots, scanning myself, wouldn't be a problem. But to me, I just I didn't know anyone that had it. So it it kind of felt disrespectful. To me, if you're just doing it silly to think that that's what I thought. So I got go into my first day I'm like, alright, you know, if I go high during this class, it's gonna take a shot. If I go low, I'm gonna drink a juice box, and we'll see how this goes. And it was my only new teacher of that semester, I had never met her before. And you know, I'm so anxious that my numbers are starting to climb up and I'm like, great, you know, this is how it's gonna go. And I'm, you know, sitting at my desk, and my phone is flipped over on top of my desk, and the teacher starts walking up to me, and I'm like, Oh my God, here we go. Like, I'm already in trouble. I didn't even do anything. I'm so nervous for no reason. Yeah. Like, start a senior year. Here we go. And she knelt down to me, and the class was dead silent. And I'll always remember but she pointed to my phone and she said, I understand why you need this. And for me, that was just everything. i i It really did completely changed my life.

Scott Benner 59:26
Just a simple statement of, of understanding. And yeah, it freed you up. Were you able to just do with them without that nervousness?

Katherine 59:36
Yeah, a little bit. It's by bit but I in that classroom with her, I just, I felt comfortable I started giving myself shots. So you know when I would go high because I was still not on the pump yet. And I would you know, without the big jug of glucose tabs or a juice box or granola bar and from being able to feel confident in doing that in her Classroom, I started then to do it in my stats class, my science class and are just really slowly going into every class and it was just amazing.

Scott Benner 1:00:14
Did this help you go to other teachers to sort of come out and tell them so they could give you the same understanding? Where did you just sort of just start doing it?

Katherine 1:00:24
I did some most of my teachers that I had junior year, you know, got the email that I had diabetes, so most of them did, no, but I did hide it for a while. Like, if I had my scanner on, I would completely hide it with clothing, so no one would ask me, but it it helped me a lot. I make a lot of diabetic jokes.

Scott Benner 1:00:44
Yeah. Or do you see at first said you thought it was kind of disrespectful to be doing a medical thing in front of other people. Do you feel that way now?

Katherine 1:00:53
Not at all. Okay. Where are you in by? I'm sorry, say that again?

Scott Benner 1:00:58
Were you embarrassed?

Katherine 1:01:00
Oh, yeah, I was terrified. Embarrassed. I just had no idea how I was gonna do it.

Scott Benner 1:01:06
I understand. I mean, I think I understand. I'm sorry, I cut you off. I said, Oh, God, I said something. You started talking. And then I asked another question. Shoot. I'm gonna keep on that. That's Sorry, I'm gonna get. So do you think that you were really concerned about them? Or do you think that that seemed like a reasonable explanation for hiding your embarrassment? Like, Oh, this isn't fair to those people. So I just won't do it.

Katherine 1:01:34
Yeah, yeah. I was just like, oh, this is strange. It's, you know, these people have known me my whole life. And I've never whipped down a needle before. Like, it was just very different. And I was not used to it.

Scott Benner 1:01:46
Was it an excuse, then like, Oh, this isn't fair to them to do a medical thing in front of them, which was a nice way of giving yourself and like, the okay to not do it?

Katherine 1:01:55
Yeah. And also, as, you know, little fear of, they're gonna yell at me. I'm, I'm taking out a needle in school. Like, this is weird. Really?

Scott Benner 1:02:02
Oh, okay. Yeah. Do you tell your parents, you know, everybody says, talk to your parents, but you didn't tell your parents about this, right? Of course not. But it's like, it's like, you know, your mom's like, if you're ever going to do something, and you don't know you come to me like, oh, okay, lady. You're the first one I'll run to when someone offers me Molly, no problem. So you just had to have an experience in one kind person. Do you ever find out why that person knew about diabetes?

Katherine 1:02:32
My 504 plan?

Unknown Speaker 1:02:34
Oh, no kidding. So

Katherine 1:02:38
yeah, it was sent to everyone. And they are I guess, legally supposed to read it. But she was the first person who talked to me about it.

Scott Benner 1:02:46
Okay. That's really something but a lovely thing. Nice and easy. Never made a big deal out of it always just kind of let it happen.

Katherine 1:02:54
Yeah, it was just, it was perfect. Have you

Scott Benner 1:02:56
had more good experiences or bad experiences with teachers?

Katherine 1:03:01
I've only had one bad experience. And it was right after I started the pump. And everyone told me, you know, all the doctors were like, hey, it's gonna be a change, your numbers are going to fluctuate. And at that time, I was like, No, you know, they don't know what they're talking about. Because I had a really strict with my shots. I I was really I had a very tight range that I stayed in. So when I went high, the first time after getting my pump it like completely destroyed me. I was, I was just the whole day, I was just inconsolable. I was so upset with myself that I was high. And I went to check my blood sugar in my science class. And my teacher told me to put my phone away and I lost it. Did you cry? I was yes. I was so upset. I was like, I'm just checking my blood sugar's and he's like, oh, sorry. Like, oh, it was awful.

Scott Benner 1:03:55
Yeah. I'm sorry, but it's better now. Yes,

Katherine 1:03:59
I, I just did a presentation today on ACCESS people's access to insulin in the US.

Scott Benner 1:04:08
So Catherine, I'm going to say this to you now, because we're kind of at the end, and I'm going to cut this a little shorter than I would normally because we're going to tack more on to this, okay. I feel like what's about to happen is either your blood sugar is going to get very stable around 95 away from food, or, or is you're going to get low. So I've sent you my personal. You have my cell phone number now. Okay, yes, we can text as much as you want until Monday. All right. Whenever you have a question or you want to send me a graph or something, I'd be happy to help you with it. Keeping in mind I'm an idiot and I don't know what I'm talking about. And then it's not medical advice. I'd still be very happy to answer any questions as best I can. So if you want to make adjustments along with me over the you know, just like take, like snapshots of You're libre send it over take a look like tell me where your blood sugar is right now.

Katherine 1:05:05
Okay give me a couple sec.

Scott Benner 1:05:11
No, you're fine. So it's like 130 If I had to guess you haven't had lunch because we're talking through when you usually have lunch I imagine

Katherine 1:05:19
it's 125

Scott Benner 1:05:20
Your but your your blood sugar is 125 Yes. Did you know that the time was 125? When you said that? freaking me out. Katherine. What are you doing? No, I

Katherine 1:05:30
just, I just scanned it. It was 125

Scott Benner 1:05:32
in the Illuminati or something. What's happening? Don't come from my heart. Make your medicine out of something else. Katherine, a lot of references you don't know just happen all at once there. Alright, so your did your blood sugar's 125? It's 1:25pm. We're going to call that a good guy. That's what I was saying to you. You said 120 Oh, it was 125 Okay, that makes more sense. Yeah, I thought you were like some like mystic power or something like that. I wish he real quick scan it again. Is it 126 Right now? Because if it is, I think you're scanning the clock.

Katherine 1:06:05
It is not 126

Scott Benner 1:06:08
Sorry, I just made myself laugh. I don't know why. It wasn't even funny. Okay, so you're 125 right now, am I right to say you haven't eaten since this morning? Correct. Hmm. And you're going to dance today? Yes. Alright. So the dancing is the one thing I'm worried about. What kind of dancing Catherine? Jazz eclectic art music, hippie.

Katherine 1:06:32
I do a lot of ballet. But tonight is lyrical.

Scott Benner 1:06:37
Do you get low after dancing ever? Sometimes, yes. Sometimes? Yes. All right. So if you want to, or you're concerned, if you want to do a Temp Basal off an hour before dance starts and let it run till you know, maybe just about until dance ends. I completely understand that for the first day. And it might even be great data for you. Because maybe you'll look back and go hmm, I got Hi Darren dance. Or maybe I needed that or whatever. Like you'll get some sort of feedback. But am I right to say you haven't eaten since this morning? Yeah, that's right. So what time did you eat this morning? Eight?

Katherine 1:07:18
No, probably 630

Scott Benner 1:07:20
Oh my god. I was so asleep at 630 Okay. 30 getting older has some benefits. One of them is I get up when I want to know. So 630 You ate? How high did you go? Can you see?

Katherine 1:07:35
I went up to 200. But my pump is also on its last couple hours.

Scott Benner 1:07:40
I say. And you're 125 now? Are you gonna change the pump in a minute? Yes. All right. You text me with any questions you have. Seriously? Don't be nervous. Okay. Okay, thank

Katherine 1:07:53
you. You're welcome.

Scott Benner 1:07:55
Any questions before we start this little adventure together? Which will end up calling trying to kill Katherine part one. I'm just kidding. If you do die today, I'll be destroying this recording.

Katherine 1:08:11
Don't worry, I'll make sure people know it wasn't you

Scott Benner 1:08:13
know, seriously, though, what I what I meant to say but somehow it came out as a bizarre joke is please be careful. Check your blood sugar more frequently. If you start getting low back off the point for Okay. Okay. But like putting it into your head like this. If you make it, you made it point for almost a half an hour ago. Now. If you start to drift down, watch it a little bit. Like I don't want you to fall. But I mean, maybe it's just maybe over five hours that would turn your 125 into 90. And then if you suddenly got stable at 90, well, then chain, were feeling good. You know, but if it made you fall too far, it might be too strong. You know, if sometime later tonight you're drifting up. Maybe point four is not enough. Like we'll see. But okay, I'm telling you right now. I could be wrong. My wife tells me all the time that I'm wrong. So it's important to remember that okay, I could be wrong. But you don't need basil for 14 hours or 12 hours. seems crazy to me. Okay, and I think maybe you're just making up for not having Basil with corrections. So let's find out and see what happens.

Katherine 1:09:24
I'm excited for this journey.

Scott Benner 1:09:25
I cannot tell if you're being sarcastic right now.

Katherine 1:09:29
I'm not a little bit of both probably. Okay.

Scott Benner 1:09:30
Can I ask you one last question that we're gonna stop recording. Okay, why can't people in Connecticut drive?

Katherine 1:09:38
I haven't. I'm a really slow driver. So I don't know.

Scott Benner 1:09:42
I imagine if you live in Connecticut. Nobody passes anybody right on the highway. We

Katherine 1:09:47
don't get right on

Scott Benner 1:09:48
red. Why? It's legal. You can do it.

Katherine 1:09:53
It just feels wrong. Catherine, this

Scott Benner 1:09:55
is the same problem you had with your diabetes stuff in the room. Nobody. It's not you can do whatever you want. drive as fast as you want. You know, I drove 100 miles an hour yesterday for a couple of seconds. It was exhilarating. Tell no one. It's a secret. Okay. All right. We're gonna stop now. You good? Yes. All right. No, no, you're rock you. Thank you. This was wonderful. Okay, so in just a moment, I'm gonna play the rest of the recording for you. It's a conversation that Katherine and I had a number of days after this first part was completed. Okay, so it's Monday. Now, when did we talk last week? Like Thursday? Yeah. Wednesday, Wednesday. Okay. So Wednesday, last week we spoke today is Monday. So I want to count Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday about, say five days ago. And we've been texting a little bit, right. Not too much. So what did we do? We moved your Basal to what originally?

Katherine 1:10:49
Point four, I think is what it originally was.

Scott Benner 1:10:52
And were we finding that to be a little too heavy. A little too strong?

Katherine 1:10:56
Yeah, so we did point three. Okay.

Scott Benner 1:10:59
So you were away from like food or Bolus thing. You were drifting lower and you found yourself catching it with carbs. And it kept happening. Then we went to point three did that fix anything?

Katherine 1:11:13
Yeah, it's it. I interflow from the basil after that.

Scott Benner 1:11:17
Okay, so now Basil is holding me steady. It's not dragging you down. That's good. But then I think, did that did that. Did that? Show us a different problem? Yeah. Okay. What, what what came next for you after we got the basil straight?

Katherine 1:11:38
Well, I think one problem that it showed was the night I needed a little more insulin during the, like, 12. Time and then the food Bolus thing.

Scott Benner 1:11:51
Okay. All right. Yeah. So we saw it's a good, I'm glad you brought it up, I guess. So the first thing we saw was that overnight, because prior you had had a really strong overnight, Basil was like, point five and point eight at some points right. Here. Okay. So what did you switch that to?

Katherine 1:12:14
Points? Three, five. I think point four,

Scott Benner 1:12:18
just a little bit more. And you started? Yeah. When? Midnight? One o'clock?

Katherine 1:12:22
Yeah. Midnight.

Scott Benner 1:12:25
Has it been two nights with that new Adjustment now? Yes. Did that work?

Katherine 1:12:31
It did work pretty well.

Scott Benner 1:12:33
Good. All right. So where did you sit between like 1am and 4am? Last night?

Katherine 1:12:39
Last night, I was actually on like, 7075.

Scott Benner 1:12:42
Catherine, we're getting so close. This is excellent. Alright, so we kind of have your basil straight. And even if it changes in the future, you'll know how to kind of move it around. Right? You'll be okay there. Yeah. I think the most interesting thing, as I'm thinking back on our, our old conversation, so we ended up here because when you were describing something during our initial conversation, you're like, I'm doing great. My one sees like this, and you know, everything's good. And then we started talking about a little bit. And I think you said something like, my basil is at zero for like 12 or 14 hours of the day, right? Yeah, and, and I didn't scare you away because what I was thinking in my head was that is definitely not right. And then I instead I said like, Oh, would you be open to talking about that? I was really proud of myself Catherine actually. And so it's so now we have a more steady basil. 24 hours a day, like my first question is, Do you feel any different?

Katherine 1:13:42
Yeah, I never realized but in the afternoons when I would like, I have an Italian glass and I would always come out of it saying, Oh, I feel like so fever dreamy and sweaty and weird. And after the basil fix, I didn't feel that

Scott Benner 1:13:57
yet. But you didn't notice the high blood sugar then? No,

Katherine 1:14:01
I didn't know I usually didn't have a high in the afternoon.

Scott Benner 1:14:04
Interesting. Okay. Is it did it blow your mind a little bit that we added so much basil in the time where you thought you didn't need any and it wasn't too much? Yeah. Blew my mind a little bit so there was a small part of me half and it was like am I wrong? And this like just crushed this poor girl. But we we've been talking through text so great. If you had any problems you could have texted me not that it means anything. I'm just a guy but we've been doing a good job going back and forth. Now that like we'd said the the next thing that I think it showed because you send me a graph every once in a while actually, can you do one now? Can you send me one now?

Katherine 1:14:42
Yeah, all right.

Scott Benner 1:14:44
Show me like 24 hours. Okay

I'll make noises with my Oh wow. You are so the youth know how to use the technology people in a way

Katherine 1:15:01
that is free. That's my generation.

Scott Benner 1:15:03
Yeah. Oh, wait, is that oh, who saw my generation? Do you know who the who is? No. Fascinating. Okay. Let's look at your graph. Time and target range. 94% is your target. What is your target Senate?

Katherine 1:15:25
Um, I think 70 and 140.

Scott Benner 1:15:28
We're balling. Catherine, I understand balling that. You understand? We are that you get average blood sugar. 108 All right. And you didn't botch dinner last night?

Katherine 1:15:42
No, I didn't. And I was at prom. So I was very proud.

Scott Benner 1:15:45
Wait, this is your prom. I'm looking at. Yeah, that's prom. Catherine, I may have saved your prom. I think you did. I No kidding, right? Oh, I wish people could see this. Mostly. I'm going so it's like three o'clock in the afternoon. Now we're talking so I'm looking back. 24 hours. 110 comes down to 100 Hold steady. 200 for three or four right through the prom. 5678 o'clock. You're right around. 100 Yep. Did you kiss a boy around? 830 Catherine Did you a girl just because already 30

Katherine 1:16:20
I didn't I went with my gay best friend. So there's no kissing

Scott Benner 1:16:23
her gay best friend. Alright, so your is your gay best friend sing very loudly and embarrass you just like so we can really embrace the stereotype and figure out why your blood sugar went up like 20 points. Did you get excited?

Katherine 1:16:35
I mean, I was dancing. Okay. Alright, so it could have done it. So you get a little

Scott Benner 1:16:39
bit of I mean, a rock to call it a rise from 100 is really, it's bold, honestly, because you went from like, 100 to 120 that you leveled right out again. Did you eat in here too?

Katherine 1:16:48
I did. What'd you eat? Um, there was bread salad, chicken. And like green beans. And potatoes was wonderful.

Scott Benner 1:16:58
You got your I'm going to call this a spike at like 10 o'clock, but it only went to like 135. And then did you correct that? No. So it all caught up to you around midnight? Yeah, you fell from 135 to 70? Over like a two hour period from like 11am to 1am. Did you have to catch that? Or did it level at 70 on its own? No it leveled on so yeah, we're winning Catherine. Okay. Sat, got it sat like that till 3am. You got a little bit of a rise where you went back to 100. And then it's 6am. We got a bumped to 120 then it comes down but then it jumps at seven. Is that breakfast?

Katherine 1:17:44
Um, yeah, kind of it was around like 738 two dates. And I thought I did the right insulin amount. But I didn't. I was going in school.

Scott Benner 1:17:54
Catherine, you're we're all sad now because you spiked to 150 at lunch at breakfast and finally came back down to 80 and got stable again. And wait, hold on. This is the most important question. Your prom was on Sunday.

Katherine 1:18:08
I know it wasn't my prom. It was my friend's prom. I don't know what they were thinking that.

Scott Benner 1:18:14
I'm saying. Who doesn't like that? Catherine. I don't mean to get off topic. But why would you make the prom on a Sunday? Oh, I know what it's about. They make the kids come to school the next day are no.

Katherine 1:18:26
Juniors, no, juniors, no senior? Seniors? No, juniors? Yes.

Scott Benner 1:18:31
This is to stop kids from having sex and doing drugs. That's why they're doing it. Probably yeah. No. We don't have to worry about that for you. Right? Because you're good. Just in case you're diabetic. And well, I was gonna say because your case your parents, listen, you should say no. Obviously, I don't do drugs or have sex like you. If you just want that. slip that in somewhere you can if you want. Because I'm assuming your parents gonna listen at some point. By the way, after your parents listen to this. I assume they're gonna call the cops on me. But you're 18 There's nothing they can do about it. Alright, so then we have a spike here. Again, we're calling we're calling 160s spike on me. All right. So Catherine, is it fair to say we have your Basal pretty good. We are very good. I would say we've. But we've learned that you're not as good at bolusing for meals as you want to be. But you're not terrible, either. And I'm going to call these spikes at meals better than the ones over the last couple of days. Do you agree with that? Yeah. All right. So what are you learning about bolusing for meals?

Katherine 1:19:32
Pre-Bolus time and how much? Okay, where we're waiting too long. For Pre-Bolus.

Scott Benner 1:19:38
Yeah, well see before your Pre-Bolus is we're kind of meaningless because you'd never be Basal. Yeah, you could probably Pre-Bolus forever before nothing happened. Am I right about that? Yeah, but now we have a better mix. So, first couple days we had a little trouble because your meals were a little heavy. insulin wise, but you look like I mean, you look like you're fine. To be perfectly honest with you, I think a week from now you're gonna have a incredibly stable line. Do you feel like you understand enough to keep going or do you want to keep Telia for a while?

Katherine 1:20:16
No, I think I understand enough to be able to, to even that line out. No mountains.

Scott Benner 1:20:21
Yeah. Are you proud of yourself?

Katherine 1:20:24
I am very proud of myself.

Scott Benner 1:20:25
Good. Good. You should be this is really astonishing. This graph you just sent me is significantly better than even just the ones from a couple days ago. Because I'm looking back at oh my god yesterday 9:50am. You were still real choppy during the waking hours. You were it was choppy within a good range. Like you were like between 70 and 140. choppy, but you were still going like at 150 Back to at 130 said like you were still up and down, up and down. But this last day is really impressive and overtop of this person's prom, too. I'm really proud of you. This is excellent. Good for you. Thank you. You're welcome. All right. Is there anything else I can fix in your life versus all you got that you need?

Katherine 1:21:13
I think this is it so far.

Scott Benner 1:21:15
Sure. You don't have any passion questions or nothing like that. You want to figure out who the who is before we leave or? I mean, we're done. Katherine, I basically, I, you know, basically, you're good to go. You're, you're doing amazing. You're gonna I assume you'll text me in about a week, and show me a 24 hour graph, where you don't go below 70 or over 120. And you're gonna be like, I got it, Scott. Yep.

Katherine 1:21:42
Yeah, that's the plan.

Scott Benner 1:21:43
Oh, my God, Catherine. I feel like we're I feel like we're connected now.

Katherine 1:21:49
Are like best friend. At the very also here truly.

Scott Benner 1:21:53
I don't want to I don't want to like, like, I'm not reading people. But I interviewed Charlotte Drewery. The other day. Do you know who she is?

Katherine 1:22:02
Yes. She got right before the Olympics, right? Yeah,

Scott Benner 1:22:05
she and I got along so well. She might be my best friend. You might have to be my second best friend or something. I'm okay with that. Yeah, want to hear a funny story? Sure. And then I'm gonna let you go. Because you gotta go. Okay. Okay, I interview Charlotte hour and a half, we have a lovely time. When I start the interview. If I'm being perfectly honest with you, I knew she was like, wanted to be in the Olympics. I didn't know what sport she did. I just kind of figured it out as we were talking. And at the end of the interview, like we're done, right, we stopped the recording. And, and she says, Would you like to meet my partner? And I was like, Yeah, sure. So this, this girl jumps on, and we start talking and everything. And a whole time we're talking I think to myself, back girl looks incredibly familiar. But I don't say anything. And we're just chatting about like their dog sitting or something. And that's what we're talking about. And blah, blah, blah, and we get off later. And like a day later, I think to myself, yo, I think that was Laurie Hernandez, the Olympic gymnast that I was talking to. And you want to know what it was? It was Catherine Oh my god. So so like, then I go to like Google, and I'm like Charlotte Drewery. girlfriend, right? And I'm like, Oh, my like, the whole world knows these two are a couple. I might be the only one who's unaware of it. Right? Like, literally US magazine articles called Laurie Hernandez and Charlotte juries relationship timeline. Like they're like, they're like, famous. And I was just like, so I texted her later. You don't think people mind if you just read their texts? I won't read her side. I'll read mine. I said, Do you think I'm the first person to be introduced the lorry without knowing who she is? Then I sit because later today I said earlier today I said to my wife, I think the trampoline girls partner was on TV. And then my wife's like, What do you mean? I'm like, girl just looks so familiar. I must know her from somewhere. And then last night, my daughter pulls me aside and she's like, Are you an idiot? And I said it's possible. Like it's possible. I am. She was that girl's got like a couple of metals. She's like, look at her. You know who that is? Right? And I was like, oh, yeah, I do. Anyway, anyway, Catherine, are you impressed by this? Like, if Laurie Hernandez would have popped up on the screen was Charlotte, would you have been like, like, Would you like gone crazy and been like, oh my

Katherine 1:24:39
god, I would have been like, starstruck. I really feel like I'm stupid.

Scott Benner 1:24:44
Although, although Charlotte and I had a nice conversation afterwards, because like I told you, we're friends now. And and she said she actually found it refreshing that I didn't want to talk about any of the things that other people want to talk about whether you know me, I'm just sort of like I Talk about the things that I find. Oddly interesting. So, all right. Catherine, do you have any questions about your blood sugar remaining? No, thank

Katherine 1:25:08
you. You're welcome.

Scott Benner 1:25:10
You are so freaking. Are you in my Facebook group? No, I don't have Facebook because you're young. Yeah, you follow me on.

Katherine 1:25:18
I'm not a big social media person. I do follow you on Instagram, but I don't always check Instagram.

Scott Benner 1:25:23
Do I follow you back? I don't think so. I'm gonna follow you back right now while we're talking. Don't tell. Okay, when people don't know your Instagram handle is.

Katherine 1:25:32
That's fine. I won't accept them anyway, if they try to follow me.

Scott Benner 1:25:35
Arden goes, your people try to follow me. I don't even know what that means. what's your what's your handle? How can I find you?

Katherine 1:25:42
Catherine with a k, k th, k t h e r i n e. And

Scott Benner 1:25:47
I'm smart by the way to spell your name. After hearing I couldn't figure out who Laurie Hernandez was when she was three inches in front of my face. Alright, are you

Katherine 1:25:57
might have an underscore. Like after the Gibson

Scott Benner 1:26:02
dance incorporated isn't the thing. Yes, I follow you back. Now if you don't accept my follow. I mean, I'm not gonna be hurt, I'll understand. But, but I'd like to be able to kind of keep up with what you're doing. It'll make me feel like like I have some connection here because I am interested to see how you do. And I am going to I'm going to be about your, your handle because you used your last name and nobody needs to know who you are that much. Yeah, you are terrific. I found you to be incredibly just fun to talk to. I thought it was really impressive. When you were basically in the middle of telling me I'm doing really great with my diabetes. And I said, I don't think you are and you were just like, Wait, what if I didn't find or get weird or odd. I was just very impressed with how you handled the whole exchange. Your parents must be very proud of you. If they're not they're making a mistake.

Thank you. You're very welcome.

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